Childhood fantasies and a mother's lap:

domC · 07-11-11 21:45:34

Not a lot of fetishes surprise me any more, but the ones that involve an extra psychological element still interest me, like this trend in Japan: http://www.mysinchew.com/node/65249

Personally, nothing freaks me out more than a stranger putting anything in my ear, but in Japan (who would have thought?) they've made a fetish out of it, in a way that would make Freud fan himself with girlish delight. So maybe I should dump my sensible career option and just open up one of these? I don't think I would have the stomach to actually pick things out of people's ears, but I could probably manage being a stern madam if I needed to.

blissed · 08-11-11 00:02:33

If yiou were a dentist your btreasts would occasionally brush against your customers forehead That's not really a fettish just a nice happy accident. And you'd get more money than ear cleaning. Ear cleanng would be fun when people ask what your job is until the novelty wore off and you'd heard all the clever responses and jokes a million times

I think it's nice if someone has a mild excuse for a bit of intimate contact when the option of seeing a sexy wonder worker for some unexcusable mild intimate contact doesn't exist.

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Nowaysis · 08-11-11 00:02:54

I want to click that link, because I'm curious, but I'm afraid to, because I've been scarred, and scared, by the internet before.

artemesia · 08-11-11 00:07:01

Haha- Nowayis, you've got nothing to fear! It's safe, I promise.

Nowaysis · 08-11-11 00:19:09

Yeah, I clicked it, it wasn't anywhere near half as bad as whatever it was I was imagining. It wasn't actually bad at all. Just kind of corky and very typically Japanese somehow.

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domC · 08-11-11 04:57:59

Yes: totally safe for work news article. Nothing to fear!

The accidental breast touching thing always catches me. On the one hand, I get annoyed when people take that sexually and I know that's a whole fetish in and of itself, but hey, women have breasts and sometimes they get in the way and sometimes they even touch someone else and that's not at all sexual on the part of the woman and women shouldn't constantly be sexualised and there for everyone else's gratification and blah blah blah... But, then, as soon as I get on my high horse, I have to admit I kind of like it when that accidentally happens, as well. And frankly, when similar things happen to me around men (hello male doctors who touch me in surprisingly gentle and vaguely erotic ways, while being entirely unsexual!) I get a bit flustered and a bit turned on. Breasts are just more prominent and less avoidable for some. Anyway: enough about my muddled morals and erratic ethics.

Finally: I'd rather just open up my ear scrapery and be done with uni than have to commit to another degree and learning about teeth. I'm pretty sure the owners of the ear joints make a pretty tidy sum and potentially put the salaries of dentists to shame. The girls, on the other hand, who knows? I bet they get tips, on top of dozens of sexual advances. The dynamics of places that offer services that are sexual without being full-services are pretty interesting - I love the lady they interviewed in this article insisting the service is not sexual in any way, despite their website looking like it belongs to a brothel.

artemesia · 08-11-11 07:40:58

Doesn't it just go to show how deprieved we are as a society are of touch? Gentle touch, friendly hugs, hair stroking, platonic handholding... I feel that a lot of peeps out there are missing out on these simple pleasures that don't need to be eroticised (or paid for). Yet instead, people have to go out and pay for these simple pleasures and I guess it's that energy exchange (monies for services) that leads to the creation of a sexual experience for some people??

I know that's not the feel of the article despite the focus on the lady's thighs, lap and light (implied diaphonous) clothing. That nourshing experience one would have from a mother or someone experienced in providing care is what paying customers can access and really, that's the last thing I experience when I goto the dentist Blissed.

blissed · 08-11-11 12:40:06

I think internally sexualising incidental touching at the dentist or ear cleaners is fine. And the mutual creating of that touch as part of flirting is nice too as long as yoiur sure it really is mutual. Objections go right to the heart of societies loose regard for female sexual consent. And loose regard for female sexuality. It's not the woman whos's loose, it's the society around her. Outside this forum and Dods and Ross "sex" is still largely not "sex" unless it's procreational. A study in the 60s found a third of women orgasm vaginally, a third need clitoral stimulation as well, and a third don't orgasm vaginally. I have a hunch that the same kind of figures would come from a study into male prostate stimulation with a dildo. If that is what society meant when it said "sex" and we got pregnant and were expected to be the main child rearers for decades after and I was continually asked randomly wether I wanted children, and girlfriends had bragged about fucking me so I got a "bad" name and so most other women would only fuck me for one night because I was loose and wouldn't be their property. And I'd been subjected to emotional deciet so partners could fuck me and society was fine with that kind of rape without violence. I might have a love hate relationship with sex and reservations about my incidental touching being sexualised.

So what to do. How about instead of just being cool with and not having any objections to LGBT lifstyles. Why not value the Sapphic experience for what it can teach men as a group. There's some lovely guys but on a society level somethings wrong and we need sexual admiration as our defining headline. If you sexually admire someone then you want them to enjoy their sexuality.

I'm up on my soapbox today sorry

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WLV612 · 08-11-11 13:31:56

Nowaysis wrote:

I want to click that link, because I'm curious, but I'm afraid to, because I've been scarred, and scared, by the internet before.

I'm with you all the way. Truer words.....

Scottblueeyes · 03-12-11 21:54:10

Hmmmmm..that triggers a memory....a while back I had a dental hygienist with beautiful red hair, and when she would work on the hard to reach parts, she would lean in and now and then her breasts would press gently against the side of my head. I wouldn't breathe when that would happen, hoping it would last. Just a gentle touch that I imagined she was not even aware of, but that I enjoyed for it's surreptitiousness. But now I hope that she was aware, and that it had intention, and it was her way of gently saying I enjoy being with you and touching you, but in a way that no one knew. A very nice memory.

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