What you wish you learned in sex ed

Anya_K · 23-12-11 10:00:11

Just Stumbled across this article;

http://jezebel.com/5860116/what-do-you- … -in-sex-ed

It struck a lot of cords with me, i remember in our sex ed classes it was all about looking at horrible STD pics and really scary videos of childbirth and also this really weird one where a family just sat around and ate breakfast naked.

"Teaching that sex might actually be satisfying, and that it's okay to think about what kind you might want as well as how to protect yourself from its consequences, is pretty uncommon."

I think sex is awesome and fun now, but back at the start of it all it was so confusing and hard to figure out. I wish they would make it ok for teachers to be positive about sex in schools, instead of being all negative, teaching abstinence and hating on the experience.

blissed · 23-12-11 11:48:39

Dom started a thread about sex ed with some interesting points and highlighting the work of Al Vernacchio. You can read about him and see a video of him in the thread too. http://forum.ifeelmyself.com/forum/view … p?id=10517

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WLV612 · 23-12-11 12:48:13

Didn't have sex-ed when I was in school. Wasn't a topic for discussion. So anything would have been better than nothing. Oh, we were told masturbation would make you go blind.

Anya_K · 23-12-11 12:54:34

Lol I guess all the girls here missed that class, probably snuck off to have a maz in the bathrooms

dom1299 · 24-12-11 05:24:03

There is sex-positive sex-Ed out there. Check out Our Whole Lives. http://www.uua.org/re/owl
My kids are all taking it.

Anya_K · 24-12-11 09:04:31

That does look pretty comprehensive but what I liked about the article I linked at the top is that they are teaching how to enjoy sex, not just about self esteem and safety but about the adventure and exploration of it.

WLV612 · 24-12-11 21:11:35

Anya_K wrote:

That does look pretty comprehensive but what I liked about the article I linked at the top is that they are teaching how to enjoy sex, not just about self esteem and safety but about the adventure and exploration of it.

Self esteem or lack thereof, hinders the enjoyment and sadly, many, many people were taught that enjoyment and exploration of sex lowers self esteem. Not just in the context of a sexual persona but in every other facet of a person's life.
IFM promotes enjoyment and exploration and no one has ever been condemned for expressing a like/desire as long it's done within site guidelines.
This is as well adjusted group of perve's as you'll find the world and they've made a difference in my life.
Hell, the humor and wit alone are worth the membership. Just look at Viva's post on the, "My Finger Slipped" thread. That's priceless.

Scottblueeyes · 24-12-11 22:52:14

Sex ed in high school was pretty comprehensive on the information side, lots we needed to know about safe sex, be comfortable with our sexuality, and be open to others. It helped to take judgement out of it, and I remember a classmate being able to be completely frank with the teacher and ask "I'm not going to get pregnant from a blowjob, am I?". But nothing about pleasure.

I personally couldn't get enough of sex ed, still can't (multiple orgasms? what is that really like???), so followed it through into freshman year in college. I remember vividly the first day where they showed "desensitization" video's: Men masturbating, Women masturbating (believe me, it was NOTHING like IFM, and frankly didn't look like much fun at all for the "talent", more of a "gawd, I'm getting paid for this, there are all these camera's, sure is bright and hot in here, and I better be able to cum, or I'll never work in this biz again"

Then we watched lesbian sex, gay sex, senior sex, and finally, plain old missionary man/woman sex. I remember the lights coming on in the 400 seat auditorium and no-one was meeting anyone else in the eye. We all shuffled out (probably to some private place). All honest, but pretty clinical. I don't remember anything in the class being about pleasure....

My real education was all self (and partner) taught. It took a couple years before I fully understood it was about giving not getting. If there was one lesson that I wish I had learned earlier, I wish it were that one. So much would flow from the simple "here is what makes a woman feel loved/pleasured. You do that, the rest will all follow".

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