For the love of Dr Sheldon Cooper

ravenbarber2046 · 10-10-09 15:32:32

So, I’m a straight guy right, but I’ve got the hugest, hugest crush on the actor Jim Parsons and the character he plays on the US sitcom, ‘The Big Bang Theory’. All 188cm’s of the lanky, super nerdy dreamboat. I’m talking about thinking about him very often during the day, contemplating whether it would be a fantasy of mine to cuddle with him.

If Parsons isn’t your guy, I’d love to know from the ladies and guys alike of forms of male sexyness, or female sexyness, that might not fit the whole “People’s most beautiful people” mould. I personally find George Clooney pretty insufferable. I think that might be a strand in my personality about beautiful people who I get a sense are aware of their beauty, or who you know derive a lot in their personality from their beauty, or in some extreme sense might even be corrupted by it; well, the lustre surrounding them just dissipates almost immediately for me when I become aware of that, no matter how Helen of Troy-esque or Don Draper-esque they may be.

Might I add that Obama is a very particular form of sexy. I just love his laugh and smile. He just looks like a fun guy to be around. He looks like he could just charm the socks off of anyone. That also makes him a little suspicious in my books, but it all adds to the lustre of, "Who is this guy that I find so irresistable, but who is also a politician?" I’m pretty sure there are quite a few big boy crushes floating the globe with regards to Mr 44.

I was wondering if there were any other folks on the forum who might share my sentiments regarding Parsons. I’d particularly like to know if any straight women agree with me that he might be the sexiest man in the world. My dream is that we might get some Dr Sheldon Cooper erotica, or poetry going on this thread. I’m not good at poetry, so I’m not gonna try.

What makes Parsons so sexy is the wholehearted, asexual camp he throws into his depiction of the uncompromising, possibly Aspergers-afflicted and super genius Sheldon. The actor’s line readings are spiced with so many little ticks and a truly maniacal conviction that before any episode’s even reached the title song, I’m already putty in his hands. I especially love the surprising and different ways he manages to make his voice squeak when he is particularly confounded or delighted by something. For Sheldon, it is often the same feeling.
Maybe the thing I like most about Dr Sheldon Cooper is his asexuality, and the curious interest he takes in the hornyness all around him, especially that of his three close friends and fellow scientists.

I’m looking forward people’s responses to this thread, my first self-created one. Perhaps it can become a discussion, in true IFM form, about beauty in general, and what it actually means and how we relate to it. I am for instance interested in the opinions of other straight males and how they relate to female beauty around them in every day life and how often there is a sexual component to their reaction to someone who catches their eye. Is it possible to appreciate female beauty, especially if it is a “type” that gets you going, just as is?
How do women feel about that? Straight and gay? I am just fascinated about the selectiveness of attraction, and if one can rise above it, if one was that way inclined, of course.

Bring it on, folks.

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blissed · 13-10-09 11:32:56

ravenbarber2046 wrote:

So, I’m a straight guy right, but I’ve got the hugest, hugest crush on the actor Jim Parsons and the character he plays on the US sitcom, ‘The Big Bang Theory’. All 188cm’s of the lanky, super nerdy dreamboat. I’m talking about thinking about him very often during the day, contemplating whether it would be a fantasy of mine to cuddle with him.

Sounds like your mostly hetro but have some bi feelings.

ravenbarber2046 wrote:

I am for instance interested in the opinions of other straight males and how they relate to female beauty around them in every day life and how often there is a sexual component to their reaction to someone who catches their eye. Is it possible to appreciate female beauty, especially if it is a “type” that gets you going, just as is?

Ha ha there's nearly always a sexual reason why someone catches my eye :)
As to the types of beauty that catch my eye: The images of beauty we see (including from media) settle into our subconscious and from there effect our libido reaction, so in the same way that just seeking out your own preferences in porn can narrow the kind of beauty we react to and in extreme cases possibly make our real partner obsolete! :) being open minded and seeking out new types of beauty will widen the kinds of beauty we react to. I think we can also look at porn that relates to the appeal of our partner and increase our appreciation of them too.

So we can change the way our libido reacts but I think like any learning (brain rewiring) it's a fairly slow process, but a nice one though :)

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ravenbarber2046 · 13-10-09 13:01:22

blissed wrote:

ravenbarber2046 wrote:
So, I’m a straight guy right, but I’ve got the hugest, hugest crush on the actor Jim Parsons and the character he plays on the US sitcom, ‘The Big Bang Theory’. All 188cm’s of the lanky, super nerdy dreamboat. I’m talking about thinking about him very often during the day, contemplating whether it would be a fantasy of mine to cuddle with him.
Sounds like your mostly hetro but have some bi feelings.

ravenbarber2046 wrote:
I am for instance interested in the opinions of other straight males and how they relate to female beauty around them in every day life and how often there is a sexual component to their reaction to someone who catches their eye. Is it possible to appreciate female beauty, especially if it is a “type” that gets you going, just as is?
Ha ha there's nearly always a sexual reason why someone catches my eye
As to the types of beauty that catch my eye: The images of beauty we see (including from media) settle into our subconscious and from there effect our libido reaction, so in the same way that just seeking out your own preferences in porn can narrow the kind of beauty we react to and in extreme cases possibly make our real partner obsolete! being open minded and seeking out new types of beauty will widen the kinds of beauty we react to. I think we can also look at porn that relates to the appeal of our partner and increase our appreciation of them too.
So we can change the way our libido reacts but I think like any learning (brain rewiring) it's a fairly slow process, but a nice one though
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Thank you very much for your reply, Blissed. I was beginning to think this thread was DOA. Just to respond to some of the things you said:

I don't think I'm bi. It would be nice if that was the case, because it would open up a whole new avenue of possibilities. I have had problems courting the attention of women because I'm not the approaching type, or the laying down the gauntlet type, so a new avenue would be welcome. I fear though that projected confidence would still be required in this field, and it is something I feel profoundly uncomfortable with. I feel a person’s confidence really has little to do with their inherent “value”, but I'd wager a guess that I might be a minority in feeling this.
To return to the original subject, I think I would probably be hugely uncomfortable even if I was "bi" though, as it would disturb my sense of self. Approaching 30, you're just not that into surprises anymore. And maybe it's the "domineering", "straight" aspect of my being that won't tolerate deviancy from the trodden party line of my psyche.
I have tried, over the years, to distance myself a little from overt subjectivity, which has opened me a little bit more to appreciating beauty of more varieties, including male beauty such as I see it, but maybe I've also lost something in the process of pursuing a more "objective" outlook. It does strike me as a little sad. For every "gain", there is a cost, I think.

blissed wrote:

Ha ha there's nearly always a sexual reason why someone catches my eye

I like your forthrightness in admitting this. I might be a little more "tortured" ("Oh, the horror") by the whole concept of attraction than most, especially with regards to its fundementally selective and excluding nature, so it is always nice when I come across someone who doesn't share my affliction and just freely owns up to it.

blissed wrote:

being open minded and seeking out new types of beauty will widen the kinds of beauty we react to. I think we can also look at porn that relates to the appeal of our partner and increase our appreciation of them too.

I like very much what you're saying here. I think it is very beautiful.

Thank you again for your thoughtful response, Blissed. Very much appreciated.

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