voyeruism

bcj5308 · 11-06-09 22:29:45

My wife has voyerristic tendancies in the sense that see enjoys being watched as we have sex. As of yet, noone has seen us. Thus far it's just the IDEA of someone watching us. For example, we have made love in hotel rooms with the lights off and the widows open (ie: noone can see in but she get's the SENSE that they can). Many times that I have gone down on her in our bedroom she will stop to go open the blinds to our room. She has mentioned that one of her recurring sexual fantasies is for me to be performing oral sex on her on a table while several nameless, faceless people watch. I find this fasination of her's extremely arousing.
My question is this: should I attempt to make this fantasy of her's come true? If so, how?

blissed · 11-06-09 22:43:39

Welcome to the forum bc. You could set up a webcam, she wouldn't know if it was on or not and there could be huge numbers of people watching her. You could blindfold her and drive her to a place outside where you can hear people all about but no-one can in fact see you, the roof where I used to work was like that. A webcam seems like a good idea tho or a submission to beautiful agony. http://www.beautifulagony.com/public/main.php

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catalinamaria · 03-07-09 12:15:52

My one time bf and myself did it in public in a club. I loved the experience. I ended up making love with another woman who was there. We both had such a powerful orgasm. Being watched turned me on so much though I was somewhat nervous at the beginning. We did it in a porn cinema too. But the first experience was by far the best.

sensuality007 · 21-07-09 09:59:47

have you had the opportunity to repeat this orgasm with an other woman after that day?

gala · 29-07-09 08:30:38

I may steer this conversation in a slightly different direction, but I think that's alright because right now its inactivity is steering it towards the archives. It's also a little misplaced because I believe that the original poster is talking about exhibitionism, not voyeurism. But anyway, it's an apt subject line, so here we are.

From what I can gather, one of the most popular styles of voyeurism among the members of IFM is that 'private show' sort of thing. The feeling that the contributor is doing something specifically for you, that you're there with her, etc. I've had this comment made about my work and I've seen lots of other contributors getting the same.

Then you have others, like myself, who are more interested in the distance between them and the subject of their gaze. I don't want her or him to know that I'm watching. When I fantasize about someone, I do not put myself in the fantasy at all - it's simply one dimension, them doing what they're doing, and that's it. The idea of someone performing for me is very much a turnoff, let alone me breaking into their own sexual space with a gaze or a touch. I prefer that they don't acknowledge my presence in any way and I don't wish to interact with them at all. The IFM videos (and other sexual media) that I appreciate the most are the ones in which the camera is address either with a very cool and disaffected tone, or not at all. That being said, I enjoy making things in which I address the camera, but it's more like I'm addressing myself and making a sort of self-contained loop, not that I am addressing the viewer in any way. I see the camera as a reflexive thing, mostly - not as a portal to an audience. Unless I'm intentionally making something for a particular person.

I spoke with Gina Cherie the other day about voyeurism and I think she has more of my own sentiments on the matter - she told a story about going to a sex party and just watching. She found watching other people who were totally wrapped up in their thing to be really sexy, but I wonder how she would have felt if they involved her in some way, even just with a gaze.

I suspect that there are other ways of watching beyond the two I've mentioned here, and I'd be keen to hear from folks who employ them in enjoying IFM, or any other porn you like.

bifford · 29-07-09 20:01:56

I've always been a big fan of woman touching themselves. First time my wife did it sent me over the moon. What better way to find out how to touch a woman then watching them touch themselves? You can talk, but sometimes that can be awkward to a girl. I wish I could see what the girl is seeing in her mind when she touches herself

378378john · 31-07-09 03:22:24

You are exactly right- to watch is one thing to be watched is another- I love to watch or see thing [like an upskirt which is accidental] and the one being watched is NOT aware of it.

gala wrote:

I may steer this conversation in a slightly different direction, but I think that's alright because right now its inactivity is steering it towards the archives. It's also a little misplaced because I believe that the original poster is talking about exhibitionism, not voyeurism. But anyway, it's an apt subject line, so here we are.
From what I can gather, one of the most popular styles of voyeurism among the members of IFM is that 'private show' sort of thing. The feeling that the contributor is doing something specifically for you, that you're there with her, etc. I've had this comment made about my work and I've seen lots of other contributors getting the same.
Then you have others, like myself, who are more interested in the distance between them and the subject of their gaze. I don't want her or him to know that I'm watching. When I fantasize about someone, I do not put myself in the fantasy at all - it's simply one dimension, them doing what they're doing, and that's it. The idea of someone performing for me is very much a turnoff, let alone me breaking into their own sexual space with a gaze or a touch. I prefer that they don't acknowledge my presence in any way and I don't wish to interact with them at all. The IFM videos (and other sexual media) that I appreciate the most are the ones in which the camera is address either with a very cool and disaffected tone, or not at all. That being said, I enjoy making things in which I address the camera, but it's more like I'm addressing myself and making a sort of self-contained loop, not that I am addressing the viewer in any way. I see the camera as a reflexive thing, mostly - not as a portal to an audience. Unless I'm intentionally making something for a particular person.
I spoke with Gina Cherie the other day about voyeurism and I think she has more of my own sentiments on the matter - she told a story about going to a sex party and just watching. She found watching other people who were totally wrapped up in their thing to be really sexy, but I wonder how she would have felt if they involved her in some way, even just with a gaze.
I suspect that there are other ways of watching beyond the two I've mentioned here, and I'd be keen to hear from folks who employ them in enjoying IFM, or any other porn you like.

