Oral sex and orgasms

eros62 · 10-12-06 04:21:16

I and my last partner loved to give and receive oral sex and we both really felt this to be the most wondrous type of sex, usually preferable to intercourse (though not always).

I'd like to know from forum members: (a) if this has also been your experience and from IFM producers: (b) if it does lead to more fantastic orgasms, visually, aurally, etc., why are there so few depictions in these videos? I enjoy watching the solo videos tremendously but are there so many solos because it is simply easier to create such videos or have most contributors simply not had as wonderful orgasms through oral sex as through solo sex?

Three cheers for oral sex, right? Right?!!

(As an afterthought, I don't even remember seeing any oral sex in any of the Quartet or Liandra videos. Is there some IFM rule that I'm not aware of that makes this taboo?)

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gala · 10-12-06 05:58:50

i believe that they don't do any fluid bonding unless the contributors are a couple that's been together awhile. this is smart from a health standpoint.

Lia · 10-12-06 08:05:35

gala wrote:

i believe that they don't do any fluid bonding unless the contributors are a couple that's been together awhile. this is smart from a health standpoint.

Ah, yes. Am I the only one who freaks out at the sight of unprotected rumpy pumpy (just the idea, mind, and the semiotic quagmire it that brings in its latex-deprived wake, not the actual rumpy pumpy itself), or is that just my over-analytic neurosis stepping in and obscuring what would otherwise be lovely porn? It always makes me feel better if I know it's a monogamous couple of sorts, but still my Pedantic Radar of Doom kicks in.

The_West_Wind · 10-12-06 08:30:15

I think if IFM were to film couples sharing in oral sex it would go against the message of what IFM is putting out. Oral sex is not masturbation, as stimulating as it is to think about, participate, or even watch; it is not a singular act.

I think IFM only brings partners in occasionally as a kind of "saftey blanket" to keep their partners comfortable, or to allow their partners to reach a higher level of arousal during their submission. If you notice, the patrners who dont feature in these submissions have a minimal as possible role to these clips as not to distract from the singular act of masturbation. If that makes sense.

Lia · 10-12-06 10:48:22

I don't think it's the theme of masturbation here that's so prevalent as the motif of orgasm itself - what IFM seems to be harnessing most blatantly is the trope of female climax and its dynamism, of which masturbation is a core permutation. If orgasm is IFM's underpinning foundation or raison d'etre, then masturbation is an avenue through which it can be explored. Or at least that's how I've interpreted the text, as it were.

It's true that in submissions which feature couples, the partner is usually rendered somewhat secondary both stylistically and thematically (the wankette being the one framed cinematographically as most visually prominent), but this is, I think, a way of highlighting the significance of female orgasm and kind of downshadowing the presence of the partner, who acts more as a orgasmic aid rather than a protagonist in such vignettes.

The_Elfman · 10-12-06 11:17:13

It's nice to see you posting again Lia. I've missed your eloquence.

Elfman

Lia · 10-12-06 12:51:06

It's good to be back. The combination of this godforsaken MA, Melbourne's oppressive ovenish heat, and the fact that I just got strip-searched (!) on my way to a short holiday in Christchurch puts rather something of a damper on my Forum activity.

eros62 · 10-12-06 17:21:33

Lia wrote:

Am I the only one who freaks out at the sight of unprotected rumpy pumpy...

In my previous Puritan days, I used to also freak out at this until I got involved with someone very heavily recently. We both had full STD screenings at the beginning of our time together. It made the entire year magical. I think the health question is a red herring, no?

The_West_Wind wrote:

Oral sex is not masturbation, as stimulating as it is to think about, participate, or even watch; it is not a singular act.

I wonder if many contributors and viewers are getting the sense that this site is about masturbation instead of "the beauty of authentic female orgasm, beautifully filmed and tastefully presented."

Lia wrote:

...what IFM seems to be harnessing most blatantly is the trope of female climax and its dynamism, of which masturbation is a core permutation.

Perhaps masturbation is a core permutation but, in terms of dynamism, I believe oral sex to bring this on much more beautfully. The partner would not have to be highlighted any more than current partners are.

