Orgasm Questions

hatton29 · 12-10-21 08:31:42

Hi I wonder if the Ladies of IFM could Explain or Expand , Share their Views on the Different Orgasms a women can achieve what they prefer to have and how often ?

Example - Clitoral Orgasms , G-Spot Orgasms , Blended Orgasms , Anal Orgasms , Squirting Orgasms , Cervical Orgasms , Nipple Orgasms, Coregasms , Sleep Orgasms, and of course Multiple Orgasms.

richard · 12-10-21 23:34:23

hatton29 wrote:

Hi I wonder if the Ladies of IFM could Explain or Expand , Share their Views on the Different Orgasms a women can achieve what they prefer to have and how often ?
Example - Clitoral Orgasms , G-Spot Orgasms , Blended Orgasms , Anal Orgasms , Squirting Orgasms , Cervical Orgasms , Nipple Orgasms, Coregasms , Sleep Orgasms, and of course Multiple Orgasms.

Some of the ladies are here because they enjoy the interaction, but you're asking them to entertain you here. So don't be too surprised if you don't get much in response.

hatton29 · 13-10-21 00:56:53

Hi apologies if it can across that way , is more out of curiosity and to understand from a woman’s point of view as I believe ladies have a far greater variation than men so that was not my intention I will delete the post shortly apologies if I upset or annoyed anyone

Mikaela · 13-10-21 01:02:07

hatton29 wrote:

Hi apologies if it can across that way , is more out of curiosity and to understand from a woman’s point of view as I believe ladies have a far greater variation than men so that was not my intention I will delete the post shortly apologies if I upset or annoyed anyone

Hey Hatton,

I am happy to talk about my experience and perspective of orgasms - I'll post about it very soon, just waiting for my coffee to kick in!

Mikaela · 13-10-21 02:28:03

I am super lucky to be able to experience orgasms in many different ways, however, these generally require a partner.

I most commonly have blended orgasms, particularly when I masturbate. I also orgasm from just penetration when I am having sex. I find these orgasms tend to be more intense in terms of contractions, and I feel them less throughout other parts of my body. Clitoral orgasms tend to come with a warm, fuzzy feeling that I feel in my entire body. An orgasm from penetration alone is often quite abrupt and almost violent.

I can also orgasm from anal sex - these are similar to blended orgasms in that I feel a wave of sensation throughout my whole body and intense contraction in my anus.

I loveee multiple orgasms - it's almost like once I have one orgasm, I just want more. My following orgasms tend to happen pretty quickly and easily, and then after several, I will become overstimulated and need a short break before resuming.

Squirting orgasms leave me feeling somewhat unsatisfied - I love the sensation but then I will need to have another orgasm with clitoral stimulation to feel like I am done.

On a more kinky level, I can also orgasm from receiving pain. These tend to be quick, intense, violent orgasms that have little to no warning. My partner can also get me to orgasm with certain verbal cues, and no touch. It's not an "on command" scenario, but if we are playing together and I am sufficiently aroused, he can elicit orgasms from phrases that he has conditioned me to orgasm to whilst just looking at me. These orgasms are quite subtle, and predominantly feature the fuzzy feeling of pleasure and warmth throughout my entire body, but not so much the contractions.

hatton29 · 13-10-21 03:15:42

Hi Mikaela
Thankyou for Sharing , Wow that is amazing sounds like you really know your body well.
With the Pain Orgasms and verbal is that an emotional Connection involved with that ?.

The Variety of Pleasure a woman can experience is Incredible.
I myself discovered around the age of 25-26 now 33 I was able to Experience Nipple Orgasms, with no Refectory Period and could switch to my Penis to do it the Regular way , that is kina my version of Multiple orgasms but I can only do one of each lol.
I think Ladies Get to have a Higher level of Orgasm That a man can not reach in terms of intensity , Duration and Multiple it fascinates me you are literally Designed for Pleasure well that's in my Experience From learning and witnessing my Wife and what she has and other Ladies have Told me what is your opinion ?

Mikaela · 13-10-21 04:03:39

hatton29 wrote:

Hi Mikaela
Thankyou for Sharing , Wow that is amazing sounds like you really know your body well.
With the Pain Orgasms and verbal is that an emotional Connection involved with that ?.
The Variety of Pleasure a woman can experience is Incredible.
I myself discovered around the age of 25-26 now 33 I was able to Experience Nipple Orgasms, with no Refectory Period and could switch to my Penis to do it the Regular way , that is kina my version of Multiple orgasms but I can only do one of each lol.
I think Ladies Get to have a Higher level of Orgasm That a man can not reach in terms of intensity , Duration and Multiple it fascinates me you are literally Designed for Pleasure well that's in my Experience From learning and witnessing my Wife and what she has and other Ladies have Told me what is your opinion ?

There definitely is a strong emotional connection required, it's not something I can just do with anyone.

That is so cool - I know males who can achieve orgasm through nipple stimulation.
I think that males are capable of achieving just as intense sexual experiences and that we are all designed to experience pleasure. However, in my experience, females tend to have to work harder to experience orgasms in general, and this could possibly cause them to focus more on learning how to experience pleasure in more and more ways.

