Who are the best lovers?

stammering · 09-09-06 07:37:36

I'm a bit tentative about trying to introduce this thread. A lot of material relating to it has probably been covered in other threads, but, well here goes anyway. As lovers the French and Italian seem to hold pole position by public opinion, but I think that the reference is to French and Italian males rather than females. Back in the days when the idea of a sexual encounter was more of a possibility than a misty dream for me, I did reach some conclusions about who made good lovers. I am not built like a Greek god, not am I rich and I'm not a great conversationalist when it comes to talking with attractive women. In fact when I'm talking to attractive women I have always been a bit short on confidence. The result of this is that I have usually found myself paired off with women who are more plain than pretty. That they may be, but good looks are no contributor to libido and I can't say that, in those days, I discovered any reluctannce on the part of my partners to be sexually conservative. What I found was this. The best lovers of my experience were athletes, people who were heavily involved in a sport of some kind, and there were two who stood out in this. They weren't great lookers, but their enthusiasm and willingness to try new things knew no bounds. One was a member of a commonwealth games swim team and the other played rugby league for a national team. She was also bisexual. Both these ladies had shoulders which most males would die for and both of them were superb sexual partners. Because of my experiences with them (and incidentally not both at the same time), my opinion is that athletes make the best lovers. Having said that I know that the brain is reputed to be the biggest sexual organ of the body, so maybe very intellectual people have a claim here too. THE biggest organ of the body (disregarding intestines) is the skin. So maybe massage thereapists could also stake a claim. What do you think, or rather what have your experiences been?

bodyhead · 09-09-06 20:38:50

Telford. (Based on a sample of one).

Phone sex - just South of South Central Los Angeles. (Also based on a sample of one.)

I think generally you can just tell whether people are comfortable with their bodies or not, and if they are, they're usually comfortable with other people's.

Adagio · 11-09-06 13:44:13

Liandra wrote:

it's all about individuals and how they relate.

I've been trying to formulate into words my response to the question - who are the best lovers. Thank you Liandra for doing it for me. The part that especially resonates with me is the "how they relate" part (that's if I'm understanding correctly). NO DOUBT there are physical components to attraction, but so so much of it for me is also in the relating - the chemistry between the whole persons. Emotionally, intellectually, personality, etc.

The_Elfman · 12-09-06 12:50:24

Adagio wrote:

Liandra wrote:
it's all about individuals and how they relate.
I've been trying to formulate into words my response to the question - who are the best lovers. Thank you Liandra for doing it for me. The part that especially resonates with me is the "how they relate" part (that's if I'm understanding correctly). NO DOUBT there are physical components to attraction, but so so much of it for me is also in the relating - the chemistry between the whole persons. Emotionally, intellectually, personality, etc.

Yep. All of that. If what we are talking about here are the people who please and satisfy us most. I don't think you can talk about people being good or bad lovers just because they are of a particular physical type or have certain characteristics. What makes a good lover for one person might not for another and I am as uncomfortable with pigeon-holing people sexually as I am in doing so in any other way. Obviously sexual compatibility is a big factor. As I have mentioned before on these pages I love to kiss and caress. I can quite happily do it for hours and the most satisfying sexual relationship I have had was with a girl who loved to have her body gently kissed and caressed. We complimented each others sexual tastes.

If we are talking about sexual technique the main thing I think is generosity. It has been my experience that selfish people tend not to make good lovers. Experience comes in of course but I don’t think that it is any guarantee. The biggest factor here is love. If two people really love each other the sex is usually bloody good.

Elfman

Dynamo · 05-10-06 14:47:48

I don't believe that a persons nationality or ethnic background has any relevance on how good a lover they are. I understand that the way that women are brought up in Japan is to believe that they must show symptoms of receiving pain during sexal encounters cos thats what Japanese men like, but I'd hate for a woman to be in pain if I was making love to them. I'm also told that although the women indeed seem to be experiencing pain during sex, the vast majority of them are faking it.

I like to believe that I am a good lover, but I know for a fact that not all women I have been with have enjoyed their sexual encounter with me as much as others have. That doesn't mean to say that I had bad sex with them cos I don't believe there is such a thing as bad sex. Its all good as long as both partys agree with whats going on.

I prefer to believe that rather than have good and bad lovers, its more a case of one lover is different from another lover, but both still very very good in their own special way. Variety is the spice of life after all.

Cheers. Dynamo.

nihpuad · 06-10-06 05:50:58

Dynamo wrote:

That doesn't mean to say that I had bad sex with them cos I don't believe there is such a thing as bad sex.

Sex is like pizza: When it's good, it's very good; when it's bad... it's still pretty good!

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