it's mutual baby

viva · 05-10-20 04:27:21

Inspired by the discussion going on in another thread, I'm curious - who here has experience mutually masturbating with a partner? What about an (otherwise platonic) friend?

I feel like people who wank with their partners a lot can easily forget that not everyone does it!

So lay it on me - what's your fave memory of a mutual maz? Any tips and tricks? Discuss..... and then I'll show you mine

Ejaculator · 05-10-20 06:37:01

Hi Viva,
It's one of my favourite theme for video's, especially two women. Fortunately there're plenty on IFM.
Sadly, I never experienced it or hardly. Once my wife masturbated in front of me on my request and of course watching her turned me on and I had to masturbate as well. That's the only experience I had in my whole (long) life.

TheTuxedo · 05-10-20 06:44:20

I've done a bit of this, moreso with people not romantic partners. I'll have to flesh it out when I have time.

I had a Friend With Benefits. In her 50's (I've been with a number of older women). A Wiccan priestess whose home was like a Wicca museum. We would often have sex, but sometimes just hang out and usually masturbate. I moved away but we're still in touch. Anyway, there was a mixup and two of her friends were there once and we all hung out and I was asked to "perform". All older women, which is something I've traditionally been into.

I have a friend back home who is an artist. I modeled for her class a lot and we eventually got together physically a bit. But she was more of a voyeur to my exhibitionist and enjoyed watching me and a couple of other guys as well (though not at the same time). She texted me once out of the blue to strip for a mutual friend's divorce party, but that didn't involve any "mazz".

There have been others. Where I was living (where I grew up), at least a dozen or so women saw me get off in one way or another. If it sounds like I'm making stuff up I'm not. I never really discuss this stuff, so this a nice anonymous outlet. To be more precise I'd have to take more time.

viva · 06-10-20 05:58:24

Tux, what an interesting experience, being asked to perform! I can relate a bit to each of your experiences, one time I was trying to get some work art modelling in Paris. I went to an artists atelier and right away I noticed how quiet it was. He asked me to get naked and do some poses and including implied masturbation... eventually he told me he was looking for a "dynamic" model! It was dodgy as hell but I was so curious and I needed those euros too, so I masturbated for him and his friends a few times. They were all good and kept their dicks in and their paintbrushes out and the drawings were actually very cool.

I love that you've been watched a lot. I love watching men get off and this goes further to confirm I'm not alone.

Ejac I'm sorry you havent experienced it as much as you would have liked! Maybe a private cam mutual maz experience could be amazing for you.....

smoothed · 06-10-20 06:24:15

I've also not actually masturbated for a live audience, and one-way cam masturbation needs time for me.

would love to try it out someday ...

also, would love to see this as a future contribution, especially between a boy and a girl!

Ejaculator · 06-10-20 07:23:38

Hi Viva,
My biggest regret, if any, is not to have met you when you were doing "art modelling" in fact masturbating in front of several guys (I wonder how they could keep their dick in !) in Paris where I live.
If one of these days you come again (to Paris I mean) let me know, I would be so pleased to meet you.

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TheTuxedo · 06-10-20 21:49:51

(Jesus this turned into a huge post)

The Paris story sounds a little sketchy, if only because of the dynamics of a woman being watched by men. But if they were respectful. Well, it doesn't sound crazy to me. But I have a very, very high ceiling for what sounds crazy. I don't know how you reacted to the experience, but it was thrilling to me to do it for a trio of older women (in their 50's). In the end I've had sex with two of them (not at once), but on that occasion... It was like an authority over me that turned me on in addition to the vulnerability that I enjoy.

Yeah, my experience with my artist friend (still a close friend, though now she is married) was totally separate from modeling. She's totally professional. Though the gallery where I would pose wasn't exactly secure, so we'd get a few people mulling through who weren't part of the class.

I had a lot of good times and cool experiences when I went back and lived in my hometown for a few years. I was plugged into a lot of eccentric and artistic types and other creatives like me. A lot of cool experiences with my Wiccan friend that I mentioned. I had a fantasy of being involved in some kind of ceremony involving sex, but even though her coven practices skyclad, what was in my head wouldn't happen.

I was surprised being asked on the times that I have been, but gladly accepted. Sometimes I enjoyed it more than straight sex because it was different and I was the focal point. Mutual masturbation comes with a shared vulnerability. There are cool facets of shared vulnerability and also when being the focal point.

There have been still a couple more people, either mutual or just being watched. Plus Facetime sex, phone stuff, and a video here or there. Since moving it's been as dry as the Sahara. But it's fun to remember it.

viva · 07-10-20 05:51:24

tux, it was super sketchy! hahaha. young Viva was into very scandalous things...

Piper_A · 07-10-20 06:34:56

I meant to contribute to this thread the other day and then it totally slipped my mind!
Me and my partner properly tried mutual masturbation for the first time around a month ago! I don't know how we went so long without ever trying it - I think we had started doing it in the past but we always get so distracted by how much we want to be touching each other instead, so the plan always got derailed
I think I also spent a long time thinking it wouldn't be 'practical' because I can sometimes take a while to reach orgasm and really like to relish the build-up, and I think maybe I didn't want to put him through the torture of waiting for me to get there so we could orgasm together, haha. But in practice, that concern totally went away, he was of course more than happy to slow down and keep building up until we could cum together, and it was pretty frickin awesome when we did.
I tend to shy away from any sexual experiences where I feel like I need to orgasm within a certain timeframe, although that was definitely something I totally fabricated in my head, realistically I knew I didn't have to orgasm on cue, but even after spending such a long time with one partner, I do still find the expectations of what we see in porn creep into my sex life and impact my experience - like either we orgasm simultaneously or it's game over, you know?
But yes, once we actually did it I realized I was letting porn influence my expectations way too much and that I can have a great time with it if I just shut off my brain for a hot sec!

