favourite fetish?

viva · 25-09-20 04:44:19

Amazing timing too Ejac, we have a video coming up from this outrageously cool woman, Rose Crowley, who films herself standing up, masturbating with her jeans on... incredibly hot. October 14th.

Ejaculator · 25-09-20 08:20:56

Wow Viva,
Do you know this is the combination I'm looking for ever !
1. Standing masturbation (my favourite far from any other)
2. Masturbating under Jeans !

Nazz did offer something very close but "unfortunately" she pulled down her (tight) Jeans before she reached orgasm.
For those interested that didn't see it yet or would like to see it again: LOOSE LIMBS 1 BY NAZZ

I've to be prepared to see such a performance, it will definitely be on the top of my favourites.
Thank you for this marvellous gift. I'm pleased everyday to keep my subscription to IFM, as there are always treasures coming on IFM everyday, but this one... Wow definitely a MUST (for me). Very interested to see the "comments" of other members after this contribution, hoping many other members will appreciate it.
Thank you for the warning. I'm so much excited by the idea of watching this video, probably a lot of times.

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viva · 25-09-20 08:55:49

and since you're an engineer you'll also appreciate how wonderfully nerdy this incredible woman is... she is a pure math afficiando SIGH... so hot, so amazing. Like Nazz, she does lose the jeans before she comes though! but keeps standing...

Ejaculator · 25-09-20 17:38:12

Viva,
I'm sure it will be great. Therefore I'm still looking for a standing under Jeans orgasm, maye one of these days on IFM...
A question if I may. Would this be the first video from Rose, or are there already any issued, if so can you give links or title(s) please ?

Ejaculator · 14-10-20 08:10:55

viva wrote:

Amazing timing too Ejac, we have a video coming up from this outrageously cool woman, Rose Crowley, who films herself standing up, masturbating with her jeans on... incredibly hot. October 14th.

Hi Viva,
We've reached October 14th, so I guess the standing in Jean Rose's video will be available later today (French time).
Do you confirm ? If so do you know the French time at which it will be made available ?

viva · 14-10-20 23:50:40

Ah, I think the editors had to change the schedule a little bit... let me find out and get back to you!

viva · 14-10-20 23:54:29

Ok - changed, but just the tiniest bit. You'll see Rose on the 18th... hang in there... pas trop beaucoup plus de temps..

Ejaculator · 15-10-20 04:04:43

Hi Viva,
Thank you for investigating.
Only a few days moe to wait.
Merci beaucoup

jingox · 18-11-20 19:54:37

Can we PLEASE have a video of a masturbation party? With a person on display and people standing around watching, some of them naked and wanking, some clothed, people playing with each other - the whole shebang? That would be so hot!

I have seen Sideshow Holly and the recut version but my problem with it is that everyone who is standing around is just watching and there is no sign that it is turning them on.

One other thing I will mention is that I would love to see a girl who is masturbating ask someone to please suck her breasts to help her get herself off. People seem to be so bashful about asking others to help them while masturbating for some reason!

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viva · 18-11-20 23:47:04

jingox wrote:

a girl who is masturbating ask someone to please suck her breasts to help her get herself off.

Haha, this literally describes my bedtime routine.

Ejaculator · 19-11-20 07:54:29

Hi Viva,
You might be the "central" performer jingox is looking for. I'm sure there will be many candidates to stand around you, watching you masturbating and doing more if they want/need ?
Would you candidate for such a central role ?

viva · 19-11-20 23:59:41

Who knows what the future holds Ejac! Anything is possible

maurice_B · 23-11-20 12:31:47

Not so surprisingly, my biggest fetish is beautiful eyes (which is also why I love BeautifulAgony so much). More often than not I will pause a video at the point when a contributor opens her eyes just before orgasm and get myself off to that image.

Number two would have to be body scent (the only goodie that IFM unfortunately cannot deliver!). I'm very much an olfactory person and find a beautiful odor to be a hugh turn-on.

My third big fetish is clothes and accessories, and I feel a bit uncomfortable about this as it cuts both ways - in a strictly physical sense I can find the same woman highly attractive or much less attractive depending on what she is wearing. Jeans, comfy sweaters, black knickers, silver jewellery, even certain types of shoes turn me on immensely, whereas a business-style blouse, high heels, big necklaces and similar stuff will make me look away. I know how unfair this is but it's just a gut thing...

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viva · 23-11-20 23:51:48

so interesting maurice. I love your beautiful eyes fetish.. it's so soulful and romantic. I love the place where emotional connection and arousal meet.. so much of arousal is objectifying or mental for me, so I kind of crave access to this softer kind of vibe! maybe one day <3

scent - omg it would be so amazing if IFM could do an immersive smell thing. like what if contributors could just send you their panties and then you'd have them while you watch their vids...

the clothes - I totally get it. Nothing like a pair of short shorts and tradie boots on an aussie man. What kind of shoes do you like?

maurice_B · 24-11-20 13:36:55

Thank you for your kind words viva. About the eye thing, gotta admit that a skillfully applied kajal will add to my pleasure (yeah it's that easy to trick me, I'm a guy after all ).

