Oh f**k and that sort of thing

dhulme · 09-08-10 15:43:41

I've subscribed to IFM for a few years now and have come to regard it and Beautiful Agony as the only two erotic sites worth bothering with. Over these years, one of the changes which has intrigued me is the way in which your contributors have expressed themselves verbally as they approach orgasm. Amongst your earlier artists, I think it was rare for them to say anything. Only a very few announced that they were coming (either by saying so or by the odd gasped 'yes') - and this, to me at least, seemed a perfectly natural thing to do if they were going to say anything at all. Over the past months, however, it has become very common to say, gasp or even shout 'Oh, fuck' or even 'Oh, shit' - the latter seeming to me less logical, though I'm sure there's no reason why logic should need to enter into these moments!

My question is - does anyone have any idea how and why this come about? Is there some point when it become more acceptable or somehow sexually arousing? I may be wrong, but I somehow doubt if it reflects a different sort of person - though I suppose it may derive from a degree of mutual influence amongst your contributors.

For what it's worth, I suppose I find spontaneous use of the 'old-fashioned' responses more to my own taste - or else just the normal sounds of erotic arousal. (Frankly, hearing my wife crying out that she's coming is still the sexiest sound I know!) However, I fully accept that the really vital thing is that your contributors should always be natural and true to themselves at these moments, and I'm emphatically not calling for any return to the old ways - if indeed I dared!

So the question remains in my mind...

viva · 10-08-10 02:17:03

woah dhulme, this is a really fascinating idea. somehow my mind agrees
that it is "more common now" to say oh fuck, oh shit, to use dirty
words to express pleasure and surprise, even though i have no real
concept about how my mother's generation for example tended to express
themselves.

if it is indeed the case i think that it is a combination of girls
watching more and more porn, which tends to be really dirty and
hardcore (at least the stuff i see easily on yuvutu and the like) ....
and girls not being afraid to be themselves - even - or especially -
if that is somehow nasty, violent, ugly or gross in those moments in
which they are most uninhibited.

it could also be a bit of a fuck you to the mainstream, something like
a raw, blatent, "i am real, i am this, is this fucking pretty?!" - a
defensive streak we still feel as we "liberate" ourselves, on ifm, on
camera, some of us rebelliously.
there is a bit of this in it for me.

also just speaking for myself, there is something of the fantasy of being a slut filmed writhing naking on camera. there is this langauge of lust that we learn for ourselves, something that just doesnt come from romance novels for me - but instead from hardcore descriptions of intense, sometimes violent sex. i love to use and hear words like fuck, cock, pound, pussy, bitch, use, hard
etc. - "dirty" is what tends to be expressed in the moments i am close
to coming. sometimes in my head, when im getting off alone, it is a
full-on train of dirty words and concepts that builds and builds ....
screaming oh fuck as i come on the heels of that internal onslaught
seems kittenish in comparison to what i am imagining.

but when i am with a partner, i am more likely to occasionally make little lady-gasps if we are in a softgentle mood, whisper that im
coming, or say nothing and keep my eyes open, to laugh as i come, and
often to cry. in fact i tend to black out a little at orgasm so i dont
really remember what i do at that point, sometimes i look like im
dying he says, sometimes i speak another language, sometimes i tell him to marry me (haha, oops...)

ok anyway, hope this sheds a bit of light on why some girls might once in awhile say "AWWWWW FUCK YEAH UNNNHHHHHH!!!" instead of, "ohh, yess, mmm, thankyou, im coming, yes, yes, meow"

....v

ngaio · 11-08-10 08:55:51

Hmmm...

I don't want to speak for others but I know within that various circles of people I hang out with who are of my own generation, swearing tends to be pretty normalised. "Fuck" and "shit" are satisfying words both in their effect but also the feel and sound they make. I don't believe they really have a shock value, or any such thing, they're just deliciously expressive words.

So to that effect, I swear like a sailor when I'm being sexual because I tend to be a person who gets off on vocalising anyway - in fact I almost always feel I NEED the sounds.

But when I did my first IFM film (and only, currently, I'm Nio by the way) I found that my vocalisations were inhibited somewhat by my self consciousness and fear of appearing to over "act".

So perhaps the increase in swearing and such here comes from a greater comfort level on the part of the contributors - perhaps especially for repeat contributors?

All just half baked theories based on your single obsersation, obviously, but it's an interesting thought!

xxEPxx · 11-08-10 12:13:22

Lady-gasps are one of the wonders of this world. I hope they never go completly out of fashion!

(I agree there's also a time and place for the naughty talk, haha).

xxEPxx

artist_kitkat · 12-02-11 09:47:06

If you have a look at my "love nest" there's a really loud "oh fuck" just as I'm coming.. usually, I'm a moaning, panting sort of an orgasmer (?) or sometimes with my partner I'll say that I am going to come.. but sometimes, like that time, it just rips out of you, and it's actually (for me) an expression of complete surprise. For me on that occasion, it was the strength and rush of feeling that came through my body.. I cried afterwards. That was just after my dad died and I think it was the first time I'd really had an expulsive kind of raw emotion since his death, in a way it was like a call to life for me. I don't really watch porn, so the whole porn influence is not a big deal for me, but like Ngaio, swearing is as instinctive a part of language as any other part, with more emphasis, so maybe that's why it naturally sometimes comes out.

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Oh f**k and that sort of thing

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