how many makes a crowd?

privignus · 21-05-20 20:07:50

I don't have a lot of fantasies about group sex despite IFM's many wonderful friends videos.

I have been to some of those wandering live sex shows in Europe but they were not my thing and not an erotic experience, the 'fair' part was just a fair (only with PORN dvds and SEX toys and pretty people handing out cards for PHONE SEX companies) and standing in a dark noisy crowd watching people gyrate on stage or torment their partners was just being in a dark noisy crowd with strangers.

I have been to a sauna club in Europe, sometime when I am not so tired and sad I could tell that story. The most fun I had there involved nudity and laughing and sweating but not any bits going into someone else's body.

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_hyperballad_ · 22-05-20 01:16:38

To those who feel sad, tired, inept or out of sorts for any reason I'm sending you a big, warm HyperB hug. And yes my boobies do feel just as good you think they will squished into your chest.

I definitely do feel like group sex is enormously idealised, just like regular sex it can be awkward or unsatisfying, the dynamic can be off especially in a tighter group like a threesome or foursome. But just like any other new sexual experience it isn't about being the 'best' at group sex, it's about sinking into the experience & enjoying it for what it is - if group encounters aren't your jam that's fine too

Again, sending out a big bundle of love x

privignus · 22-05-20 22:21:24

That thing about enjoying experiences as they are is so important!

A lot of people who like to give unsolicited advice to big groups of strangers talk about self-knowledge and communication, and often it sounds like they are talking to people who first kissed someone somewhere other than the face at an age beginning with 1 not 3, 5, or 7, tried and failed lots of relationships and lots of sex, and now should have a good sense of what does and does not work for them. When you are new at something, you just need to try out different things and communicate when something is or is not working. You are not going to be able to walk your partner or partners through how you will react in every scenario!

Context: I have been unemployed for more than a year and I may lose my residence rights in my current country before I can find the job that would let me extend them. I do not feel competent at any kind of adulting right now (except for organizing videos of awesome Aussies and cute Canadians and impish Indians).

Edit: and here is one example, the multi-talented Violet Blue complains about guys that are not good recievers of fellatio (but to get good you need practice right? preferably with each individual partner, because every body is different. and worrying nervously about how your technique is being judged is not very sexy or a good mindset for learning).

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_hyperballad_ · 09-06-20 08:36:44

I hope this situation has improved for you Privignus <3

privignus · 10-06-20 22:56:32

Hi _Hyperballad_,

I am a bit better after an emotional collapse in late May.

Its two weeks later, I applied to one job where my chances are good, but I am still blocked on finishing the application to another and I do not know why. I still have a few months to find something or maybe find a work-around like starting school somewhere. Because I am unemployed and living in bad conditions, I can't work very effectively; because I can't work effectively to get a job, I beat myself up and stay in a bad state of mind. For about six months I have seen that getting a full-time job would make everything in my life better but so far I have not been successful and its hard to concentrate on the right things when the world is falling apart.

My heart is so confused and scared that I can't think of anything involving sex or romance this summer.

Thanks for caring! Everyone has a lot to worry about right now.

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