Chlamydia helps young men feel more 'manly': Swedish study

ngaio · 31-08-09 03:58:39

http://www.thelocal.se/21622/20090822/

Yikes?

hyperballad · 31-08-09 07:06:56

Wow. That's really messed up... *frowns*

steveg2550 · 31-08-09 11:17:51

Pure craziness. It never fails to amaze me at how weird some people think.

The article was good reading. I understood the study. The guys use sexually transmitted diseases as proof that they have had intercourse.

Imagine showing off your genital warts as your badge of honor.

Around here, some guys use their women's pregnancy as proof of their manhood. They walk away smiling, leaving the unwed mother to fend for herself.

Wouldn't it be nice if those diseased stricken men, and the dead-beat dads, would instead prove their manhood by marrying a nice woman and raising a family?

One paragraph in that same article really caught my attention. It reads:

article wrote:

"The responses gathered by Hammarlund show that a girl fears she will upset a guy if she asks him to use a condom. Meanwhile, the guy doesn’t want to take out a condom first out of fear the action will show that he assumed he would be having sex even before the encounter began."*

Sadly, it is like that every where. To many times couples go without using a condom for the reasons stated above.

But there is hope. More schools are allowing sex education classes to be taught. And we all know that; Education is the key to everything.

ngaio · 01-09-09 04:22:57

steveg2550 wrote:

Wouldn't it be nice if those diseased stricken men, and the dead-beat dads, would instead prove their manhood by marrying a nice woman and raising a family?

Not quite sure I agree, I don't think marriage is necessarily the answer, having seen too many crappy marriages. I think a person can be responsable and have healthy relationships/families without marriage factoring into it.

steveg2550 wrote:

Imagine showing your genital wards as your badge of honor.

Haha, eep!

steveg2550 · 01-09-09 06:29:43

ngaio, you are right about how unstable marriages can be. Most of the happy marriages I've seen, has already turned to dust in some divorce court.

Much to our parents dismay, and some of our friends, my partner and I have decided not to get married for now. Neither of us really wants to take the chance of ruining what we have by the weight of matrimony. We have both helped to many friends through divorces. We would hate to see our relationship end-up on the chopping block.

It is a mystery to us why some wonderful relationships, turns sour a few years after marriage. Maybe it is just the area where we live. Something in the air?

But, even with that said, it would good if some of those crazy men, who thinks getting a sexually transmitted disease is a good thing, could settle down in a relationship.

Life would be much easier if the woman & child some men leave behind after their conquest, if they stayed together raise their child. Welll...it would be if the guy was a good man, and not a worthless jerk.

Marriage might not be the key. But I think everyone should have someone special in their lives.

I have seen some great marriages. Couples who really love the married life. Sadly, for others, it seems like the extra weight of being married can do more damage than good. I have no idea why that is.

BelgianDude · 02-09-09 17:41:53

I've heard my grandparents tell me a lot of stories about the time when divource was "not done", and lots marriages ended up in domestic violence... In that context, maybe divouce is the better of two evils. I am agreeing that everyone should have a special someone in his/her life, and grateful we live in a day and age where the social strain on a couple is dissolved in that manner. Like you guys said, two can have a awesome, long-term relationship without getting married.

The article is indeed creepy, but sadly, all too familiar. While in middle school (all boys on my school) it wasn't that of an exception to hear a guy bragging about what girl he banged that weekend, or even, as the article reads, what "souvenir" he got out of it. Such guys never really strook me as "intelligent", but they were there nevertheless and, there were quite a few.

article wrote:

"The responses gathered by Hammarlund show that a girl fears she will upset a guy if she asks him to use a condom. Meanwhile, the guy doesn’t want to take out a condom first out of fear the action will show that he assumed he would be having sex even before the encounter began."*

I don't feel ready for a long-term relationship just yet, or maybe I just haven't found someone who I could be with for a prolonged time yet. In that context, I admit that I switch partners quite often, in short-term relationships. To this date, I've never contracted an STD, and I'm quite grateful for that. In sex ed, the teacher drove it into our minds to always use a condom, and I always did... As for the awkwardness, well, whipping out a condom gets a lot easier if you're on the same level. I mean, with a simple "Wanna sleep over tonight?" while hanging out in the afternoon, a lot of these problems may be solved, because then both partners already know what's coming, and in that situation, it isn't that weird to have some protection at the ready. Maybe they should talk more about communication in sex ed?

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