put a ring on it

viva · 17-07-12 02:56:51

oops, did I say ring? I meant condom.

I've missed you guys! I've been working my butt off in prep for my yearly trip stateside, so have had less time to hang around the forum, but I read this cool article about a new condom review site which I will be utilizing in the future, and thought maybe you folks might find it handy - snrk - as well... check it out!

blissed · 17-07-12 11:35:00

I've missed you too, and as it happens I'm reviewing condoms at the moment. This could be a great thread to put our own condom reviews or recommendations from both sexes. I can't recommend any condoms at the moment, to me most feel like potato chip packets and turn me off. I'd love to find some that are seductive.

Issues are feel and fit, environmental and health impact, chemical composition. What I prefer will be different from many other people but an open dialogue and sharing of views and info is really healthy, wether the user dialogue is about condoms, sewing machines or cars.

I've just sent off for these http://www.skinscondoms.com/acatalog/Sk … orted.html

and when they arrive I'll tell you if I like them.

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VeronicaF · 19-07-12 02:43:11

Why is large a type? Like rather than just a size and then you get to choose a type. You cannot get large studded, large ribbed, large glow in the dark (that shit weirds me out..but still). I don't understand!!!!!

LydiaBennett · 19-07-12 10:47:44

And then there's the politically correct question:
"are you condom friendly?" and every single guy says.. "yep"
so guys: what are the reasons for going soft when it goes on?
i have my own ideas about this, of course
and Id love it if we keep this thread light hearted.. tee hee..

blissed · 19-07-12 11:19:55

I can go soft because I haven't found a condom that isn't in some way uncomfortable, and that uncomfortableness intrudes. If I found one that's not only comfortable but seductive, it would enhance the experience. I last for 3 to 5 mins and share billing with a dildo anyway so intercourse isn't the goal but it can be really nice!

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blissed · 19-07-12 12:32:39

I tried these http://www.skinscondoms.com/acatalog/Sk … orted.html and I think my main problem is the sillicon lubricant on the inside of the condom. That's where the feel is slimey and horrid as usual.

I've ordered non lubricated condoms http://www.cheapercondoms.co.uk/durex_nonlubricated.php and I'm gonna try and make some flax seed lube. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dbAwRYFA … r_embedded

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Nalgene · 19-07-12 16:07:23

LydiaBennett wrote:

so guys: what are the reasons for going soft when it goes on?
i have my own ideas about this, of course
and Id love it if we keep this thread light hearted.. tee hee..

I am extremely curious regarding your softness theories.
For myself the condom "feel" is typically secondary at the moment it's time to actually wear one. To be honest the most disturbing sensation is when the condom is quite obviously moving apart from the rest of you (but that is not until intercourse has been going for a bit). Aside from glow in the dark, the fruit flavor/scented condoms creep me out…there are some places the scents of mango and strawberry just don’t belong. To answer your softness question: I haven’t experienced the sensation. Does it take a very long time to put the condom on?

aven frey · 20-07-12 01:35:51

Nalgene wrote:

LydiaBennett wrote:
so guys: what are the reasons for going soft when it goes on?
i have my own ideas about this, of course
and Id love it if we keep this thread light hearted.. tee hee..
I am extremely curious regarding your softness theories.

Me too!

nio · 20-07-12 15:05:03

I also want to hear these softness theories!

viva · 23-07-12 01:08:55

Please.. tell us theories...

harcos2012 · 23-07-12 16:22:14

I wonder if the lack of responses could because there *isn't* an issue of shrinking erections as the condom goes on - or at least maybe it's rare.

The people on this site are going to have hundreds or thousands of times the experience I have, but just for me - I'll say there was never an problem with diminished erection as the condom went on. I've been married for quite a few years now, and my wife and I only needed condoms for a few weeks, about 3-4 years into our marriage. But neither during that period, nor before marriage, was loss of erection ever a problem.

I don't even have any second hand experience from talking to male friends, because the guys I hung around with never talked about their sex lives - and certainly didn't talk in any sort of detail. I know that's contrary to the popular beliefs about guys, but that was, and is, my own experience with male friends.

Sorry to be so uninteresting, but at least it keeps the thread going.

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viva · 24-07-12 01:16:05

harcos2012 wrote:

Sorry to be so uninteresting, but at least it keeps the thread going.

^ I laughed, I cried, I related.