Immersive smell - hey, if IFM ever found a way to digitalize scent so that it would come right out of your computer (or from a device connected with it) you'd be both swamped with subscribers and likely awarded the nobel prize in physics....

Clothes - there's also a haptic element for me there. A soft cotton top or shorts is just.... mmmmh. Same for almost any kind of jeans. Shoes - definitely Converse besides most casual types of shoes like pretty sneakers, even hiking shoes (call me weird!), as well as black ankle boots.

maurice_B · 24-11-20 13:57:28

viva wrote:

I love the place where emotional connection and arousal meet.. so much of arousal is objectifying or mental for me, so I kind of crave access to this softer kind of vibe! maybe one day <3

Totally agree on the first part (and hard not to fall in love when that happens...). But are you saying that you somehow feel objectified when a partner tells you that your eyes are a big turn-on for him? Or is it that your brain tends to work in overdrive when you're having sex and you're finding it hard in general to turn it off and just enjoy the moment?

viva · 25-11-20 00:11:11

Hmm, I think it's more like, "erotic" for me doesn't usually coincide with 'romantic'. Like, eye-gazing, massage, candlelight, slow-touching - all can be sensual and even arouse my body, but when it comes to eroticism, my mind likes it rough - I get turned on mentally by the objectification of women, in my fantasies and in my porn (written story) - even if its slow/romantic there needs to be some (even very small) element of force or power imbalance for me to find it "sexy".

I feel kind of conflicted about this because my erotic mind doesn't really match with my genuine values and also my partner is way way way more sensual than kinky. He is the type to get turned on by eyes! It's a challenging thing for a man to 'perform' force, objectification, or power when he's not really naturally into it, or even might naturally be more of a 'switch' than a 'dom', but I kind of seem to need it so he's learning

I say I crave access to it cause I'm not the kind of woman who likes limitations. I don't mind my kinky self but I don't like the fact that I kind of *can't* get fully turned on by a warm, loving, emotional 100% consensual enjoyment. I think it's overwhelm for my little childhood trauma soul! I feel more at ease in situations with defined dynamics. But yeah I'd like to have access to everything.

I had to look up kajal haha. Not a makeup kind of girl.

How do you feel about the new trend in super chunky sneakers? Like FILAs and ones like that.

maurice_B · 25-11-20 13:47:14

Viva, this had me laughing out loud as it is exactly the same between me and my partner. She has a feminist background so it took her quite a while to fess up to her love of being dominated in bed, but once she had told me and I had found out how to give her what she craves (which is ok for me as she's not pushing my bounds too much and her excitement turns me on) our sex life got so much better. It's no secret that sexual preferences often conflict with a person's values in life and their character as perceived by the outside world. I totally get what you are saying about hating limitations but I guess I'm not very optimistic about people's chances of substantially changing their sexual preferences as so much is rooted in childhood experiences, as you rightly observe. You never know of course but just think about the peace of mind you can attain by simply accepting. Ok this is drifting off into buddhism now so I'll stop right there.

What I've learned over time is how important it is to be open about your sexual preferences and expectations. I once dated a girl who told me that in her eyes a good lover is one who will not only seek to dominate (as most men apparently do) but will accept being made love to. Now contrast that with my current partner...

Chunky sneakers - nah, not so much. It's also more of a thing in the teenage rather than in the adult world, at least over here.

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viva · 26-11-20 01:30:52

maurice_B wrote:

totally get what you are saying about hating limitations but I guess I'm not very optimistic about people's chances of substantially changing their sexual preferences as so much is rooted in childhood experiences, as you rightly observe. You never know of course but just think about the peace of mind you can attain by simply accepting.

Ok dont laugh at -this- but I actually teared up reading this...

the idea of not being able to change my sexual preferences is such a huge relief I can't even describe it... like the idea of giving up on liking it any other way than I like it. I'm not sure what's ultimately my Truth in this area but it makes so much sense to me that if there is any hope of expanding my horizons, indeed, letting go of this intense frustration and need to change may very well be the first step. Having a partner who's not naturally (or at least expressively) dominant in bed has made me feel like I want to be different but I think like you, he has shown that he's willing to listen and accommodate me. Still, I guess the dream is more to have someone who really wants it for themselves rather than just be accomodated for...?

I compared it recently to the difference between having a girlfriend who will happily play video games for you, vs being with a gamer girl. The first one is not going to fight you for the playstation controller.

