Would I Touch Myself for You?

Siobhan · 07-01-07 23:34:41

Half a dozen friends and I have, for some months, been asking this.

It’s a natural question we’d pose to ourselves, given how much time we spend watching other women masturbate.

The question is, would I ‘touch myself’ so you could watch?
Or, less provactively, would I masturbate for the masses? And what would I want to gain from the experience?

I know the answer to the first question, but not to the second; and the question itself moves off in SO many directions that I think it’s worthy to be grappled with in the context of other women’s thoughts.

I could not resist the deliberately provocative title.
especially as that it's the inverse of the way I usually ask someone in bed ("would you touch yourself for me?")

But the topic is more interesting than prurient.

Masturbation for our partners has become much more of a natural part of lovemaking, in part because women’s sexual pleasure finally got equal billing; and in part because the phenomenon of the internet means that people suddenly wanted to have sex with strangers and the only way was to do it alone, but together; and because the odd onus against self-gratification has finally almost worn off.

Also, masturbating in a public arena has also become much MUCH more prevalent, as our notions of what is private have shifted.

For other women who have never masturbated for the public, but who have considered it, I'd enjoy hearing all the various ways you think about this.

Meanwhile, I'll post over time -- next time, about how my feelings about this are affected by my age.

For now, I just wanted to put it out there so that other women who have also not done this can enrich my thinking with their own.

annoula · 07-01-07 23:51:51

I can't even post on the right thread

Very interesting points Siobhan especially about the equal pleasure bit. Eloquently said...

will elaborate again tomorrow...it is 1 a.m. here time for the bed bugs to bite...

The_Elfman · 08-01-07 00:59:09

I think that's a very good question Siobhan and very well framed. (Oh sorry I'm a man and therefore shouldn't be here. I'll go away again).

Cate · 08-01-07 01:46:20

I know I don't count as a woman who has never masturbated for the public but here's a little background on I guess my lead up to appearing on these sites and just generally wanking fror others as well as myself.

My dad's always been very into new technology and I've had internet acess in my bedroom from an early age. When I was about 13 I was at a friends house and she introduced me to chat rooms and cyber sex as a joke a funny thing to do but to me it was amazingly hot. As soon as I got home I was online I had neither the vocab or experience to do it well but I loved it.
Then a few years later my poor innocent father gave me a webcam by then I knew how to communicate and get what I wanted out of whoever I was chatting to, both starngers and friends. I loved it, being watched and having somone come over me/for me at my request and instigation, whenever I wanted. I just fell in love with being watched it makes me focus more and appreciate each little sensation it stops it from just being an afterthought while I've always seen masturbation as for myself I don't see how sharing it destroys that it just makes me aware though anothers observation.
Now I just wank in the outdoors occasionaly on trains but mostly in parks though that kind of public exposure is a completely diffrent feeling. I moved recently and now live near a large beautiful but dried out park which I'm having fun exploring though I got spotted by a cyclist the last time I tried any funny stuff there.

Adagio · 08-01-07 04:22:00

Thanks Cate for sharing a bit of your journey.

Siobhan, what a complex topic this is (for me at least). As you said, this can go in so many directions and it already has in my head! I do want to respond but it may take a day or two due to craziness of my life. I want to write a thoughtful response. In the meantime I look forward to hearing from the other women out there.

annoula · 09-01-07 00:22:49

Here goes...

I have considered this topic for a while...Some mixed thoughts...

My partner watching me -or me him- has been part of our lovemaking now and then...but since i have found this site i am trying to incorporate it in a more sensual way, and making it an whole experience instead of just a varied way to climax...

Would i do it in public? I have never been a fan of risky outdoorsy encounters when i am in danger of being found out. Haven't really tried it but me thinks it doesn't hold much fun for me, so i assume masturbation would be the same.

Outdoors in general that is different. I can still remember doing it in the evening, cool breeze, laying on a chair next to the lighted pool (i could be seen by others than my partner i suppose...but didn't really care...was on holiday doesn't count!)

What i would consider is the internet as i see it here. I say would, if circumstances where different. If no one i know, would stumble upon my submission. Also the whole treatment and aesthetic practised here, is of so high standard that i wouldn't feel embarassed. i think.

The main thing about fantasizing about this, as i have lately, both alone and with my partner, is that i have become the focus of my fantasy. Me, showing others my body, my feelings, my reactions. Not the sexual part, not the pleasure as such, or the explicitness.
The focus is on the individual compared to the act.

This is a relevation in my focus of myself sexually.

And that makes me feel not like an object but a protagonist.
Not a vessel for titilation but for admiration.

I hope i made some sense...

The_Elfman · 09-01-07 01:02:36

You made a lot of sense annoula. Thank you for sharing that.

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