What have you been into lately?

viva · 11-04-19 01:34:52

Also priv this is for you..

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privignus · 11-04-19 16:41:12

Wow, thanks viva! A meme for me

Meg-John Baker talks about some of these issues in Rewriting the Rules and the difference between alternating between hard and soft and staying firm but gentle, and that Canadian magazine talks about people who feel like if they are not having good sex it is their fault for not being present in their bodies.

Someone wrote that the Internet is always hungry for your attention and you have to learn to say no, just like most of us learn to not just eat salty sugary foods or not get zapped on our substance-of-choice every day.

viva · 12-04-19 00:38:11

privignus wrote:

Canadian magazine talks about people who feel like if they are not having good sex it is their fault for not being present in their bodies.

woah, that is a pretty radical stance to take. I'm curious about it... can you tell me more?

privignus wrote:

Someone wrote that the Internet is always hungry for your attention and you have to learn to say no

this is so intense! I feel like there's hungry internet all around me.

Orgasm86 · 12-04-19 00:59:32

As long as we're talking video games, I'd like to recommend two of my favorites:

Machinarium
https://youtu.be/uwZBdWRSBRs

Samorost 3
https://youtu.be/7m8cS-zBeBw

They are both point-and-click puzzle games made by an indie Czech game studio called Amanita Design. There's so much I love about them - the hand drawn artwork is just stunning, the music is absolutely gorgeous, and the story of each is told entirely without any dialogue—you piece it together through the sounds the characters make and the visuals. Both are just fabulous representations of how video games are an art form.

viva · 12-04-19 02:01:35

I have Machinarium on my steam but I haven't played it yet! I love this little walkabout game though, which is a bit similar in that there's no words and it's very beautiful, that I purchased at the same time...

Botanicula trailer

_redbird_ · 12-04-19 07:05:11

SethKindra wrote:

Hey Red.
As a matter of fact, yeah I have seen Outrageous Fortune. Good series as well as the prequel Westside. It's pretty amazing how close to the era they got in terms of authenticity. And whenever you think of a OF or an WS episode, Hello Sailor just springs to mind. Use to love listening to Kiwi music growing up. E.G. Sweet Lovers by the Holidaymakers, Why Does Love Do This To Me by the Exponents.
Never got to play Detroit Becoming Human but judging by the weather today I admit to have a played Heavy Rain a couple of times. Made by the same guy. Interesting about the amount of choices you made in that game. Loved the soundtrack too.
And I agree with Viva. Some games can be too long. One of my favorite games, Metal Gear Solid, is notorious not only for the cutting edge stealth playing but also for its looong cut scenes. Some of the time it's like both a game and a movie. Made by the same man who is making Death Stranding. Very intriguing trailers.
And the Edith Finch game looks interesting. I'll have to check it out.
BTW, Viv, you look gorgeous in that pic

Haha "Red", I love it! I used to live with a 6ft redheaded GODDESS and I'd call her Big Red while she'd call me Little Red. It was all very cute.

Oh man yeah I forgot about Westside! I really love that show. They've been spot-on with casting when it comes to the actors who play younger versions of the OF characters, and the show as a whole is a lot more well paced, balanced and less soap opera-ey than OF became in later seasons (WTF was with season 6, really) but I find myself often missing Robyn Malcolm and Grant Bowler. I have a very intense crush on both of them (the latter crush being since I was 11) and I've noticed and missed their presence quite a bit. The sets and costumes are absolute perfection though and there's very little I can fault the show for.

Oh man I love MGS! It was one of the first games I ever played that had cut scenes that I didn't find tedious or want to skip, and yes Hideo Kojima is indeed making Death Stranding!! It's his chance at a bit of revenge after his Silent Hills game that he worked on with Guillermo Del Toro was cancelled, and he even cast Norman Reedus in it again. I'm so excited for the game, I'm sure it's going to be amazing, the talent behind it is so incredible it HAS to be surely!

_redbird_ · 12-04-19 08:12:31

Also lately I've developed a really intense and inexplicable crush on Colin Firth? On one level I get it, as I'm almost exclusively attracted to middle aged English men when it comes to guys, but I don't really understand the reason behind the intensity of it. I DID read Pride and Prejudice recently so perhaps I've just had those bath and lake scenes in my mind?

viva · 15-04-19 04:07:49

For those of you who watch - how are you planning to enjoy your Game of Thrones this penultimate season?

With friends? Alone? Projector? Tv? Streaming? Dressed in full costume and playing along w the theme song on your guitar? Tell meee....

Monotreme · 15-04-19 05:17:20

Family; now we are three so there's enough for a reasonable, if small, watch party.

privignus · 16-04-19 11:56:47

viva wrote:

privignus wrote:
Canadian magazine talks about people who feel like if they are not having good sex it is their fault for not being present in their bodies.
woah, that is a pretty radical stance to take. I'm curious about it... can you tell me more?