For males, orgasms are pretty much guaranteed - therefore, there is less motivation to try and find novel ways to experience pleasure.

This is just my opinion of course. I have been with male partners who orgasms just as intense as mine, so I believe we are all capable of it, regardless of our anatomy.

privignus · 13-10-21 07:46:39

A few contributors are in to Tantra, Juniper_A is the one who comes to mind. I think it is Tantra which likes to classify orgasms based on what is being stimulated?

There is also a big difference between partnered orgasms and solo sex.

Mikaela wrote:

For males, orgasms are pretty much guaranteed - therefore, there is less motivation to try and find novel ways to experience pleasure.

I have said before that that is not true for me and might be linked to the idea that ejaculation is the same as orgasm. Marty Klein the therapist in California has heard things over the years which also make him doubt some parts of the Masters & Johnson model.

I am glad that you have a partner who pays attention to your needs! One cause of the orgasm gap might be that men are not socialized to attend to women's desires but women are socialized to attend to men's desires. I have seen surveys (and everyone lies about sex so YMMV) that women have a higher rate of orgasms from sex with other women than from sex with men.

Mikaela · 14-10-21 03:49:09

privignus wrote:

A few contributors are in to Tantra, Juniper_A is the one who comes to mind. I think it is Tantra which likes to classify orgasms based on what is being stimulated?
There is also a big difference between partnered orgasms and solo sex.
Mikaela wrote:
For males, orgasms are pretty much guaranteed - therefore, there is less motivation to try and find novel ways to experience pleasure.
I have said before that that is not true for me and might be linked to the idea that ejaculation is the same as orgasm. Marty Klein the therapist in California has heard things over the years which also make him doubt some parts of the Masters & Johnson model.
I am glad that you have a partner who pays attention to your needs! One cause of the orgasm gap might be that men are not socialized to attend to women's desires but women are socialized to attend to men's desires. I have seen surveys (and everyone lies about sex so YMMV) that women have a higher rate of orgasms from sex with other women than from sex with men.

Great point Priv - my comment was very much a generalised observation and this certainly isn't the case for everyone! I certainly know many males who have explored various pleasure pathways. I agree with the sentiment that orgasm is often linked to ejaculation. It almost seems like there is a requirement of proof that someone has had an orgasm, and that is the presence of ejaculate.

A huge part of my sexual experience is having the space to express what I need - I am polyamorous and my partners value communication over anything, which has led to absolutely awesome sex because we are able to express what we like and dislike, what works for us, and what we need, and have that respected.

I also think that there is so much emphasis placed on having to orgasm, which puts a lot of pressure on people. I know that before I learnt to orgasm, I always felt like I was letting people down because I didn't want them to think that I wasn't experiencing pleasure. Whilst I can orgasm relatively easily these days, I always preface new sexual interactions with a chat about how for me, orgasms aren't the only indicator of pleasure and that if it is doesn't happen, it doesn't mean that I am not experiencing pleasure. This helps relieve the pressure from both of us.

I believe another contributing factor to the orgasm gap is how sexual intercourse has been depicted in mainstream pornography - whilst some women can orgasm from penetration alone, clitoral stimulation is required for most, and traditionally, that wasn't depicted in porn etc. So people go into a sexual interaction with the expectation that a few thrusts will lead to orgasm, which simply isn't the case.

hatton29 · 14-10-21 09:47:32

For males, orgasms are pretty much guaranteed - therefore, there is less motivation to try and find novel ways to experience pleasure.

This is just my opinion of course. I have been with male partners who orgasms just as intense as mine, so I believe we are all capable of it, regardless of our anatomy.[/quote

Perhaps you are Right I have never understood the Orgasm gap.
I have been fortunate that all of my partners have been very multi orgasmic girls
Most of them communicated very well with what they wanted and what worked and some just knew there bodies very well.
I left after my first encounter with Sex thinking that girls have is so much better than guys I actually found it a turn on to be honest , I found the duration and intensity of a females orgasm to be far longer and intense that mine I Mean I don’t make those noises or get a red flush ? And the fact that girls would have repeated multiple orgasms made me feel like my pleasure was inferior to a woman’s the type of girls I have been with are such the likes of Glynn G , Sequoia , lady Love
I guess I just accepted it moved on and enjoyed pleasing a woman wear now I can not climax unless to woman has enjoyed the herself

alsbosilver · 14-10-21 10:54:22

Mikaela :

Hi Mikaela!

We can only thank you for your long messages which explain things so well and which prove how much you have both a sensitive and biological understanding and observation of your sexuality alone or with a partner.

There are many points with which I totally agree with you. In my long life as a heterosexual lover, but also as a man practicing masturbation, (alone or preferably in pairs) which is for me a fundamental act to understand oneself well and understand the other, I have noticed that many women do not really know how to talk about their desires, and they often let their partner do it without guiding them, without whispering to them what they like, which makes them enjoy the best.