378378john · 31-07-09 03:28:09

The reason men are reported as 'enjoying girl on girl' to the degree that we do I feel is one of research and learning: Who knows what is liked best by women than another women herself? How many times have I [without disclosing that it is an observed method or tech] tried something on my lover which I had seen a lady perfoem on another lady... Men have a hard time being naturally creative, and women are not as forthcoming in saying what is better or best...so this thing I speak of works very well. Many times I will get the comment later, "where did you learn that?" In earlier days [gf] I would say I "made it up" but with a long-term lover [wife or equiv] to say where it came from has been noted as a turn on...and if not, surely no a turn off.

drdavidh · 31-07-09 15:21:22

378378john wrote:

The reason men are reported as 'enjoying girl on girl' to the degree that we do I feel is one of research and learning: Who knows what is liked best by women than another women herself? How many times have I [without disclosing that it is an observed method or tech] tried something on my lover which I had seen a lady perfoem on another lady... Men have a hard time being naturally creative, and women are not as forthcoming in saying what is better or best...so this thing I speak of works very well. Many times I will get the comment later, "where did you learn that?" In earlier days [gf] I would say I "made it up" but with a long-term lover [wife or equiv] to say where it came from has been noted as a turn on...and if not, surely no a turn off.

Same sex interactions does not always equate with knowing what your doing when it comes to sex. Not all men have a hard time being naturally creative.

krinsh · 31-07-09 18:07:10

bcj5308 wrote:

My wife has voyerristic tendancies in the sense that see enjoys being watched as we have sex. As of yet, noone has seen us. Thus far it's just the IDEA of someone watching us. For example, we have made love in hotel rooms with the lights off and the widows open (ie: noone can see in but she get's the SENSE that they can). Many times that I have gone down on her in our bedroom she will stop to go open the blinds to our room. She has mentioned that one of her recurring sexual fantasies is for me to be performing oral sex on her on a table while several nameless, faceless people watch. I find this fasination of her's extremely arousing.
My question is this: should I attempt to make this fantasy of her's come true? If so, how?

Yes.....yes, do this for her.

You would not have posted this for all of us out here to see if you also were not aroused by this delicious fantasy your wife has.

She would never reveal this to you if she does not love and trust you implicitly.

Take her to a wonderful Hotel........sumptuous.....sexy.

Make love to her with the door slightly open.............see what happens.

I would love to offer my services as being a "watcher"!!

bcj5308 · 01-08-09 19:20:38

I'm interested is discussing this possibility ... in some way. Let's keep the dialouge going.

krinsh wrote:

bcj5308 wrote:
My wife has voyerristic tendancies in the sense that see enjoys being watched as we have sex. As of yet, noone has seen us. Thus far it's just the IDEA of someone watching us. For example, we have made love in hotel rooms with the lights off and the widows open (ie: noone can see in but she get's the SENSE that they can). Many times that I have gone down on her in our bedroom she will stop to go open the blinds to our room. She has mentioned that one of her recurring sexual fantasies is for me to be performing oral sex on her on a table while several nameless, faceless people watch. I find this fasination of her's extremely arousing.
My question is this: should I attempt to make this fantasy of her's come true? If so, how?
Yes.....yes, do this for her.
You would not have posted this for all of us out here to see if you also were not aroused by this delicious fantasy your wife has.
She would never reveal this to you if she does not love and trust you implicitly.
Take her to a wonderful Hotel........sumptuous.....sexy.
Make love to her with the door slightly open.............see what happens.
I would love to offer my services as being a "watcher"!!

krinsh · 02-08-09 04:51:09

Yes,

Did you receive my previous response??

aven frey · 09-08-09 12:41:40

Bcj, I would suggest asking your wife if she indeed wants this fantasy to be played out in real life. Often sexual fantasies only work in ones head and I know personally I have many that I would NEVER want to happen in real life, that's the fun thing about imagination. The only way to know is to talk to her about it.

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