Relationship Advice

Blind_Ryan · 19-02-07 06:37:02

I could have sworn I had a topic like this somewhere here...

Anyway, from elsewhere I have need of advice.

"there's this girl I like. I may have mentioned her.... I did. Her name is Patricia. I call her Trisha due to the fact that I thought she was Asian when I first saw her (she's Mexican) and the female Asian reporter's name in "Family Guy" iS?

So I take Trisha out to a movie. She's still laughing at my jokes and dropping about a million subtle clues that I probably missed. She notices cute guys... what can I say to that? She says something about her tits being small... I can't SEE them. I haven't even bothered looking at them. I've been too concentrated on trying to see her face. She actually caught me as I finally saw the shape of her eyes through the reflection made by the movie screen.

Ok, long story short, she still laughs at my jokes and she's very inquisitive. She's ignorant right now but she seems to really want to learn and I love that quality.

Yeah. I want to go out with her... but I don't know how to go about it. I want to tell her I like her in an exclusive kind of way but I'm not sure how out of my way I should go. Should I just out and tell her in a couple of weeks (school's out 'til Wednesday and I figure I'd give it another week of fun-having and out-hanging)

ADVICE PLEASE! "

kirejos · 19-02-07 08:01:23

Blind_Ryan wrote:

So I take Trisha out to a movie. She's still laughing at my jokes and dropping about a million subtle clues that I probably missed. She notices cute guys... what can I say to that? She says something about her tits being small... I can't SEE them. I haven't even bothered looking at them. I've been too concentrated on trying to see her face. She actually caught me as I finally saw the shape of her eyes through the reflection made by the movie screen.

Blind_Ryan wrote:

Yeah. I want to go out with her... but I don't know how to go about it. I want to tell her I like her in an exclusive kind of way but I'm not sure how out of my way I should go. Should I just out and tell her in a couple of weeks (school's out 'til Wednesday and I figure I'd give it another week of fun-having and out-hanging)

Hmm, she notices cute guys? Not good compadre, but not necessarily the end of the world. Maybe she just notices everyone and you're analyzing her body language a little too much. Unless she actually tells you how cute she thinks they are. That's definitely a clue, but not the kind you want.

If she comments on her body in a negative way, tell her how instantly attracted to her you were the second you saw her. Tell her how much you love her almond-shaped eyes, and what an amazing smile she has. Tell her how good it feels to hang out with her, how much you look forward to it. Tell her what a crappy day it's been.....until now, ahhhhh. Make sure you let her know how soothing it is to be around her. You don't have to serenade "You Light Up My Life" by Debby Boone, but a girl want's to know how totally you "dig" her, you dig?

Skip the movies, do something or go somewhere outdoors maybe. Or grab a bite to eat (salad), or "get coffee". But order decaf tea so you don't get over-caffeinated. Don't eat too much, so while you're out on your nature walk you don't have to make a mad dash for the crapper. Make "short" plans more often (1hr.), instead of the infrequent epic date that you build up in your head into this massively huge deal, and then get freaked out about. Make sure you listen to Led Zeppelin IV in the car (Fast Times at Ridgemont High), just kidding, ha ha!

I would avoid the sit-down "this-is-how-much-I-love-you" conversation at all costs. Be cool, she'll get the message. If its the cold-shoulder, no big deal. You move on. You have nothing to be embarrassed about, she'll be flattered. You can still be friends. Sometimes those are the best friendships. You never know, maybe you'll end up as friends.....with benefits (wink, wink).

-kirejos

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gala · 19-02-07 10:41:09

Blind_Ryan wrote:

there's this girl I like. I may have mentioned her.... I did. Her name is Patricia. I call her Trisha due to the fact that I thought she was Asian when I first saw her (she's Mexican) and the female Asian reporter's name in "Family Guy" iS?...

does this person you're referring to need advice about how not to be racist...

Blind_Ryan wrote:

She's ignorant right now but she seems to really want to learn and I love that quality.

or how not to be patronising?

