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Hi folks
One thing that I regret is that all models are in their 20's. No mature ladies (45 up) unfortunately.
Please................
Frits
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Spangles and Greta are a few that come to mind but I know we have more, anyone else?
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well, when women get past 45 the more likely she's decided to settle down, sex drive starts slowing down, bodies start losing their shape which can negatively affect self esteem... all things that might make an older woman less likely to make a video like these.
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Yes there are plenty, perhaps you haven't looked very hard. But they are not models.
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I don't think it's necessarily true that a woman is more likely to 'slow down' past the age of 45, and I can think of evidence to the contrary. I do agree that there are perhaps a few more things about being older that might keep women from contributing here, including personal risk - they do come from a different generation, after all, and the 'standards of the community' are perhaps not the same for them as they are for those contributors in their early 20s.
I said it on the BA Forums in regards to the smaller percentage of older contributors, and it's applicable here: if you have any ideas on how we can convince folks who are told that their sexuality isn't worth as much as it used to be that it still actually is, we're all ears.
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I don't think it's necessarily true that a woman is more likely to 'slow down' past the age of 45, and I can think of evidence to the contrary....
...... if you have any ideas on how we can convince folks who are told that their sexuality isn't worth as much as it used to be that it still actually is, we're all ears.
LOL! I know it's true that many women don't slow down, in fact at mid-thirtys they seem to speed up, and many just keep accelerating into their 50's and beyond from there -and I have direct, on going, "hands on" evidence of that! Mature women can sometimes be a bit much really... and a reason to stay in shape.
I have found that mature women who have "found" their sexual selves do not have too many problems with their sexual self worth or need too much convincing of anything...assuming they have a desire. But remember, the older you get, the more priorities you have in your life, IFM might be for some another one of a million things they think about doing but don't have time for.
I do think some women get older never really breaking away from the puritanical (for lack of a better term) ideas of previous times. And many only begin discovering themselves later in life.
If they do break away, they face internal struggles common to any inner discovery. I think anyone who has "awakened" to sexual aspects of themselves they never knew existed (-like that they get hot from the idea of people watching them turning on??), or who has become honest with themselves about something they had resisted (GLBT-swinging-poly?), can appreciate that all that discovery can come with some confusions and anxieties. Here, just having a talk about that, and sharing stories, exploring motivations and values may help.
Keep in mind that up to and including the sexual revolution of the 1960's, there is a significant difference in sexual attitude "baggage".. a generation gap... it seems the younger set now has it way simpler in some (not all) ways.
There seem to be roughly three groups of mature women (40-???) I have met:
1) June Cleaver, still lives in Pleasantville, it's the 1950's sexually, and sex is bad, something to fear and pray to keep from feeling, may be a crusader against sex education, etc. Or they have the sex is bad attitude and are completely apathetic.
2) Many, many women who due to a seperation, a divorce, a death, an illness or some other thing later in life who decide that life is too short, and sexually speaking they are mad as hell they lost time to uninspired sex or lousy lovers or stupid sexual myths and repressons and are not going to take it anymore! They decide to proactively reclaim their sexual identity and power. But sometimes it can be scary for them, bless their hearts. Sometimes a bumpy road but they will not turn back. Many times they have other life issues too, like entering the job market for the first time, being on their own, etc, etc, etc. A busy time.
3) A few women that were lucky enough to have either overcome a lot of society BS early on, often in their 30's, or are the even luckier few who had always been seekers, have always embraced their sexuality and power. For this zesty group, the world is their oyster! Mostly...lol! For these women, its not about if they are worthy enough for something...it's about if something is worthy enough to justify their scarce time and attention.
Anyway, a suggestion:
We looked at the IFM site from the frame of mind of a woman who wanted to contribute, we do not see any very enticing or easy way to do that.
So we think it would be nice if you had a little:
"Women, want to share? Here's how!"
...button, with a link to a page that explains how to get in touch, or how to submit a homemade video, and tips for doing that. (Homemade video's seem like a natural fit for more mature women because of the comfort factor.)
So setting up something easy, simple, fun and EASY TO FIND (a bit like a "submissions" page on a writing, poetry or art site) might help.
Remember, a few in the older generation are still not comfortable with computers, making the mechanics easier would be a big help we think. My own SO (bi-48) does not have that much patience with computers (although she loves this site.)
