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Xebeche

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Re: Are adult dating sites actually any good?

http://www.abadcaseofthedates.com/

If you have a bad date, read this site, and you'll feel better

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carstuff1000

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Re: Are adult dating sites actually any good?

Read it, great site, lots of humour and irony, enjoy. Thank you Xebeche.

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blissed

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Re: Are adult dating sites actually any good?

Just thought of a good name for a site where only women can choose.

The male order catalog.com

Corny? no I think it's brilliant!

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carstuff1000

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Re: Are adult dating sites actually any good?

I like it, I like wordplay. E.G. tea is for mugs.

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blissed

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Re: Are adult dating sites actually any good?

That;s pretty terrible I know a guy at work who does puns like that and they get quite painful after a while ha ha

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TZO2K10

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Registered: 11-10-10

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Re: Are adult dating sites actually any good?

So I'm a complete virgin, never even kissed or been kissed, and I want to change that. But, I'm not really one for the typical young adult social scene...I don't drink, I don't listen to any of the typical music genres, the only places I might accidentally meet a girl are like the library, or taking a walk in a park or something. I want to be proactive however, so I am considering writing a profile on some or other adult dating site but I'm not quite sure how to proceed, and I'm not really sure if they're worth the effort...any experiences anyone? I'm more interested in someone to play around with and have (sexual but not ONLY sexual) fun with...not a long term commitment, because I barely know anything about life even though I think I know everything. I feel like I'm too innocent and naive and I VALUE my naivety in some ways (lol I feel like that last bit is something a girl would be more likely to say) so I want to find girls that will respect that, I guess I would have to represent myself in such a way that people who wouldn't respect that would be turned off by my profile. Gosh I don't even know what I'm trying to say, so if you don't know either just answer the title question

Don't feel bad my friend, I lost mine at 22..To a woman who was 42! (It was a good thing! BelEEEEive me!) And as it stands I haven't had a *date in well over 10 years, but it's a curious thing as I don't miss it that much. As far as dating sites, I wouldn't know, as I'm an old-school internet anonymous type who shuns facebook and myspace!

* (Started when I cheated on a girlfriend and was my punishment that I gave myself, that lasted for over 10 years it seems LOL!)

You might want to definitely concentrate on dating others who are not party crowd as they are the total opposite, to what your interests are, not a crack on them as much as it would be like a science/Math nerd/geek (People of whom I Idolize!) hanging out with the La Costa Nostra! The key is finding and hanging out with folks who are much more accepting (Not tolerate, you do that with a buzzing fly!) of what you hold as sacred.

Try and test the waters with people of whom you think would find your ideas interesting, by bringing up your concerns in third person, hypothetically, and non committal if only to save embarrassment for both of you. I would try this before considering dating services..And a very golden piece of advise that you MUST take to heart; Do NOT come off as desperate, NOTHING chases away a potential lover than desperation, male OR female alike! And DO have confidence in yourself, In other words be comfortable with yourself, because it does not matter if they are attracted to you or not, because you are comfortable about who you are as a person, that is VITAL, that is the most important trait that men and women find mutually attractive in a partner!

Good luck to you, and I hope you find a kindred spirit as a partner and as a friend!

Last edited by TZO2K10 (11-08-11 07:02:00)

moldenke

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Re: Are adult dating sites actually any good?

I don't know if Elliot still reads this, but I wanted to reply back when this thread was going on but was not then a member (yes--I lurk at this forum when I'm not a member...).

Other folks have given pretty good advice in here, but I might recommend going to a place like literotica.com, where you can post sexual things on the Internet.  I have posted audio recordings of myself, and since then have gotten many, many responses from women who enjoyed them.  Many of the responses were anonymous, but a good percentage of them gave me email addresses to reply to, and a few of the women who responded even wanted to have some long-distance fun with me. 

That's why I would suggest this: because I eventually found someone to have phone sex with, and it was good for helping me break out of my shell a little bit.  Obviously, posting the audio recording in the first place was one step out of my shell, but finding someone to have orgasms with was another big step out. 

So: if you're still struggling to find women to explore sexuality with, this seems like a good start.  I definitely had a lot of emotional baggage associated with "penis-in-vagina," just like Viva's friend, and phone sex was good at breaking that down.

viva

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Re: Are adult dating sites actually any good?

Moldenke, if you enjoy making erotic audio recordings, have you considered contributing to SonicErotica.com?

moldenke

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From: Michigan

Registered: 01-11-08

Posts: 31

Re: Are adult dating sites actually any good?

Ha!  That would be awesome in a scary and fun sort of way.  I'm a guy, though...are you looking for guys on there?

Edit: just checked it out, and I guess you do want guys on there!  I'll have to make something for you--sounds like a great thrill!

Last edited by moldenke (13-09-11 03:50:22)

Lustful

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Re: Are adult dating sites actually any good?

I think those sites are probably mostly scam sites.

Don't be innocent going into that world.  You'll be seen as an easy mark.   There are a lot of cunning and hardened people into the casual sex thing.  Most won't care about your concerns--they'll be out for themselves.  Hell, most of them don't connect well with others.  It's the truth.

Don't let anyone seduce you and you don't owe it to anyone to disclose your true intentions and your history because they are not going to offer the same.  You better believe it!!

I'm telling you...  You better have boundaries and not give too much of yourself.  I feel a little silly talking about boundaries given the topic of casual sex.  Don't offer your trust upfront either to someone you're just getting to know.

I think you would be happier meeting a girl who is into you as a person.
Be strong.

Last edited by Lustful (25-09-11 11:43:12)