No one has yet responded to my question if oral sex produces a more magical orgasm for them?

gala · 10-12-06 18:01:47

from my viewpoint, showing unsafe sex does nothing to combat the camped-up fantasyland of mainstream pornography. the pleasure of viewing the sexual act is only a percentage of what's happening; there is a whole greater picture which inlcudes the health of the performers and the creation and distribution of the representation. if we reduce the thing down to just what we want to see, we're escaping into that fantasyland, where everyone fucks and no one gets gonorrhea. i think ifm can keep the whole picture visible if they continue to try to stay away from unsafe sex.

bolero · 11-12-06 04:27:20

eros62 wrote:

No one has yet responded to my question if oral sex produces a more magical orgasm for them?

Here is my response then to your question eros. I dislike oral sex being performed on me. It gives me the same kind of feeling as the thought of putting my whole arm in a tigers cage would. Some women can mask their teeth so that you don't actually feel them, BUT YOU STILL KNOW THEY'RE THERE!!! It might be different if the your partner had false teeth and could take them out. As to giving oral sex I wouldn't do it with anyone who I hadn't known for at least 20 years, and a lot of them would get the thumbs down.

Bolero

eros62 · 11-12-06 05:48:37

bolero wrote:

As to giving oral sex I wouldn't do it with anyone who I hadn't known for at least 20 years, and a lot of them would get the thumbs down.

Is this for health reasons? What about STD screening? And what would be the reason for a "thumbs down"? What makes a bad vulva? I personally am enamored with them. Burying my face in that sexy moistness with someone I care deeply about puts me into almost an altered state. There's almost nothing like it on earth.

bolero · 11-12-06 07:20:24

eros62 wrote:

Burying my face in that sexy moistness with someone I care deeply about puts me into almost an altered state. There's almost nothing like it on earth.

Fair comment. My remarks are of the more generic variety. Sex to me is the total experience of mind, body, skin sensation; of which cunninglus has a very important place with the right person. So maybe we're talking about the same thing.

Bolero

msnevil · 11-12-06 10:10:59

The thrill of danger doesn't excite you?

Sneeze, Chomp.

bolero wrote:

Here is my response then to your question eros. I dislike oral sex being performed on me. It gives me the same kind of feeling as the thought of putting my whole arm in a tigers cage would. Some women can mask their teeth so that you don't actually feel them, BUT YOU STILL KNOW THEY'RE THERE!!! It might be different if the your partner had false teeth and could take them out. As to giving oral sex I wouldn't do it with anyone who I hadn't known for at least 20 years, and a lot of them would get the thumbs down.
Bolero

msnevil · 11-12-06 10:18:29

It doesn't matter how the task is approached. As long as its venerated, adored and cherished.

"When considering an ecstatic sensory experience such as orgasm, it seems obvious to me that the approach to such a task should at least attempt to venerate the experience. The site has been founded to present orgasm to you in a context that we feel befits it, and the individuals experiencing it at the time."

Rudimaus · 16-12-06 20:52:42

In "Oral Fixation" a little oral can be seen and it´s beautyful...Far away from porn...

polarchill · 16-12-06 23:25:05

eros62 wrote:

No one has yet responded to my question if oral sex produces a more magical orgasm for them?

If I could only have one kind of sex, it would be oral. I love giving it. I love receiving it. I always have the best orgasms as the result of it. My partner goes completely bonkers during her orgasms, and we end up changing the top and bottom sheets, and sometimes have to use a hair dryer on the mattress. If The Beatles were bigger than Jesus, then oral sex is bigger than The Beatles.

polarchill · 16-12-06 23:27:18

Lia wrote:

It's good to be back. The combination of this godforsaken MA, Melbourne's oppressive ovenish heat, and the fact that I just got strip-searched (!) on my way to a short holiday in Christchurch puts rather something of a damper on my Forum activity.

I, too, am glad to see you again.

Strip-searched, you say. Odd, you don't look like a terrorist.

nihpuad · 18-12-06 06:08:46

polarchill wrote:

Strip-searched, you say. Odd, you don't look like a terrorist.

No, but doesn't she look like someone you'd like to strip-search?

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