why only young girls?

artist_kitkat · 04-05-12 08:57:30

By the way, WLV612, I have no desire to be seen as masculine, just as capable and to not be pigeonholed as being weak, or dumb, or somehow useless or in any other way stereotyped by other people's perception of my gender (be they male or female). I've only ever wanted to be seen for myself, and I guess I carried my own stereotypes in my head too and saw my strengths as masculine. We had a colgate commercial on telly when I was a kid, and this lady (Mrs Marsh) showed how liquid seeped into chalk (much like flouride into teeth) and I've taken the kids' reaction to heart - "OOH it does get in!". It's the perfect analogy for social attitudes seeping in, regardless of how you may think you don't hold them or have fought against them.
Hmm. Appears I have my serious head on today.

WLV612 · 04-05-12 11:18:05

I had posted about your youthful appearance in the other forum before I caught this. Very well stated.
Age is a win/win thing. The more you age, the longer you live. Barring the unforeseen, that gives you X amount of days to do a hell of a lot of things physically, mentally and emotionally.
As you state, each to his own fantasy but if we set fantasy aside and deal with real life, age becomes much less of an issue. A lot of things become much less of an issue. Well, unless you allow society to dictate your life and wrap more chains around your mind.
If the majority of the contributors on IFM are young, and a person is a member, that's what you're going to view. But a lot of the younger folks are wise and intriguing well beyond their calendar years. And as you do, KK, they acquit themselves as well here, on the forums as you do on film.
I'm glad you feel as you do to be able to post your own insight in to the aging issue but you do realize you don't have to. You are very youthful, vibrant and you've got a lot of followers on IFM and like myself, want to see you more often.

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viva · 07-05-12 01:44:26

WLV, I just want to say what a pleasure it is when you're around. I know you feel that you struggle with words (it's not a medical issue, darlin! It's difficult for everyone!) but this forum is a better place for your contributions. So thanks.

Kitkat, same to you, you add a level of compassionate intelligence that actually inspires me when I open this forum in the mornings.

Thanks guys, that's all I have to add at the moment.

aven frey · 07-05-12 04:16:20

what Viva said. And Viva you make words look easy, it might be a medical issue but whatever you are a pleasure when you are around words.

And Blissed, and everyone else, group hug, try not to lose a tooth with the all the sugar.

blissed · 07-05-12 11:54:01

I haven't posted in this thread, but thanks

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WLV612 · 07-05-12 14:26:35

Blissed,
You always bring a lot to the table where ever you post. And I, as well am grateful for the kind words but as I mentioned sometime before, I'm only drawn to the finer things in life regardless of what or where and the site content and forum interaction are among the finer things. I can buy a bottle of Scotch for 6 bucks or $150.00. I get the good stuff. I can buy a cigar for $2.50 or a dozen Cubans for $250.00, it's going to be the Cubans. Sometimes I have to save up for the good stuff but it's worth the wait.
I take a lot of behavioral medication and I had a severe head injury years ago and there are times when I can read something but I can't comprehend what I'm reading or I can't impart my own thoughts. But even on my best days, I can't write with the style and flair many folks here use with ease. When I view KitKat speaking about her life and so on, or any of the contributors, it doesn't alter the incredible sensuality of the other vids but it does make the written contributions much more personal, relaxed and enjoyable. I'm a subscriber and a viewer like many thousands of others world wide but there's a one on one feeling at IFM that is the 18 year old Scotch of adult sites.

artist_kitkat · 08-05-12 09:57:26

The 18 year old Scotch of adult sites. I like that!

WLV612 · 08-05-12 22:30:42

artist_kitkat wrote:

The 18 year old Scotch of adult sites. I like that!

Cheers! One the other hand, 18 is pretty young, considering the topic heading.

artist_kitkat · 23-05-12 14:02:58

I would be interested to hear what your wife thought. I wonder myself how many people here are members with their partners (or with their partner's knowledge) and how many are not. Most specifically I wonder about the quality of communication between those partners and if IFM is a positive and/or provocative influence on them. Any answers there?

viva · 24-05-12 01:49:57

I'm interested in the same, Kitkat. Once upon a time I thought I might like to do a documentary one day - not about the contributors or the producers of erotic porn, but about the consumers. I'm very interested in the lives of others.

Personally, my partner watches IFM but only when I'm not around - I get my fill at work. I love that he does. I love that he watches me, that he knows when a video of mine is up before I tell him. I love that he watches the others, that we can talk about my work not only as the place I go every day, but as an object of his pleasure which I help to produce.

Your diary, dear Kitkat, pushes the envelope further than I've seen it pushed, here or anywhere, and I am genuinely curious and excited to see the comments it garners. I believe there is so much more we can take from pornography than just visual stimulation. When you combine sensitivity with emotional and mental intelligence, as part of a pavlovian switch to access your own private sexuality.. I think that is something that we crave as modern humans. A multi-textural experience which validates us as the wonderful, evolved, depraved, and beautifully vulnerable walking-around things we all are.