I guess in a sense I wanted to expand my sexual prefs. because with my current partner, the emotional and practical and life stuff is so there, the romance is there, the fun is there and even the physical and the sensual are all so there - I just feel I can't access it totally without the mental stimulation I seem to need, if that makes sense? The kink, the dominance, the power. So I feel frustrated with myself and want to be different!

It's weird cause I'm so versed in this stuff and find it so easy to help others through similar situations but can't figure it out for my own damn self.

Can you identify at all with like, your partner wanting you to want to be dominant for your own self, rather than just in service to her? Have you guys faced that and transcended it, or maybe it's not a thing for you?

maurice_B · 26-11-20 15:22:28

viva wrote:

I guess in a sense I wanted to expand my sexual prefs. because with my current partner, the emotional and practical and life stuff is so there, the romance is there, the fun is there and even the physical and the sensual are all so there - I just feel I can't access it totally without the mental stimulation I seem to need, if that makes sense? The kink, the dominance, the power. So I feel frustrated with myself and want to be different!

Viva I know exactly what you mean - having a partner who fulfills your every need except that one deep longing that you would so much like to suppress or change so as to be totally happy with him. It's the stuff that affairs are made of... (not suggesting you go ahead with that, of course, it's rather to say that a 95 % rapport is a damn high figure for which many many people will envy you).

viva wrote:

Can you identify at all with like, your partner wanting you to want to be dominant for your own self, rather than just in service to her? Have you guys faced that and transcended it, or maybe it's not a thing for you?

We've somehow managed to circumnavigate this by virtue of how my dirty mind operates. I may not be open to everything (e.g. anal is just not for me) but I do have a kinky streak in me and, more importantly, as a voyeur I derive much of my sexual pleasure from my partner's excitement. So if being dominated visibly and audibly turns her on, this will in turn fire me up as well. So all is good.

viva wrote:

It's weird cause I'm so versed in this stuff and find it so easy to help others through similar situations but can't figure it out for my own damn self.

Not weird - ever thought that a shrink would never need to be analyzed as he or she should know exactly what's going on in her mind and be able to treat herself? Well, no.

Btw, I love what you write and how you write it - so thoughtful and inspiring. Can I give you a virtual hug?

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viva · 27-11-20 01:54:55

Im definitely accepting that hug!!

thanks for talking w me! This stuff is kind of personal and maybe not in the hot way cause it's about a personal struggle. I actually have benefitted so much from this exchange as I both feel more relieved to accept myself for who and how I am... and maybe see a way to connect w my partner more through his voyeur-ness (he's definitely one!).. also I just gotta find out more about how his "dirty mind operates" (a delightful endeavour).

I hear you about affairs! I think we are not truly closed to opening the relationship if one or both of us require fulfillment the other can't provide... or even just for fun and variety down the track. But for now, I dont think either of us want to share! My fantasy is we open it up gradually, starting with inviting a sex worker to a fancy hotel room for his birthday some day <3

maurice_B · 27-11-20 10:56:13

It's been my great pleasure talking to you. In fact I'm finding it hard to get this exchange out of my head right now, it's definitely not something I do every day. Incidentally, reading about your - almost! - perfect honeymoon triggers a lot of emotions in me too - we may have our sex life worked out nicely but our relationship is in no way all warm and fuzzy, so I sure envy you for that!!

Otherwise I think you've got it pretty much nailed - once you take that first step (giant leap, actually) of accepting then hopefully you may experience a new sense of lightness, which in turn would allow you to push your boundaries without all the pressure attached to it, and still feel good about yourself even if it doesn't happen. For me, the journey with my partner has been interesting in that while the dominant role wasn't in my blood, I now seek it out actively knowing the response it will bring, meaning I actually want it and no longer feel this is something I do to accommodate her. In fact I recently caught myself watching a dominance-themed porn movie and really liking it. Now go figure...

I'm loving that fantasy of yours - if you ever go down that road you'll need to come back here and tell us about it!

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viva · 01-12-20 04:23:07

I talked to my boyfriend about this chat we are having and I think it's made a real difference. I don't know what the key was, but I don't need to look too deep - since we talked he's been way more in control and he says he likes it! We were trying to see the eclipse last night on the balcony and he was naked and I gave his cock a cheeky little kiss and he pushed me down and made me go down on him out there, pretty visible from the street! That pretty much made my world... it just makes me feel so wanted and consoled when I'm dominated, even just subtly.

At first the change came just with rougher, more decisive movements during sex, and him initiating more in general. not even that much had exactly changed, but the vibe was more assertive and demanding. It was awesome. But what I get off on the most is being spoken to in specific, dirty ways. I just love words and need words so much. But I didn't want to look a gift horse in the mouth or like, keep asking for more when he was already really giving me new amazing things - But THEN he started talking dirty without me even asking... and I think he'll just get more and more into it as he feels it out.