Since IFM first started there have been a lot of posts and threads here by people wishing for more contributions from mature women, and I have expressed my support for that before, my SO and I share that. So, we definately think women 40, 50 and over will be appreciated...very much! Women that have seen... it all... are hot!
We would really like to hear any mature women speak to this!!!
"I always have a wonderful time, wherever I am, whomever I'm with." ~Elwood P. Dowd
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Hi folks
One thing that I regret is that all models are in their 20's. No mature ladies (45 up) unfortunately.
Please................Frits
Perhaps someone could ask Ailith http://www.ishotmyself.com/public/view_ … he_wildone if she wants to do an IFM, if she hasn't done one already.
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fritsdijk wrote:Hi folks
One thing that I regret is that all models are in their 20's. No mature ladies (45 up) unfortunately.
Please................Frits
Perhaps someone could ask Ailith http://www.ishotmyself.com/public/view_ … he_wildone if she wants to do an IFM, if she hasn't done one already.
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Ah ............... you saw her too
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I don't think it's necessarily true that a woman is more likely to 'slow down' past the age of 45, and I can think of evidence to the contrary. I do agree that there are perhaps a few more things about being older that might keep women from contributing here, including personal risk - they do come from a different generation, after all, and the 'standards of the community' are perhaps not the same for them as they are for those contributors in their early 20s.
I said it on the BA Forums in regards to the smaller percentage of older contributors, and it's applicable here: if you have any ideas on how we can convince folks who are told that their sexuality isn't worth as much as it used to be that it still actually is, we're all ears.
In terms of a population from which you can find individual contributors it is absolutely true. I can think of plenty of "evidence to the contrary" of individual cases of women who maintain high sexuality past 45, women who don't overcome sexual repression and blossom until later in their lives, etc. However, these are exceptions. There are always exceptions to a rule. I'm not speaking in biological terms on a case by case basis. I mean taking the female population statistically, the older they get the more likely any given woman might have experienced something that would discourage her from expressing herself sexually in a public manner.
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I mean taking the female population statistically, the older they get the more likely any given woman might have experienced something that would discourage her from expressing herself sexually in a public manner.
dandan, I can see how as one gets older, man or woman, the more possible (and even good) reasons one may accumulate to keep a low public profile, -and in all things, not just sexual display.
Also, men and women with enough of an exhibitionistic streak to put any nekkid pictures of any type on the internet are statistically a minority for all ages and genders, and no matter how sexually liberated they are.
Statistically speaking, when one considers the whole universe of erotic and "porn" sites, IFM itself is quite outside the mean, indeed they are singular in their unique aspects IMHO! So it seems to me thinking in statistical terms is not very valuable or illuminating in the context of IFM - or their ability to attract mature contributors.
Now... not only is there the phenom of all the MILF and other naughty sites started by older women all over the net, but there is the phenom that they are appreciated!!!!
Seems to me there are likely enough possible older contributors -if the sites I alluded to above are any rough indicator. I mean gee-wiz, how many mature contributors would it take?? There are only about 300 or so contributors total, of all ages, on the IFM site right now!
My hunch is it is more a matter of not enough potential mature contributors knowing that IFM even exists -than it is "slowing down" or esteem or body image. I can appreciate how these last two things could be blocks, especially for someone who has never done anything like this, or maybe even has never been "watched" by anyone except by their mate, but have secretly always fantasized about being watched and turning people on that way.
Gala..or anyone else... is IFM approached very often by older women wondering about contributing? When that happens, what seems to be the deal breakers? Is it always an esteem thing -or what you said in your post above??? My gf said she would "kind of" like to send something to IFM, but that she gets her "exhibition" fix already with our friends and at the club. She also said that putting something on the internet could result in a permanence she would not want. We wonder, do you ever get those reasons from others??
"I always have a wonderful time, wherever I am, whomever I'm with." ~Elwood P. Dowd
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Hi, thanks for your reactions.
(Bobby: I just watched Gretta (45) and she really is awesome!. Beatifull body, good shape (not skinny but nice and probably soft). She obviously had a great time with 2 orgasms in 11 minutes. And, as a man, I enjoyed it also for my personal satisfaction)
I hope that more mature ladies will respond by sending either their view on this subjet or by posting a clip.
Once again: I love women with experience in live
Frits
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