Reaching an orgasm is indeed something very complex, at any age, if there are not fundamental words to be expressed together to achieve it. It's almost like a miracle every time that happens ... And yes I agree too when you value communication and you are very lucky to meet partners that you can live it with.

Thank you for your beautiful testimony!

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privignus · 15-10-21 04:28:38

Mikaela wrote:

I believe another contributing factor to the orgasm gap is how sexual intercourse has been depicted in mainstream pornography - whilst some women can orgasm from penetration alone, clitoral stimulation is required for most, and traditionally, that wasn't depicted in porn etc. So people go into a sexual interaction with the expectation that a few thrusts will lead to orgasm, which simply isn't the case.

I am confused and wonder where those misconceptions come from! I never saw them in culture. Maybe teenagers are going to read Seventeen and Playboy, and get some weird ideas from people who don't know anything or have something to sell, but once they start having partner sex they are going to learn what their actual partners like right? Often people's first partner is more experienced than they are. And the time when Freudians were teaching people that P in V is the only real pleasurable sex are long ago! Its not the 1950s any more, Freud is as dead as eugenics!

One reason I stopped listening to people who give unsolicited advice to strangers is that many of them are fighting wounds I don't have.

I also find that getting fixed on causing an expressive orgasm (whether that is screaming or ejaculating) can make sex awkward and less fun.

Mikaela · 19-10-21 03:07:35

hatton29 wrote:

For males, orgasms are pretty much guaranteed - therefore, there is less motivation to try and find novel ways to experience pleasure.
This is just my opinion of course. I have been with male partners who orgasms just as intense as mine, so I believe we are all capable of it, regardless of our anatomy.[/quote
Perhaps you are Right I have never understood the Orgasm gap.
I have been fortunate that all of my partners have been very multi orgasmic girls
Most of them communicated very well with what they wanted and what worked and some just knew there bodies very well.
I left after my first encounter with Sex thinking that girls have is so much better than guys I actually found it a turn on to be honest , I found the duration and intensity of a females orgasm to be far longer and intense that mine I Mean I don’t make those noises or get a red flush ? And the fact that girls would have repeated multiple orgasms made me feel like my pleasure was inferior to a woman’s the type of girls I have been with are such the likes of Glynn G , Sequoia , lady Love
I guess I just accepted it moved on and enjoyed pleasing a woman wear now I can not climax unless to woman has enjoyed the herself

The orgasm gap is very real and very complicated. It's great to hear that your partners' pleasure is so important to you. I think it's important to acknowledge that orgasms and pleasure, in general, are extremely unique experiences. I have found that the obvious signs of orgasm don't always correlate with the amount of pleasure felt. I usually get a flush, even if I don't have an intense orgasm - it's just the way my skin works. I have a male partner who is exceptionally loud to the point we don't have sex in my house anymore because I don't want to disturb my housemates. In comparison, I think I am more on the lower end of the "noise" scale of orgasms.

I don't think of pleasure as being inferior/superior to another type - we all experience things differently, which is what makes us so interesting.

Mikaela · 19-10-21 03:11:36

alsbosilver wrote:

Mikaela :
Hi Mikaela!
We can only thank you for your long messages which explain things so well and which prove how much you have both a sensitive and biological understanding and observation of your sexuality alone or with a partner.
There are many points with which I totally agree with you. In my long life as a heterosexual lover, but also as a man practicing masturbation, (alone or preferably in pairs) which is for me a fundamental act to understand oneself well and understand the other, I have noticed that many women do not really know how to talk about their desires, and they often let their partner do it without guiding them, without whispering to them what they like, which makes them enjoy the best.

Unfortunately, it can be very difficult to voice needs and equally as difficult to have them acknowledged by another person, which contributes to apprehension around being able to tell a lover what you want. Particularly if this involves asking someone to change a technique, or tell someone that what they are doing isn't working.

It took me a long time to figure out what I liked - I hadn't realised my full potential for pleasure, so I was satisfied with what was happening. However, once I learnt what I was capable of, I also had to learn how to integrate this into a sexual experience to get what I wanted.

smoothed · 19-10-21 10:20:29

Mikaela wrote:

Unfortunately, it can be very difficult to voice needs and equally as difficult to have them acknowledged by another person, which contributes to apprehension around being able to tell a lover what you want. Particularly if this involves asking someone to change a technique, or tell someone that what they are doing isn't working.
It took me a long time to figure out what I liked - I hadn't realised my full potential for pleasure, so I was satisfied with what was happening. However, once I learnt what I was capable of, I also had to learn how to integrate this into a sexual experience to get what I wanted .

that's what's so frustrating and thrilling about sex - you get to discover what works for you and what doesn't, and even then these discoveries are not static or set in stone. the process of making these discoveries however can lead to frustration and a breakdown in communication. And, it takes a while to be aware of your own body, and to then communicate to a constant partner or a stranger what your body needs. So, many skillsets and particular dispositions needed for satisfactory sexual practices; and even then, there may not be orgasms yielded. just gotta learn to enjoy the ride! sometimes, it's just enough that someone likes you enough to be naked with you and to want you to be naked with them.

Last edited by smoothed (19-10-21 10:21:44)

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