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viva · 05-12-12 00:35:51

I bought my man a tenga egg and he loved it

anyone of you guys use any boy toys? Tengas, fleshlights, jello, vaccuum cleaner?

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viva · 06-12-12 00:02:38

really? none of you thousands of subscribers out there have ever masturbated with anything other than your hand? Come on... someone's got to have a story!

blissed · 06-12-12 02:40:21

I bought a Tenga. It was awful and totally unsexy. Silicon is cold and clammy. If something is going to simulate a vagina it has to be very warm and moist, not clammy. Yeah yikes! would be my one word review of the Tenga

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viva · 06-12-12 02:45:13

Bummer! I tried one at a sex convention I went to recently, like they had a plastic phallic object and an egg on it. It was definitely fun to stretch the material over the plastic, I didn't find it clammy, but everyone's different. My boyfriend said it was fun

I have a friend that just got a fleshlight and he is absolutely mad for it.

VeronicaF · 06-12-12 05:03:57

Couldn't you run them under a warm tap or something to warm them?

blissed · 06-12-12 14:50:56

I still don't like silicon or silicon lube. Our hands are warm, human and (unless you just wank with a death grip) versatile and instantly adaptable. I like sexy glass and metal dildos but haven't seen anything truly sexy for penis owners. I'm looking for the Apple computer of sex toys. I think Apple should make sex toys

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viva · 07-12-12 00:26:32

Have you tried a fleshlight? Not silicone!

blissed · 08-12-12 02:28:25

No I haven't, I might though. Could use some of the money my folks give me at Christmas. If they ask me what I spent the money on I'll tell them

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finkomania · 10-12-12 10:44:25

I had a tenga fliphole. LOVED IT!!! I wrote in another thread here in the forum about it...

viva · 11-12-12 00:22:06

Awesome! Can you find out what you wrote? Am curious..

Orioneye · 13-12-12 21:57:23

Does fruit count?

WLV612 · 13-12-12 23:45:07

viva wrote:

I have a friend that just got a fleshlight and he is absolutely mad for it.

Okay, Fleshlight has a series of less expensive and more compact toys know as, "Sex in a Can" which are cut down models of their first line of products. They have different interior textures for different sensations but the two I had only one was comfortable and easier to use. There is a bit of prep time but that can be bypassed as they gain warmth from body heat and friction and retain it well. The initial problems I encountered were getting past the stigma of using a "toy", adjusting to the overall feel and lastly, the unexpected intensity of the resulting orgasm. It's overwhelming to the point of irritation and pretty much reminded me of first sex with a female. So, if you'v never uses such a toy and you've had a long dry spell, as it were, there's a bit of frustration and the thought, "This was a fucking waste of money." Perseverance pays off. There is an adjustment period, or there was for me. Once I became comfortable with the concept (Not easy....) than I could concentrate on practical application. There's no going back once you get it figured out. No, it's not the real thing but when you're ready, it's ready. When you're finished, it's finished. No costly dinners. No put off's. None of the emotional effort. While sex with a girl "Friend" is tops, as one get's older it becomes difficult to find someone whose company you enjoy and look forward to. It's a total bummer to finish a sexual act and the upper most thought in your mind is, "Can you go away now?" Works both ways, I'm sure.
So, men's sexual toys have come out of the closet and can be found most anywhere, even through health product outlets.
Trust me on this, Fleshlight can't be (Hold the humor...) beat.
They are phasing out their SIAC line and introducing a smaller, less expensive version of their main sellers. Not nearly as good, IMO. Can't help you on fruit.

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viva · 14-12-12 00:17:27

Orioneye! What fruit!? extra curious!!

WLV thanks so much for what you wrote! So cool to read about men's experiences with sex toys and tbh with sex in general. Look I know what bring all the boys to this yard, but I've got all the feminine mysteries between my toes - what I personally am curious about is you menfolks. So yeah awesome.

When my friend came and told me how he loved his fleshlight, would you believe that I felt a twinge of jealousy? And he's not even my lover! There's a weird feeling like.. a fear of what would happen to my perceived power structures if straight men didn't need vag anymore. An insecurity, a twinge of when I felt that my sex was all I was good for. There's fear in not-knowing, in feeling replaced. For a moment, I thought maybe some men feel a form of this kind of insecurity all the time, as part of being a modern woman is this idea that we don't 'need' men. And everyone wants to feel needed...

