Enhancing your orgasm

maurice_B · 08-02-21 01:47:57

A simple question to start off the new week. This isn’t about your preferred masturbation technique in general (hands, toys, etc.) – rather, I’d love to know what you do specifically to make yourself come harder, or longer, or multiple times, such as:

-edging
-pointing your toes
-thrusting your hips
-squeezing your nipples
-breathing heavily
-making noises
-focusing on a particular fantasy
-announcing your orgasm to yourself
-some combination of the above
-or……..?

_hyperballad_ · 09-02-21 00:27:42

Breath & body.

I use my breath to regulate the energy & sensation in my body. I sink right down deep in my body & focus on the physical sensations coming from whatever is being stimulated. Being fully inside my body & focusing on my breath has developed my orgasms into a place that I never dreamt possible - especially coupled with internal stimulation.

One thing I have been doing recently is trying to identify the exact location inside my pussy when the pleasure is coming from. I think it's strengthening the neural pathways in my brain. Yesterday I got into an orgasm loop & just the body memory of a dick inside me as I came made me orgasm 2 more times, completely hands free.

Sometimes it feels a bit like I'm hacking my own body! Haha

There is a few tasty little tricks in my back pocket though. Slapping the insides of my thighs with a riding crop. Making my nipples wet & playing with them, will tip me over the edge every time. And double penetration. Double penetration with vibration is off the charts too, although I have to be careful I kinda hurt my back last time I did this lol.

viva · 09-02-21 00:44:56

Ooh cool question.

For me, what makes me get that "oh god I'm gonna come" feeling more than anything is g-spot stimulation and penetration. But sometimes I can use my imagination/memory of that stimulation to get me there too. Like in my recent homemade, which we havent seen yet - I wanted to tense my legs as I was coming, to get that sensation (which is also really good), but to do so I had to stop using my toy to fuck myself... I didnt want to cause it felt so good.. but then once I was stretched out and tensing, I could still feel the sensation-memory of my toy and that put me over the edge.

Like Hyperballad, nipple touching and sucking always drives me crazy and gives me that feeling, though if it's too much too early I can get overstimulated... once I'm close though I can take a lot and it will trigger my orgasm for sure.

Words - if my boyfriend is talking dirty to me, whispering to me, encouraging me with sweet words or taunting me... it can put me over the edge.

Sometimes if I'm having trouble definitely particular imagery will get me there... usually something very subtle like imagining a mans fingers stroking softly over the crotch of a girls panties, tracing her vulva over the fabric... or her head being forced down on his cock and the tears in her eyes.. or unbuttoning her shirt and cupping her breasts through the shirt... not sure why I like imagining indirect touch but there it is. When I fantasise I always imagine a girl who is not me, but sometimes I use my memory of my boyfriend as well and then I am remembering myself feeling things.

Slowing down can often help me as well, like if I'm trying to hard - breathing, letting go, connecting back into my body and visualising my clit... mmm.

Such a great question!

alsbosilver · 09-02-21 08:47:05

It is a very beautiful subject indeed!

We see, through the responses of Viva and Hyperballad, this mixture between pure physical practices and imagination, memory, projection of the body. These are very interesting testimonials for those who want to try to unravel the mystery of masturbation and orgasm. Probably also that, like a thousand leaves, the accumulation of masturbations since youth permanently enriches this unfathomable source of pleasure with which nature has endowed us. This mystery that makes it different every time ... I hardly dare to imagine the number of masturbations and orgasms that one can accumulate in his life since his first childhood or adolescent masturbation. Imagine a person who masturbates 5 times a week on average, that makes 260 practices per year, neither quite the same, nor quite another ... it's absolutely dizzying!
We hope to have many testimonials from contributors on this subject ...
Kisses to all
Christian

maurice_B · 09-02-21 19:40:03

_hyperballad_ wrote:

I use my breath to regulate the energy & sensation in my body. I sink right down deep in my body & focus on the physical sensations coming from whatever is being stimulated. Being fully inside my body & focusing on my breath has developed my orgasms into a place that I never dreamt possible (...) Yesterday I got into an orgasm loop & just the body memory of a dick inside me as I came made me orgasm 2 more times, completely hands free.

I've only ever dabbled in tantra but this makes me want to sign up for a workshop right now. The concept of coming hands free seems so otherwordly to me - I know Barbara Carrellas says that even guys can do it but I find that very hard to believe. However, breathing deep into your body is something that I've found to be very powerful in terms of both relaxing your body and firing up your sexual energy at the same time.

viva wrote:

something very subtle like imagining a mans fingers stroking softly over the crotch of a girls panties, tracing her vulva over the fabric... or her head being forced down on his cock and the tears in her eyes.. or unbuttoning her shirt and cupping her breasts through the shirt... not sure why I like imagining indirect touch but there it is.

I hope you don't mind me saying this but reading this gave me an instant erection. Indirect touch through a soft cotton fabric is so damn sexy – the soft curves, the sheer anticipation of touching and caressing what's still hidden underneath.... I totally love to slowly undress my partner, you miss out on so much when you start off already naked.

Do you guys manage to focus on physical sensations and fantasies at the same time, or is it either-or? And if so, does it make any difference in how you experience your orgasm?

viva · 09-02-21 23:43:46

You mean me and my partner? I think it's always different, sometimes one is in a fantasy and the other is physical, sometimes we are both fully immersed in the physical together (like when we have sex and not thinking about orgasm), sometimes one of us will start a fantasy, talking out loud and then the other will continue it and we will masturbate together or like toward the end if I come first I will act out whatever the girl in the fantasy is doing like let him finish the fantasy in both physical and mental, if that makes sense

_hyperballad_ · 10-02-21 00:02:50

I have done an Urban Tantra workshop at my BodySex retreat, the Urban Tantra weekend & then the week long Urban Tantra Professional training with Barbara Carrellas & I highly (highly!) recommend working with her Maurice. Even just starting with her books will help, there's some amazing exercises & she writes so well.

I was always so dubious on tantra because of the sorts of people I'd meet who were into it, but I had my first proper breath & energy orgasm at the BodySex retreat. I realised it was the thing I'd been calling something else entirely!

I also now give killer erotic massages. Bonus!

If you told me that I could have 3 orgasms in a row, 1st one on a dick, the next 2 on my hands & knees, with zero stimulation, making a puddle on the bed around me I'd have rolled my eyes at you & said suuuuuuuure. But it's happened a few times now! I do need pretty tender aftercare when I get to this place, but fuck me, it is so special <3

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