female ejectulation - Gala

kerrag · 25-03-07 13:27:17

I think this is a question for Gala, but responses from anyone are welcome. In one of Gala's contributions, she (you ) talk about learning to ejectulate. My gf and I thought it was something you either did or dodn't and we're very interested in the concept that it's something you can learn.

Can you (anyone) say more? How do you learn it? ANd what is it exactly you ejectulate?
thanks

gala · 26-03-07 04:25:15

hi kerrag. welcome to the forum.

yes, ejaculation can definitely be learned. while the medical research about female ejaculation is not always very clear and you might hear conflicting things from different sources, i have read in a number of places that all women are equipped with the biological capability to ejaculate. some women do it without even trying, and others experiment with techniques and relaxation and positions to make it happen with varying degrees of ease/difficulty.

the best thing i can recommend to you is that you invest some time, energy, and possibly even some money if you and your partner want to explore female ejaculation. a google search will bring you to lots of information, but of course you'll have to wade through conflicting stories and sources you might not necessarily be able to trust. there are also lots of how-to videos and a few books on the g-spot and female ejaculation (though not all ejaculations are brought about by g-spot stimulation). there are also some toys that are specially designed to aid in that stimulation. if you want to hang tight a bit, i promised sharebear in the 'ifeelmyself.com' forum a list of resources as soon as i get time to compile one, so that should be able to point you to a few places.

http://www.ifeelmyself.com/forum/viewtopic.php?id=1222

but of course you can always go on your own quest for this. if you have more specific questions that i might be able to help you with, feel free to post here, on the thread i've linked to above, or email me privately. in answer to what you've already asked: i learned to ejaculate by trying. i spent loads of time online reading articles and checking out anatomy diagrams and reading about others' experiences, and managed to get some info about positions to try. the first time i ejaculated, i had a couple of pillows stacked underneath my hips because that allowed my partner to get a better angle on my g-spot. for a little while it was all about the position, but after i got the hang of it, my practices could be more diverse and still result in ejaculation.

i would say that the whole process was only 50% physical, however - i think there's a lot of mental/emotional stuff to deal with in learning to ejaculate. some folks are worried about making a mess. others are afraid of urinating, and so stop short when they have the feeling of pressure that is similar to the sensation you have when you've got a full bladder. some folks are afraid of how their partner will react (but you don't seem like you'll have that problem). so it's definitely a matter of relaxing and sort of retreating into the very minute details of how your body is feeling and what your impulses are.

the fluid itself can range from clear to cloudy in color, depending on the person. the way it comes out - as a steady stream, a strong gush, a trickle, etc. - also varies from person to person (you can see the variation even on our site - look at the difference between myself, jasmin, and ainslee (correct me if i'm missing anyone). it has very little odour and, unless you leave the wet towels on the floor for a few days because you're lazy and a slob, shouldn't even be noticeable after it dries. if your bladder isn't empty and your muscles are relaxed in 'release' mode, there's a chance that it may have some urine in it as well, which is why i usually go to the bathroom before i fuck if i can remember.

keep asking if you want to know more, and good luck with your partner. and don't be discouraged if it doesn't work at first or at all - not everyone who tries figures it out, and there are tons of other ways to have great sex. know when to stop if it's not working, as you can always go back and try again later.

i should really just write a long article or an FAQ.

kerrag · 03-04-07 22:17:07

hi Gala,

thanks for such a long and detailed reply.Can we ask a few more questions?

We've read that female ejectulation may or may not, be simply urine. your comments suggest, for you, it is not. Are we reading that right?

Does your orgasm feel different or stronger in some way, if ejectulation is part of it?

Can you ejectualte when you have a penis inside you?

Finally (for now!), is it something you can "do" or "not do", or is it now a standard part of coming for you?

We'll try web searches and a bit of playing - thanks for your encouragement!!

Desertgirl44 · 04-04-07 09:50:07

Hi Kerrag, hope you don't mind me jumping in here to answer your questions to Gala (and I hope Gala doesn't mind either). I can ejaculate when I have a penis inside me. It's only a trickle for me during intercourse, but I think that's more the psychological thing of worrying about urinating instead of an orgasm. When I do ejaculate during intercourse, my god it's so fucking awesome, the orgasm is incredibly, deeply satisfying. I feel utterly sated.