Hi Viva,

I found the passage in https://thewalrus.ca/teaching-teens-how … -good-sex/

Viviane Fairbank, Teaching Teens How to Have Good Sex, The Walrus 5 December 2018 wrote:

Mhairi Kay, a twenty-nine-year-old occupational therapist in Toronto, has a retroverted uterus, meaning her uterus is tipped backward toward her rectum instead of her stomach. Ontario’s educational system taught her nothing about what that would mean for her sexual life. Her mother would ask her if she was having safe sex, but they never spoke at length about what she was dealing with. Kay found sex sometimes uncomfortable or unenjoyable, but she felt that “if I wasn’t having an orgasm or wasn’t into it, it meant my body was broken or I was too much in my head.” Kay felt like an anomaly. It wasn’t something she ever spoke about at school or with friends. She thought she would have to deal with the problem alone or not at all.
Then in her early twenties, she visited a doctor who explained to her for the first time what having a retroverted uterus meant. He walked her through which positions might work best and how to address that with her partner. “That changed the way I viewed my body,” Kay says. “I finally understood my own body and pleasure.” Over time, she become more communicative with partners. “I now know the difference between good and bad sex. I’m less willing to accept bad sex,” Kay says. “I don’t feel shame anymore.”

Of course with articles like that you have to be careful, but this one feels like it is really based on chats with different people, not based on a theory about What is Wrong With the World and just sprinkled with quotes. There are women who don't know that needing a bit of help from their fingers or a toy to get off from intercourse is normal, and men who don't know that having a hard time getting an erection after a long tiring day, or too many drinks, or with a stranger in the rave bathroom is normal, and a little knowledge could make their lives much happier!

For Meg-John Barker you should probably just read their book! (I think they identify as a they).

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viva · 17-04-19 00:45:18

Okay I see, so you're not exactly saying it's "their fault for not being present in their bodies" but rather, people's potential for good sex can be enhanced by understanding, education, and knowledge.. the exciting part is the idea that it's possible for anyone to have good sex maybe? If they are feeling understood and their needs accomodated for?

_redbird_ · 17-04-19 08:23:30

viva wrote:

For those of you who watch - how are you planning to enjoy your Game of Thrones this penultimate season?
With friends? Alone? Projector? Tv? Streaming? Dressed in full costume and playing along w the theme song on your guitar? Tell meee....

I watched the first episode with my best friend and we ate stew pie with bacon lattice and drank copious amounts of red wine. She got a one month free trial with Foxtel (which she is very kindly sharing with me), but for the last couple of episodes we're not sure how we'll get our fix, as we absolutely don't want to give our money to Foxtel if we can avoid it. She lives a couple of hours away, so we'll only meet up for the last episode, as we've been watching the show together every year since season 2. No one in my house has seen it past season 3, so I'll be watching all but the last episode on my lonesome.

Without giving anything away, the first episode was fine. It's mainly just establishing things (as first episodes often are). Please watch it ASAP so I have a second person to talk to about it as there's so many upcoming things that need discussion!

_redbird_ · 17-04-19 08:29:32

Something I found yesterday that is weirdly really enjoyable is the MarbleLympics. My housemates and I started watching it half jokingly but then got really addicted. I'm not at all a fan of sport but watching marbles roll down things and finding a team to back (I'm into Team Galactic myself) is deeply satisfying.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O2AbcCbyJ2U

Orgasm86 · 17-04-19 13:43:46

LOL Redbird, that channel is amazing. Ended up getting addicted as well . Don't have a favorite team yet, but any marble with a silly design (like smiley faces or 8 balls) wins my heart every time.

It all reminded me of this YouTube channel that holds Super Smash Bros. tournaments, except the participants are only controlled by game's AI - https://youtu.be/PTLUMH8Aa1M

privignus · 17-04-19 19:12:00

viva wrote:

Okay I see, so you're not exactly saying it's "their fault for not being present in their bodies" but rather, people's potential for good sex can be enhanced by understanding, education, and knowledge.. the exciting part is the idea that it's possible for anyone to have good sex maybe? If they are feeling understood and their needs accomodated for?

I said "some people believe that if they are not having good sex it is their fault for not being present in their bodies" and then I quoted one of them and how she discovered that actually she just had an unusual body and some positions would work better for her than others.

There is a lot of unnecessary suffering in the world when people assume that people can just figure out how to do something complicated without talking and learning, or get their ideas of what is 'normal' from fiction and boasting. Of course, some things are more fun to practice than others

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viva · 18-04-19 00:40:46

Oh I see what you mean! The magazine talks about people who believe that - not the magazine is saying it's the case! Haha I was like, wow that it is a radical stance - to say that it's actually the fault of the people not experiencing the good sex. It would be a radical stance cause its pretty extreme to attribute wrongdoing nowadays to people if they are struggling - like it's taboo to say, you're the reason you're unhappy or you're the reason you're sick or you're the reason you're not having orgasms.

Isn't that interesting? I think the reason it's taboo is lashback from a culture of pure personal responsibility - no one can change your life but you, god helps those who help themselves, if you're broke get a job and stop whining...

I felt keen to explore it because to be honest, both of those stances sound extreme to me. Personal responsibility is healthy when it's taken on with empowerment and strength, and weird and lame when it's imposed on you by outside forces. Feeling like nothing is your fault is good when you need to rest and be held, but not so helpful when you need the strength to make essential changes in your life..

viva · 18-04-19 00:43:19

also RED you simply must come watch with me and my goonies, we have high quality projected GOT with good speakers and may or may not have a smoke machine for episode 2 on tuesday. haha.

