Bigger women?

Atnas27 · 13-07-14 08:48:22

Hey there!

I'm a huge fan of ifm, but something I've had trouble finding is videos of bigger women enjoying themselves. I love seeing them secure in their bodies, and I was wondering if anyone could link me to any artists? I've not had any luck trying for searches myself, and I'd very much appreciate the help!

Thank you :)

Aaronhalt · 13-07-14 23:59:35

I second, broadly speaking, the call for more plus-sized contributors if at all possible. IFM does better than most sites, it's true, but it could be much more representative.

viva · 14-07-14 03:40:04

I feel like because of the way our society stigmatizes size, it's a bit delicate for any of us to suggest artists. Conversations about what exactly "bigger girl" means are tricky to navigate, you know? On one hand, I kind of know what you mean, on another, everyones' ideas of what "BBW" looks like are different and even the language of description has the potential to hurt feelings when applied to a woman who does not think of herself in that way.

Plus sized is hard too - I would say we have quite a few "plus sized" contributors on IFM, if you go by common clothing size standards, but even the girls I know who look curvy and "bigger" or even super tall in person, somehow look little and slim to me on IFM! I'm little but definitely not skinny (I wear what are considered plus sizes), and I think seeing myself naked on IFM is like, the slimmest I ever look. Something about being stretched out... or like, alternately tensed in action and then super relaxed...

Anyway right off the bat I can feel comfortable suggesting our magnificent Hyperballad, cause I know she's damn proud of her body and her status. And I wish we had more women like that, who could come on her and nominate themselves, because I watch every single video released on IFM since I started working here 4 years ago and I can say that I wholeheartedly agree - fevered flesh is hot, sexy and beautiful, in every quantity.

Laney · 14-07-14 07:32:50

Well said Viva, it's good to have you back!

viva · 14-07-14 08:03:45

Haha, I typo'd "come on her"... haha. Sorry Hyperballad.

Aaronhalt · 14-07-14 08:24:27

Yes, my use of "plus sized" was terribly clumsy. Also, welcome back, Viva.

viva · 15-07-14 01:39:14

It's not you Aaronhalt, it's everyone. We're terribly confused and clumsy about how to describe women's bodies when slender, fit, toned, etc don't really apply. Except "curvy"... and what does that really mean nowadays, anyway? Curvy, curvaceous - these words have become kind of catchalls for any woman who's not model slim, regardless of the shape of her body. And may just bring offense.

I went on a quick hunt over at wordreference.com for more words and came up a bit short, but found this really cute post on the forum. This guy is just sweet and nice and I totally feel for him, so I wanted to share what he said.

"The big problem nowadays is that it is not a good idea for a man to use any specific compliment with regards to shape or size when complimenting a woman.
Any attempt whatsoever will result in her thinking you are accusing her of being fat, This is simply a matter of the current fashion for ridiculously thin models.
If you want to complment somoene then simply use gorgeous, hot, sexy etc. and let her interpret your meaning according to her own ideals of beauty.
As men of course we know that curvy is a compliment. But women can often see insults where we intend compliments.
If you want to say something then I suggest "I love the shape of your body. Clothes look so good on you, etc." She will then answer something like "But don´t you think my thighs (or some other part of the body) are too big (or small or whatever)? To this you reply "No you are just perfect the way you are""

Ahhhh, I can't deny that I love being told that I am perfect, just the way I am... thanks, guy

Atnas27 · 16-07-14 18:05:35

I do appreciate the replies, and the suggestion of Hyperballad! I must admit I'm not too invested in the whole... big, curvy etc discussion. I can definitely see how it's hard to define, but what other words could be used either way?

Hyperballad is fucking gorgeous <3

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