Blind_Ryan · 19-02-07 18:12:33

lmao. Did I strike a nerve, Gala?

First off, I'm almost completely blind and that's the first time I've ever missed on someone ethnicity. Second off, ignorance isn't patronizing. She seriously just doesn't know about a lot of things that I know about. Hell I'm ignorant to social situations and tact. Like I said, the thing I like about her is she wants to learn. I hate people who just sit on their laurels, confident they know everything and need no more knowledge. Those people are fuckin' stupid.

Unless she actually tells you how cute she thinks they are. That's definitely a clue, but not the kind you want. ---Here's how it went down in IM format (in actuality, we were sitting at a table waiting for the movie to start (I took her last Wednesday as friends on an impulse. $5 is not the end of the world)
"There sure are a lot of cute guys out today"
"Thanks. I'm cute now "
"LOL"

If she comments on her body in a negative way, tell her how instantly attracted to her you were the second you saw her. ---Well, I can't really do THAT but from what I have seen of her (her general body shape, her hairless arm, and her small, deep set eyes,) I have commented on. I've been honest too.

Make "short" plans more often (1hr.) ---which is nice because we hang out from 9-11 at college. It's two hours instead of one but it's a guaranteed meeting.

I would avoid the sit-down "this-is-how-much-I-love-you" conversation at all costs. Be cool, she'll get the message. ---Can do there.

I take advice and whittle it into a small bird of shit I use... but I need more advice wood.

kirejos · 19-02-07 19:40:12

Roger, didn't know it was you. Take all of the visually oriented advice and turn it into sensory oriented advice.

Actually, now that I think about it, that would add an awesomely extra cool dimension to everything. Lucky bastard.....

-kirejos

Blind_Ryan · 19-02-07 23:42:55

It IS kind of fun being able to, little by little, see what she looks like through sidelong glances and stuff.

The only awesome/cool dimension will be when I lose my virginity... cause you really don't NEED eyes. Just a powerful sense of smell and magic fingers in my case.

blissed · 20-02-07 02:50:29

Don't worry Ryan, when I win the lottery (which I'm told is gonna be soon) I'll pay for you to see a professional and she can sort you out

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Blind_Ryan · 20-02-07 03:41:20

I'M RICH, BITCH!

Anywho, Blissed, you're the... 35th person to suggest such a thing. Congratulations.

You are the second from "the outs" however.

aven frey · 20-02-07 04:58:19

what are "the outs"?

Blind_Ryan · 20-02-07 06:18:42

The outs are what people on "the ins" call... well, out here.

Check the Rhino's bio

blissed · 20-02-07 06:46:58

I suppose theres a question of pride about not having to pay for sex, so sorry if I offended you there Ryan, but Hugh Grant was caught having sex with a Hooker in public, and Dandy has had oral sex with prince Charles. so all sorts of people no matter how desirable they are occasionally indulge.

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aven frey · 20-02-07 07:31:33

um I still don't get it!!

Blind_Ryan · 20-02-07 07:37:43

Bliss, I'm not offended. I'm just waiting patiently

Max, I went to jail. In jail I was told "Man, when you get out, I'm gonna buy you a whore." 33 times in various ways.

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padraic · 20-02-07 10:50:58

blissed wrote:

I suppose theres a question of pride about not having to pay for sex, so sorry if I offended you there Ryan, but Hugh Grant was caught having sex with a Hooker in public, and Dandy has had oral sex with prince Charles. so all sorts of people no matter how desirable they are occasionally indulge.
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Cheers blissed. Do you mean that Dandy is desirable, or Prince Charles? I''m confused. Myself, though, I'd pick Dandy... : )

polarchill · 20-02-07 14:13:57

Two votes for Dandy. Nicer ears, for one thing.

blissed · 20-02-07 20:14:45

No I don't think she was strictly telling the truth there, I think thats just until now been a secret desire :) I'll ring the Palace and tell them :)

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