Orgasms without ejaculation are still fantastic and intense, they're just different to the ones where I ejaculate.

It was only last year when I began to experiment with ejaculation that I realized that all those times with my partner when we would laugh about how suddenly "wet and slippery" I was, that I worked out I'd actually been ejaculating with him inside me. When I masturbate I am able to (sometimes) produce much more ejaculate than during sex.

At this stage of my enjoyment of sex and ejaculation, I don't feel disappointed if I don't ejaculate. It's just extra nice if I do.

I hope that information is of some help kerrag.

mrcabinetman · 04-04-07 12:33:46

Hello Gala,

I finally got over here. I am not much of a technophile- I suppose more “functionophile”. Not a member of too many forums. In any regard, I am now here.

I am glad that Kerrag asked the question, because I have been wondering that myself. Among so many things that make you an “artist”, that is one of them. Personally, the most artistic aspect you have is verbal. You have the sexiest voice I have EVER heard. Sometimes it takes nothing more than that for me. Amazing.

Just stopped by to say hello.

Ever thought of France? What area of it holds your interest?

aven frey · 05-04-07 03:06:20

mrcabinetman wrote:

Hello Gala,
You have the sexiest voice I have EVER heard. Sometimes it takes nothing more than that for me. Amazing.

I have to agree with this and add there is something pretty special about the way she/you speaks.

mrcabinetman wrote:

Ever thought of France? What area of it holds your interest?

Um we kinda nabbed her first!

gala · 06-04-07 20:24:30

i'm going on a forum hiatus for a few days as i'm busy building a spacecraft that will take me to australia in 3.27 seconds, but i'll get back to these questions/comments soon. i'm sure others can fill in some answers as well!

xg

Will · 09-04-07 17:33:33

Can I borrow it from time to time?

julieb · 10-04-07 03:03:53

Desertgirl44 wrote:

I can ejaculate when I have a penis inside me. It's only a trickle for me during intercourse, but I think that's more the psychological thing of worrying about urinating instead of an orgasm. When I do ejaculate during intercourse, my god it's so fucking awesome, the orgasm is incredibly, deeply satisfying. I feel utterly sated.
Orgasms without ejaculation are still fantastic and intense, they're just different to the ones where I ejaculate.

I have been hesitant to get into the discussion because I'm not really sure if I ejaculate or not...... During intercourse or when hubby is 'manipulating' me during sex, I have found that even if I have gone to the bathroom before sex, I still get an really urgent feeling like I have to pee... I discovered a while back that if I use the feeling as a focus and center myself on the feeling, that this is when I have my best orgasms...... It also when I am the most sloppy...... I dont' remember feeling any stream however, just a lot of juice all over everything.....

So, is this ejaculating or not.... I'm was just wondering, not that it actually matters.......... it is all fun......

Last edited by julieb (11-04-07 04:38:42)

FLAman · 27-04-07 19:34:19

Recently I became more interested in this subject although, from a male perspective, it has intrigued me for many years. I still remember vividly the first woman I wa with who ejaculated while we made love. Feeling the warmth of her ejaculate has she exploded with several orgasms was very exciting to me.

Recently my best male friend talks about how he taught his lover to ejaculate. She does nothing but brag about the intensity of her orgasms. Sex between the two of them begins with a towel placed over the sheets.

I began doing research on the net and frankly learned quite a bit. Such an orgasm can be generated by massaging the G-spot. Several weeks ago I began experimenting my new knowledge with my wife, who previous to this had not expressed much satisfaction in G-spot stimulation. Her trigger had always been clitoral, not vaginal.

It did not take too long for the two of us to realize we had discovered something new. The stimulation brought her to a new, much higher level of excitement than I had seen in many years. At some point during the stimulation period her pussy dialated dramatically. The gush of juices commenced shortly thereafter. It was a cool experience. Took her several hours to return to ground zero.

tryggvi · 29-04-07 21:08:46

From what I've read, the chemical composition of the female ejaculate isn't the same as urine.

gala · 01-05-07 16:18:11

Ms Tardy-to-the-Party is slowly responding to everything on the Forum about FE, starting with this thread because it's smaller and less intimidating.

kerrag wrote:

We've read that female ejectulation may or may not, be simply urine. your comments suggest, for you, it is not. Are we reading that right?