WLV612 · 27-05-12 15:18:06

viva wrote:

Your diary, dear Kitkat, pushes the envelope further than I've seen it pushed, here or anywhere, and I am genuinely curious and excited to see the comments it garners. I believe there is so much more we can take from pornography than just visual stimulation. When you combine sensitivity with emotional and mental intelligence, as part of a pavlovian switch to access your own private sexuality.. I think that is something that we crave as modern humans. A multi-textural experience which validates us as the wonderful, evolved, depraved, and beautifully vulnerable walking-around things we all are.

Hmm? I choose to see KK's diary as an envelope long sealed, containing a message I wish I'd read many years ago. There's a touch of déjà vu as well. Regardless, I love what you've posted, Viva.
Having stated that, I'll be leaving for a time (Forum gives collective sigh of relief.) I'll continue to visit and read and that's pretty cool, so it's not a total disconnect, thanks to the admin folks for that.

Peace and love to all.
WLV

Spirit2 · 02-07-12 23:18:34

thank you I could not have said that any better... Unlike you I fall into the other catigory as far as my wife is concerned... She is not into watching and I don't think she knows I watch... I also truely enjoy the fine artistry that goes into making these viedeos. It would be interesting to know more about the work that goes into each segment, not only the staff of IFM but the participants as well.... Thank you again Wonkazoo and the IFM staff..

artist_kitkat · 03-07-12 11:50:37

Well, I'm almost always eternally grateful that it's them and not me who has to edit me - a nice 8 minutes from my usual epic takes of about an hour.. Sometimes less, but I think the camera makes it difficult for me as I come a lot quicker alone or with my partner (but our video on IFM was filmed over a 3 hour marathon...). It ain't as easy as it looks. Which is I guess why lots of porn has fake orgasms. But from having worked on the other side too, I think I'm one of the longer ones, that might be age or just my tendency to be a stubborn slowpoke, especially when I feel under pressure (I'll do it in MY time, damn it!). I remember most contributors had a shorter recording time than me and also found it easier to come more than once in one sitting.

LydiaBennett · 15-07-12 05:58:25

i am always honoured and, yes, flattered,when the crew visit my town and call me up to contribute ..and each time im encouraged to perhaps share some of my "interesting" life in this forum.. well, not yet.. geez, its taken me 3 years to click in..so a doco? hmm i might put my hand up..
Any hoo, I'm honoured, again, and excited to be doing another shoot this week and have my 46th birthday next week. I do feel being 40something is the best time in my life so far.
thanks for the love and respect..
dce - you have touched me in this thread

WLV612 · 15-07-12 13:00:55

LydiaBennett wrote:

have my 46th birthday next week. I do feel being 40something is the best time in my life so far.
thanks for the love and respect..
dce - you have touched me in this thread

Lydia,
In advance, Happy Birthday! I ran in high school in the late 60's and didn't run after that until I was 40. I started using a trainer ( A personal friend.) and trained for 4 years before I ran my first race in competition. I fared okay at first and then discovered my age was a great advantage as my mind set and focus was more controlled than when I was younger. On April 1st of 2000, I ran a personal best mile. It was the last of 5 miles and my time was 5:01. Glancing at my watch before I crossed the line cost me going under 5 minutes but I was 52 years old at the time and was winning my age bracket on a regular basis and outrunning folks in their 20's. Time and injuries have kept me off the track for some time but I plan to start over and hope to run under 5 minutes before the next two years passes.
Hooray for me, right? No. Hooray for you and your attitude. It's not age that's a limitation, often it's the voices of others telling us we're too old. Fuck that. Tell that to Bruce Springsteen, Ellen Barkin or Helen Mirren.

anncompton · 19-07-12 21:36:13

WLV612 wrote:

artist_kitkat wrote:
Hmm, good question. (Thanks for the compliment too )
You're welcome but it was an observation as much a compliment. I try to make an effort, when posting a physical observation about a site member to be objective but I've been in awe of girls/women, since I was 11 years old and I feel if I express an observation it's simply a reflection of what I see and my perception. Not hollow flattery or a shameless come on, but hang me for a fool, I love women and it bothers me to know of so many women who can't see the beauty they have. If you want to be seen as masculine, you're going to have to work a lot harder at it..
artist_kitkat wrote:
But I would also suggest that perhaps women who are willing to explore their sexuality (and body image) in a positive way are perhaps also aware of pursuing pleasure in other ways - like great food, laughter, sleep, sunshine and fresh air and the great feeling of being alive and fit. I think enjoyment of life is the key to keeping young. My grandmother remains my inspiration to this day.
As this site is proof positive of what you express, I'll extend it a bit further and note that the intellectual level of same type of woman is much higher as well.
So which comes first? I think once a woman (Or man for that matter...) has freed their mind of the repression that society can place on them, the other freedoms just fall in line.
That attitude, that sense of freedom is what makes IFM and the contributors on IFM so amazing.
The posts on these topics are as much fun as they are enlightening. As free spirited as they are educational.

anncompton · 19-07-12 21:39:41

Thanks, Kitkat for advising women to discovery, renew, enjoy their sexuality in a positive way by pursuing pleasure in other ways. Take a walk, join a hiking club, good food, laughter, fresh air wow, yes, the most sensual activities, then log on.

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