But the more I hear about people's experience with fleshlights, the more clarity I get and the more I feel free to just love the things in a relaxed way, the same way I love sex toys made for women. Still I can imagine how people unused to these conversations could feel threatened by their partner using a sex toy - men and women. Ah good ol complicated sex!

timefororbit · 14-12-12 02:23:00

Is it just me or are Fleshlights never sturdy enough? The fleshy inside kept getting shoved in the back of the container, which was pretty uncomfortable. And the texture never felt right. Maybe I just got the wrong model or brand.

WLV612 · 14-12-12 03:11:39

One hyper-critical factor with the Fleshlight is the lubricant. Their site sells a number of brands, many of which can be purchased for less from say, amazon to name one other source. You have to get a lube that's compatible with the material in the fleshlight and most are or will say not for use, etc. Now I'm not shilling for this company but their own, 'Fleshlube' is far and away the best and mimic's the real thing better than any other I've tried.
Some people use a lot but not enough is going to cause problems. The material is very sticky when dry and water alone doesn't work. As far as sturdy, I find them to be more than sturdy so look at your lube. They need to be cleaned, dried and coated with cornstarch when not in use. The lube is water soluble and clean up is a breeze.
Let's be honest here, men as well as women can often find themselves without a sex partner for a lot of reasons but the sex drive doesn't really know that and sex is a normal, healthy bodily function so the long standing schoolboy, "Nudge/wink" humor of masturbation for men needs to go away. These toys are a great alternative to, 1. Going without 2. Handcranked 3. Risky sex practices.
Here's a bit of good news for younger men, sex drive doesn't go away or even diminish with age nor does the ability to have normal and satisfying sex decrease as much as you might think. That goes for women as well. There are changes, no doubt but not game changers if and this is a big if, the rest of your body is healthy.
Drugs, alcohol, tobacco even excessive sugar can have a negative impact on sex drive and performance. I know a lot of people who claim drugs enhance sexual pleasure but I've not found to be the case for me personally. What works for me is much like Amari states at the end of her diary part one. I had to smile when she was talking about getting off as she goes the same direction as do I. No wonder I'm smitten with the girl.

WLV612 · 14-12-12 03:23:56

Let me throw out one more thought for you specifically, Ms. Viva. They can manufacture all the artificial sexual aids imaginable but they can't replicate a great pair of legs and gorgeous hair such as you possess. And humor. I find humor a very big turn on. Yeah, I've seen the "Love Dolls" but if I wanted to lay out 20 g's for a cold, unemotional, unresponsive female form, I'd have stayed married.
You have nothing to fear. You are irreplaceable.

viva · 14-12-12 04:09:44

AWWW SHUCKS THANKS!! ... really.

Orioneye · 15-12-12 09:32:25

I am sure I've tried a couple things growing up, which I don't fully recall. Although not necessarily a toy, one of these happened to be part of a fruit. As I learned more about sex (mostly from television or eventually porn) I wanted to try wanking as closely to my fantasy of sex as possible. This included a hollowed-out banana peel, which I envisioned would somehow make it feel magical, like my imagining of sex.

Not much experience with sex toys, except maybe butt ones.

Got to say though. I tried using a vacuum cleaner once at a younger age and was rightly scared away from the practice!

Thanks WLV612! I find that it is often thought of as abnormal for men (is it any more normalized for women?) to use sex toys. But you bring up some great points. And yes, maybe someone's feelings might even get saved. Maybe we can try something new that makes us feel nice, out of the realm of our regular wanking habits.

WLV612 · 16-12-12 00:17:19

I had broken off an engagement with a gal in 2003 and found myself in the dating scene after many years. I discovered quickly that women my age were either divorced or widowed and they came with a lot of baggage. While at times the sex was good, it came at a price. Change. Women wanted a replacement for their former spouse and tried to force me into the mold of that person. The last gal I dated, I had dated her for six months and we had nothing in common other than sex and she started to use that as a tool to manipulate me. I said, "Fuck this!" and dropped from the dating game for good. I purchased my first fleshlight a year and a half ago, on a whim. Since that time, I've overcome the mental and societal stigma attached to male toy masturbation in large part due to seeing the grand fun the gals here on IFM had with their amazing range of playthings. Best move I could have ever made. I do have a lady interest and it's in early stages so the jury is still out but she has a lot of competition in the form of the friends I've made here. Yes, the video's are stunning and the contributors are even more so but it's the interaction on the forums. The humor, the insight, the sharing that's far above the level I had with any gal I've dated. Ever. If I do reach a point where a sexual relationship develops, I'll be thrilled. If not, I won't be forced to settle for less. Physically or emotionally. I enjoy shamelessly flirting with some of the IFM gals and don't hold back in my admiration of their physical and personal beauty. Why should I? I'm half a fucking planet away and nothing to gain or lose. It can be so liberating and so much fun. My memberships on IFM are stand-alone entities, not substitutes. But it is very much like having your cake and eating it too.