Female ejaculate is chemically distinct from urine. I am not urinating when I have ejaculatory orgasms - I'm expelling ejaculate, which is composed primarily of prostaic fluid and glucose. There can be trace amounts of urine in ejaculate, but there are ways to prevent this to some degree. In my experience, I feel that I'm pusing with the same muscles I use to urinate, so I reckon it's just sort of a job hazard.

kerrag wrote:

Does your orgasm feel different or stronger in some way, if ejaculation is part of it?

Different, yes - stronger, not necessarily. Some ejaculatory orgasms I have are stronger than others. The 'strongest' orgasms I have are not ejaculatory. But I can be satisfied by having only ejaculatory orgasms - but usually I need to have had a lot of them to be spent enough to skip the last big one. It's also a matter of what I'm in the mood for - if ejaculation is really what I want, it can be more satisfying than other kinds of orgasms.

kerrag wrote:

Can you ejectualte when you have a penis inside you?

Not usually. It's kind of a like putting a cork in a bottle, as it prevents the flow from coming out. However, if I'm contracting quite hard, if I'm being fucked rapidly, or if there's only partial insertion, it's possible for me to ejaculate. I have seen women in porn ejaculate while being fully penetrated, though, so I'm pretty sure it's possible. What I tend to do is have my partner pull out because it feels the best to me if it's just sort of able to come out at full force, and I reckon it's nice for the cock strategically placed directly in the stream.

Yikes, this is getting explicit. But on forward in the name of education.

kerrag wrote:

Finally (for now!), is it something you can "do" or "not do", or is it now a standard part of coming for you?

It's something I can do or not do. Well, for the most part. Since I started doing it a couple of years ago, it has been a pretty standard part of my orgasmic experience, but there are times when you don't want to deal with the mess or when you're in your friend's apartment fucking in their roommate's bed. There are also times when I just can't ejaculate, and I reckon there might be any number of reasons why this occurs when it does. More often than not, though, I can ejaculate.

There are also times when I can't really turn it off. This would happen when I am really relaxed and really in touch with what's happening with my body, in that sort of heightened state of arousal in which restrictions are pretty much useless and things just take their course. There's also something about being in places where I really shouldn't be coming so much because it's not my house or because there aren't any towels around or because I'm going to ruin the finish on the floor. Feeling like you shouldn't be making a mess and then making one is immensely fun.

Sometimes it also has to do with the presence or absence of a partner. Sometimes I'm not that impressed with messy sex when I don't have anyone to share it with. But not always. Sometimes I'm a good enough audience.

kerrag wrote:

We'll try web searches and a bit of playing - thanks for your encouragement!!

How are you going so far? A great book on this topic is Female Ejaculation and the G-spot by Deborah Sundahl. Covers all the good stuff and gives you lots of how-tos.

gala · 01-05-07 16:28:44

julieb wrote:

During intercourse or when hubby is 'manipulating' me during sex, I have found that even if I have gone to the bathroom before sex, I still get an really urgent feeling like I have to pee... I discovered a while back that if I use the feeling as a focus and center myself on the feeling, that this is when I have my best orgasms...... It also when I am the most sloppy...... I dont' remember feeling any stream however, just a lot of juice all over everything.....

The sensation that you have to pee is a common sign that you are building up ejaculate and it's creating a pressure similar to having a full bladder. And many women just do sort of a trickle and don't even realise they're ejaculating. Ejaculate comes out at different rates in different amounts for everyone, so I reckon that's probably what you're experiencing. If you end up with a puddle, smell it - if it's relatively odourless or kinda musky or maybe even a bit sweet-smelling, it's ejaculate.

nihpuad · 02-05-07 00:38:54

gala wrote:

It's something I can do or not do.

<yoda>Do or not do; there is no try.</yoda>

Sorry, didn't mean to derail the thread... it's just that after reading "do or not do" two or three times, I just couldn't resist.

We now return you to your regularly scheduled female ejaculation!

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