Um, for my 2 cents on the whole soft dick thing - I'm with Harcos, I've never experienced a partner losing his erection when it was condom time, and I have had a lot of sex with a lot of different partners. (Almost) always using condoms. Maybe I've been lucky, because condoms are a difficult part of sex - everyone has to use them, and no one *really* wants to. I mean, given a 0 possibility rate of infection or unwanted pregnancy, no one would choose to use a condom. So there's about a million potential hangups to develop around them, from responsibility to performance, and I'm lucky to have generally been with men who just put them on when the time was right, without a hitch, so that I barely noticed. I had to ask a partner to teach me to put them on, so that I could incorporate it into my own active play.

blissed · 24-07-12 21:31:57

Eureka! I can now recommend a condom lubricant combination for people like me who hate condoms and are uncircumcised.

Durex non lubricated condoms http://www.cheapercondoms.co.uk/durex_nonlubricated.php

Used with Liquid silk http://www.adult-outlet.co.uk/1409981-L … 250ML.html

Having no lubricant on the inside means the condom stays on really well and keeps the foreskin forward covering your glands, but the 2 layers of skin still glide a little against each other quite nicely. But that's just me. I wonder how many other people have to use the net to get the condoms they need.

In the advice "always use a condom" and the handing out of free condoms and the advice for people to carry a condom for a casual partner to use, there's an implication that everyone is much the same, when the great wall of Vagina/Vulva sculpture demonstrates female genitals are varied and I think the same is true for penises. On some the skin glides more than others and different sizes and shapes interact with different sized and shaped vaginas and vulvas.

Condoms are really important at the moment. I wonder how much thought goes into their design, how much research into different kinds and styles of intercourse. The one MRI video of sexual intercourse is treated as a joke, of little value and had to be conducted secretly. https://vimeo.com/6925450

I think a really detailed knowledge of anatomical genital variation and how that effects intercourse doesn't exist. Prostitutes knowledge is seen as of no value and is not just ignored but not even sought. Why not improve the design. For a start the scrotum comes into contact with the vulva and vaginal fluids. Is the thought of wearing a condom that is shaped to cover the scrotum and is then pretty much a pair of latex briefs a joke to everyone or a good idea? They would greatly increase the chance that really nice casual encounters don't infect you with an STi that is anywhere from an occasional nuisance in a later non condom using relationship to a deadly inhibition.

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Scottblueeyes · 04-09-12 04:50:51

aven frey wrote:

Nalgene wrote:
LydiaBennett wrote:
so guys: what are the reasons for going soft when it goes on?
i have my own ideas about this, of course
and Id love it if we keep this thread light hearted.. tee hee..
I am extremely curious regarding your softness theories.
Me too!

Inquiring minds want to know!

Take the following with a large grain of salt as it's only one point of view. As the statisticians say; "one mouse is no mouse"

Our "hardness" switch is not necessarily hardwired to our mental "this is hot, I want this so much" switch, and in an instant, with a subtle temporary shift in mental state, we can all of sudden become soft, while our minds are saying "NOOOOO! I love how this feels, don't you dare go soft on me". Frustrating when this happens, our minds are saying yes, yes, yes, but the hardware isn't cooperating. Most of us find out how subtle changes in what we are thinking about at the instant has a huge effect on all this and some of us put this to good use.

A typical way that we guys get good at timing our orgasms is to come up with mental triggers that either slow down or speed up the process (and hardness).
Usually the slow-down triggers are hilarious if shared (and we will go to our grave before we share these with our partners). In my case it was kissing my grandma. If you ever want a sexual buzz kill, that one is a hand grenade and therefore must be used with great caution. The speed up trigger for me was thinking that we were both virgins and it was our first time, or we were being watched.

So, if I'm putting on my own condom, its tough to come up with a "this is SOOO hot" mental trigger to stay rock hard, so there is a risk that things go soft, and this can be influenced by many things; time of day (mornings are softer for me), alcohol (even one drink), even my partner looking away. The idea of stroking ourselves to stay hard isn't an option for how we worry it will be perceived.

But...the right trigger from the partner can do wonders: a genuine "that is so hot when you touch yourself like that...take your time and let me watch", or taking the initiative to put the condom on your partner, and have it be something like a reverse strip-tease, enjoying the intimacy of it, stroking him as you put it on, and treating it as a sexual toy rather than as a necessary evil.

Us men are soooo easy when it comes to verbal or visual sexual triggers. A hint of talking dirty covers much ground; a simple "It is so hot looking at your cock" can work wonders.

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