So yeah I am a very happy Viva, and I think my boyfriend is enjoying a more satisfied, more slutty me as well. And I think he especially enjoys feeling like he knows how and what to do to turn me on, and feeling like he's good at it.

As far as the warm fuzzies, my gosh, relationships can just be so hard! No where in life are we so challenged I believe. They push us in ways we could and never would push ourselves. My boyfriend and I have worked super hard and been on a long journey of growing together and really I think what helped us the most in the final stretch was this weird year. Being together SO much in our studio apartment could've made or broke us.

I have always been both dissatisfied with my partners (not a very satisfied kind of person in general, I have insane standards, high anxiety and perfectionism, hurrah) and strongly attached to them - a real fun kind of girlfriend, to be sure. This one was no exception, and as much as we love each other we kept clashing hard, until we got a couples therapist. She is amazing. We only see her around one time a month or something like that, on video call, but yeah she's just helped us take out all the ouch - leaving us with this truly enjoyable, fun, and fulfilling mutual existence. I really recommend relationship counselling even for the most happy couple.

If and when we do have our first three-some, I will DEFINITELY post all about it here!

maurice_B · 01-12-20 15:09:58

Viva, having you share all this personal stuff with me is a total honor, and if any of my random thoughts have served to help you on your journey in even a small way this makes me very happy. I never used to be a very active member on these boards but I’ve now taken the liberty to read up on some of the stuff you’ve written over time and was impressed by how deep you think about issues. I’m also very much in love with the English language and totally dig your writing style (including the blurbs) – it gives me so much to learn from. Ok enough fawning there, let’s just say you’ve got another big fan now.

That balcony scene sounds so sexy… Would you have kept going if an innocent passer-by had noticed you? A thumbs-up to your partner by the way who seems to be a really cool guy. Not wanting to push this too far, but do you think you guys might be up for an IFM duet at some point? I’ll make an easy bet this would set A LOT of screens on fire in our little IFM world… (As a side note, I find eclipses so fascinating - we had a full solar eclipse back in 1999 and it was the most mesmerizing experience. I’ve already bookmarked the next one to occur in Europe, in August of 2027…)

viva wrote:

I have always been both dissatisfied with my partners (not a very satisfied kind of person in general, I have insane standards, high anxiety and perfectionism, hurrah) and strongly attached to them - a real fun kind of girlfriend, to be sure.

I cracked up reading this – I’ve yet to experience a partner that does not have “insane standards” (or maybe mine are too low, who knows). My guess is it all comes down to how you’re able to navigate through conflicts. I have this bad tendency to preach and can also be quite confrontational when under stress – my empathy gene needs time and space to kick into action. Both of us also take disrespectful language very badly. I’ll leave out the details, suffice it to say that this past year hasn’t been easy for us. Good on you guys for working so hard on your relationship!! And if you do end up having a threesome I’ll be so envious of you – it’s something I’d love to try out but likely never will.

I hear you on relationship counselling – my partner has suggested as much in the past but for some reason I’ve so far been reluctant. Not sure if it’s just a male thing – women in general seem to be much more open to talking about their feelings – or rather the fear of uncovering hidden corners of my mind that I’d much prefer to keep in the dark. Hmmm.

The million dollar question now of course is: Does relationship counselling count as a fetish, and if not, how on earth do we ever get this thread back on topic?

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viva · 03-12-20 03:30:35

a total eclipse of the sun is something that I think every human on this earth should have the chance to observe. They're rare, and location determined, so not every human will, which is a damn shame. I saw one in 2018 in Portland, Oregon, a full 2 minute duration of totality. It shook me to my bones. I never realised how attached I am to our sun until it was blotted out. The sky being predictable, the sun shining even behind clouds, daytime being day time, evening being evening - I took these things for granted in the most thoroughly integral way. The way the evening descended, just like that - the shadows which lengthened and then grew strange, the immediate chill, the hush of wildlife - it was absolutely uncanny. I cannot wait until my next one.

I feel sure I will eventually have a threesome with H! It's just a party and a pill away really (am I allowed to say that here?) or else I will go the sex worker route. As we've discussed, I'm definitely the more sexually adventurous of us two, so I feel like I will have to kind of ... not convince, but you know, help him feel comfortable I am definitely up to the task.

I'm gonna go with relationship counselling is totally my fetish, cause I love crying and being soothed and soothing and expressing feeling and being taken care of and I do a heap of all those things there. I also love being praised, like in a deep sexual place, and when I get praised by our counsellor it definitely turns me on! actually she doesnt know it of course but when she praises me she often says "good girl" (I dont know, it's a thing older Australian women say) but thats like my trigger phrase with my boyfriend as well... omg I LOVE being called a good girl... so yeah. my cheeky little turn-on, unbeknownst to her...

to be honest I dont mind going off topic though. There will be more time, more threads, more discussions of fetishes. A good conversation is a valuable thing. why end it?

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