And an honourable mutual mazz mention goes out to my angel, my love, Miriam_R! We masturbated together at the end of last year at the Feck Christmas shindig - I gave her a disclaimer that I probably wouldn't reach orgasm because I was nervous (lol poor lil shy Piper) but it was still SO much fun - I got to watch her orgasm in person which was pretty amazing! Just gals bein' pals haha! In all seriousness though it was a super beautiful experience and such an amazing thing to share with a friend. I think we were even holding hands or grabbing each others' thighs maybe? It was fun as hell and super hot. Turned out when she left the room I orgasmed shortly after, so that was poor timing haha, I think she was pretty disappointed she didn't get to see the magic moment.

Outside of Feck I don't have many friends who are quite as open and sex positive as all my loves at Feck, but I would love to masturbate with friends more, I think it's a really amazing way to spend time with somebody and to break down any awkwardness and just fully embrace each other.

I think mutual masturbation doesn't happen enough - in romantic relationships AND friendships! I also tend to think that there's a level of pressure in romantic relationships to be such an incredible lover that your partner doesn't "need" to masturbate, which is totally ridiculous of course, but it's an expectation that gets put on people when they're younger that you definitely carry with you. I'm glad to be past that now, but when I was younger I definitely used to take it personally when my partner would masturbate, thinking he was somehow choosing that over sex with me (don't roast me, we got together when I was a teenager, I had no clue lol). I think now that I am more comfortable with my sexuality and we've both grown up a lot, we can understand that sometimes you need sexual experiences with others, and sometimes you need sexual experiences alone. And apparently sometimes it's wonderful to have both at once, in the form of a mutual mazz!

maurice_B · 07-10-20 14:47:33

In my college years I had this quirky friend who was doing some modelling and was incredibly open about her sexuality. After a couple of long nights out at the bar we literally knew all our dirty secrets, including our interest in porn which no woman I had met up until then had ever admitted to. Anyway, one night we decided to head to a video rental (this was in the late 90s, long before the advent of Feck) to choose a porn video we could watch together. We had no idea where this would lead to except that we weren't going to have sex since we were both in a romantic relationship with another partner. We cuddled up in my bed with a blanket each and fired up the recorder.

Watching the video together with her soon got me pretty hot and bothered so I started touching myself under my blanket, which she couldn't help but notice. She nudged me to do it out in the open, which I first teasingly refused but then did, and soon had her own hands down her pants. The movie got lost on us as we watched each other build our pleasure and ended up coming simultaneously. She then told me that being watched really turned her on, which of course led me to propose that she do an extended solo for me. This then happened the next time we met – def one of the best memories of my life!! We finally did end up having sex but only a year later...

viva · 08-10-20 00:28:55

@Piper omg! wait after last xmas party? it was so hot and smokey and I thought we all parted ways after the pub... cheeky girls!?

my mutual maz with a girl experience was with an IFM contrib too, my good friend Kenji <3 we were at the river with all our friends. we swam away and were just enjoying the flowing water, holding onto a log... i looked over and i noticed her eyes were closed, her arousal clearly written on her face and her shoulder moving! I thought why not <3 we both came like mermaids and shared a naughty laugh before swimming back to our friends.

re: masturbating with partner, my boyfriend and I... I think we did it once when close to sleeping but unable to sleep and too tired to make love.. but I dont know if I loved it because I felt a bit disconnected from him. I like when I masturbate and he touches my neck and tummy and breasts and whispers things to me and I like to watch him wank too.. he will often masturbate while fingering me or using my toy on me as well. that is the hottest thing ever.

on reflection it's great being together in person but I really miss the phone and skype sex.

it's funny like, how I feel about him masturbating without me. Of course I'm fine with it but we live in one room so ... I'm bound to get involved. I have felt bad when he does that when our sex life is not so strong. Not angry but sad... but our libidos are pretty matched and we usually have sex(orgasms) once every day or other day so neither of us masturbate much. I think it will be different when the world opens again and we are not just together 24/7...

TheTuxedo · 08-10-20 02:51:15

Spotted this in my feed and thought to share. If the pic links.

W5FG3hF

https://ibb.co/W5FG3hF

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viva · 08-10-20 05:42:56

haha yes its me!

jingox · 18-11-20 20:44:54

This is absolutely and totally true. I have a friend (still a friend) who was a female "wank buddy" for years. We were both single and had been friends for a good few years but nothing sexual had happened between us and although we were close friends we didn't ever want to go out with each other.

We first discovered that we both loved wanking while talking over a couple of bottles of wine one evening but nothing actually happened that night. She also confessed that she was very turned on by the thought that now I knew about her naughty habit. She told me that she masturbated at least once a day, and often twice. As you would imagine it fuelled a lot of my masturbation for many days after that.

We got together quite often after that to masturbate together. Although she loved watching me masturbate, I am pretty certain that her greatest pleasure was having me watch her masturbate. She said that it made her feel very naughty.

We are still great friends but we both have partners now. We still talk occasionally about what we get up to sexually, both by ourselves and with others, but we haven't masturbated together for a long time now since we have both been in relationships. I look back with immense pleasure on those times and I thoroughly recommend everyone to find a wank buddy if you can.

Once again - totally true story.

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