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nazgard · 20-12-12 01:38:27

I own a Lelo Billy G-spot vibrator and recommend it even if you are new that kind of thing. The sensations are good because you can start slow and a bit weird if you go at full speed could get to be painful/overstimulated. It isn't too big and slides in comfortably like a plug. I was curious about feeling the mental aspect of orgasm and I feel I am understanding it better

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viva · 20-12-12 01:50:06

That sounds amazing Nazgard!

nazgard · 21-12-12 00:00:07

Yes the mental aspect works better with a partner who can control the settings then it is more like being tickled and I am still extremely ticklish

griedel · 26-12-12 07:35:43

WLV612 wrote "if I wanted to lay out 20 g's for a cold, unemotional, unresponsive female form, I'd have stayed married"

Hahahaha, that was awesomely well put. I will have to look into this fleshlight gizmo. It sounds very intriguing. WLV, thank you for all of your input. From one guy to another, I find this to be an extremely interesting topic. I am in a somewhat unique situation in that 1) I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis 6 years ago which has, in conjunction with medication I take for nerve pain due to the M.S., caused a good bit of loss of physical sensation and 2) I recently got out of a brief but hellacious marriage. I have not had another sexual partner since, so I don't know what it will be like when that happens again, but for now even masturbation can be a challenge. Between the occasional "bad taste" from a mental stimulation standpoint where thoughts of the downward spiral of sex with she-who-shall-not-be-named creep into my head while masturbating, and the sensory deprivation on the physical stimulation front the result is more often than not a buzz kill and blue balls.

I found myself just the other day wondering about male sex toys to possibly help overcome this and provide a better batting average on having a jellybean when I sit down for a wank (I love your jellybean orgasm metaphor, IFM) and maybe some sex reconditioning in some crazy form of physical/occupational therapy sort of way. It is a strange world going from someone who masturbated daily if not multiple times a day prior to the M.S. to the frustrated, orgasm challenged guy I am at present. So thanks, Viva, for posing the question, thanks again, WLV, for your in depth answers, and thank you wholeheartedly, IFM, for providing the visual and aural stimulation in my somewhat mentally and physically deprived depravity. ;-p

On a final rather personal note to contribute my own two cents to your original question, Viva, M.S. often affects the nerves that control the bladder, so to help with this I had a sacral nerve stimulator surgically implanted a couple of years ago that sends electrical impulses to my sacral nerve which I can physically feel at the base of my balls and in the perineum (the "taint", as in it ain't your dick/pussy and it ain't your asshole, but that space betwixt the two), so I have a somewhat built in vibrator, which can be a source of fun for both of us. And it is fully controllable by remote in intensity and with several programs to choose from. How's that for the ultimate in boy toys? ;-)

~ Graham

haraggan · 30-12-12 15:28:09

Men have such terrible toys compared to women! My wife bought me one once and it was awful. But I love using butt plugs, especially vibrating ones. And my wife + strap on = wonderful fun.

Thanks for posing the question, Viva.

Matt

cirrus · 20-01-13 03:52:04

Hey Viva. Thanks for your lovliness and your sexuality. What a wonderful thing that is, for you and your bloke. Do you think it's the only thing that makes him love you? I am sure there are so many individual things that make up what you are quite apart from sexiness. So why feel jealous or threatened. If any man fails to know this simple truth, he's not worth having.

My ex partner was mortified when I told her I had a Fleshlight [Not that I used it during the period of our relationship] except when I got her to use it on me one day. She said "Why do you have to have that thing when I have such a lovely real pussy" If only she could have felt secure enough about herself and my love of her not to feel that way. Maybe embrace my individual sexuality in the way I did with her when I was pleased to discover her drawer full of dildos.

Sex is brilliant fun...Love is what keeps people together.

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