"Edging"

WLV612 · 06-05-13 17:18:14

Read a post on another thread and a member mentioned, "Orgasm denial". Now that sounds a lot like "Edging" to me with perhaps a slight difference. Edging to me produces a prolonged orgasm. As long as one cares to go without hitting that point where your brain just shuts everything down which is a total downer. Once that takes place, you're, "Flogging a Dead Horse" if you'll pardon......
All it takes to lose the "Edge" is one distracting thought if you go too long. Now, having stated all that and having re-viewed, "Now Hear This", is Alma "edging" or just having one orgasm after the other?
I noticed how Angela in the "Australian Sex Party" (Part 2, I think.) catches the sign that her partner is getting close and is going to finish herself and Angela takes great care to avoid anything that may detract from what is obviously a major orgasm. Now that's how to really please a partner! I've seen the same in other IFM offerings where there are two gal partners. That's so cool how that signal is passed at the right time to allow the most pleasurable finish.
Back to edging. In my last encounter with a former lover, I found the sex to be lack luster and unsatisfying. Tons of people will jump up and say that's from too much solo sex but I disagree. I think it's from not knowing your partner and missing the all important signals. I've done it to myself. Alcohol, or weed can be a huge detractor if your mind goes in the wrong direction. Now that I've rambled, I guess what I'm getting at is I've never had partner who had the instinct Angela and others display toward each other. Must be nice. What am I saying? Of course it's fucking nice!

viva · 07-05-13 02:05:04

I think the difference between edging and orgasm denial is that one edges (solo), and one denies orgasm to another (requiring two or more folks at play).

I also love to see those moments where sensitive lovers give space to the orgasms they help bring on, opening your eyes to a compassionate amazed face filled with awe and joy as they watch my orgasm.. the best. It is truly one of the few moments of my life where I feel full of light... feeling loved, and feeling like for just a second, I deserve that love. Yes, that's nice.

but that's not everything.

Bad sex can happen for soooo many reasons. It's hard to expect yourself to really be able to see your partner if you're not really present in the first place. The basis of my own sexual development was so very emotional and intellectual at first - everything was about my ego, how he saw me, what I could do to him, power play, fantasy life, manipulation... my body and my sexuality didn't come into play until way later. So I couldn't really see my partner throughout any of that - but not all of that sex could be called bad, not hardly!

Sex isn't always about orgasm and making holy spaces for people to cum into. a good revenge fuck can be exhilarating. actually being in suuuuch a loving relationship I kind of miss that more casual sex sometimes.... even if we have a rough session we are so awed by each others orgasms that it always gets kinda sweet at the end.

WLV612 · 07-05-13 03:39:35

Interesting and informative. My own life sexual experience history was rocky from the start and most of my sexual maturity and knowledge was formed in the worst of all places, well, perhaps excluding prison. The military. This whole set of macho rules and false information based on 75% fantasy stories from guys who may have had not much more than drunken encounters with different gals in various ports around the world. You learn a lot about life and people in the military, very little about sexual dynamic.
Therefore physical encounters tend to be hasty, clumsy with very little satisfaction.
My first true sexual partner did a lot to correct my preconceived notions about sex and oddly enough because of her strong religious convictions she was very different than anyone who came before of after. Much more sexually inventive and less restrained.
It's obvious that your travels, your intellect and your insight have taken you through a lot and have put you in a nice place in many respects, reading between the lines just a little. I envy you that.
I think I tend to pay a lot of attention to the details in the IFM vids and often come away with a lot to ponder on.
I'm certainly not the most well rounded person on these forums and hardly the brightest but I think I get a lot more out of what I see and hear than I would have expected when I first joined. I'm certainly more, "Me" here and much more open with my ramblings and more honest with myself. I love your insights.

LydiaBennett · 19-05-13 07:40:27

There's no such thing as "bad sex" just "bad communication".
and i mean with self, not just with partner/s.

#1 06-05-13 17:18:14

"Edging"

#2 07-05-13 02:05:04

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#3 07-05-13 03:39:35

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#4 19-05-13 07:40:27

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