I think foxtel trials are witchingly only 10 days long... they know exactly what they're doing. But I can sign up for one to boost you to the end if you need.

_redbird_ · 18-04-19 08:23:54

Erm Viva that sounds fkn LOVELY. Can we also drink red wine? I'll see how I go, I might even like making it my lil' alone time ritual when no one else is home, but it is also very much a show that requires immediate discussion following a viewing so watching it with some people might be required...

_redbird_ · 18-04-19 08:30:17

Orgasm86 wrote:

LOL Redbird, that channel is amazing. Ended up getting addicted as well . Don't have a favorite team yet, but any marble with a silly design (like smiley faces or 8 balls) wins my heart every time.
It all reminded me of this YouTube channel that holds Super Smash Bros. tournaments, except the participants are only controlled by game's AI - https://youtu.be/PTLUMH8Aa1M

So glad you like it!! It's such a silly thing to get into, but it's very gripping. You'll have a team soon enough They are currently doing the 2019 qualifiers and my housemates and I are weirdly really excited about it. I'm going away for the Easter weekend and we were all disappointed that we had to wait until Monday to watch it all.

That SSB channel is hilarious, and yes very similar to MarbleLympics. Is just anything interesting if you put commentary on it? Have I actually liked sports this whole time and never knew!?

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privignus · 20-04-19 11:25:29

I like the idea of a communal watch-the-last-season-of-GoT! I hope that George R.R. Martin can overcome his writer's block, another novelist explained that its hard to keep track of so many words of cannon and threads and characters, especially if you are over 50.

I read the first 2-3 novels and watched Season 1 but real life is brutal and gruesome enough for me.

Monotreme · 20-04-19 15:09:45

privignus wrote:

I read the first 2-3 novels and watched Season 1 but real life is brutal and gruesome enough for me.

We can be happy that real life does not have dragons in it.

Howland · 21-04-19 00:24:18

re: GoT, I actually think that now that the series has overtaken the books, we won't see Martin writing any more of them (except for prequels, of which there is already one). He'd have to either a) have it turn out the same way as the series, which would be weird (no suspense), or b) have it turn out differently, which would also be weird (confusing). In fact the differences are already a bit weird (where's Lady Stoneheart, for example?).

privignus · 21-04-19 13:10:11

I think they did a good job turning the novels into good TV, but for GRRM's sake I would like to know that his version of ASoI&F is out there too! Its a lot of pressure to have so many fans.

We don't feel disappointed watching Macbeth to know that [spoiler]he dies at the end[/spoiler], or reading a King Arthur story to know that the knight [spoiler]will never have[/spoiler] the Grail and that King Arthur [spoiler]dies at the end[/spoiler].

Obligatory Dork Tower: http://www.dorktower.com/2018/10/04/a-m … -04-10-18/

viva · 23-04-19 03:19:40

I'm with the folks who believe Winds of Winter will come out, and who express uncertainty about A Dream of Spring!

It's been 8 years since Dance of Dragons true... but everyone says he's in his hideyhole now, writing away.... I know it's been like this for years but....

I know he wants to finish! But why did he spend all that time writing that big history of the Targaryans We want "song of ice and fire"....

I've read all the books and I believe they're so different than the post-canon show. The show before they ran out of adaptable material, and the books, are so good, such intrigue, such dialogue, pacing, such masterful storytelling. I'm re-watching from the beginning at the moment like a true fiend, but wow, it used to be really really good. I would definitely want to read til the end if I could and consider it an experience kind of separate to enjoying the HBO show.

The show after the material ran out is much more hollywood style exposition, exposition for the sake of plot, rather than true creative, intuitive story. When you tell stories like this, character depth tends to fall by the wayside. I wont go into too much detail to avoid the spoilers, but I seriously miss the tits and cocks, normal bodies, real looking sex, rough-and-ready intrigue-laden plot advancement in the boudoirs.....

I don't know what's the deal with people not finishing their amazing fiction nowadays. Philip Rothfuss and Scott Lynch are two more examples of writers giving us amazing unfinished fantasy series that have their fans frothing. At least we also have Brandon Sanderson, who's such a prolific writer and such a strong finisher than he even finished Jordan's Wheel of Time series after we lost the author to ... well.. the wheel of mortal time. GRRM is really clear that he doesn't want anyone even writing GoT fanfiction, much less finishing his works, but hey, the HBO producers are doing it so maybe he'll be a bit more lenient if/when he decides he wont be able to wrap it up.

As of now though I really do think he is still hoping to do it himself.

rushaus · 23-04-19 05:41:31

I get the impression that GRRM is really enjoying his world building. Fleshing everything out instead of focusing on the primary narrative maybe?

Parts of Feast for Crows and Dance of Dragons seemed to meander in ways that didn't really advance the story (in my personal opinion, or maybe advanced slower than they could have), and seemed to exist to showcase history and geography and such. Not to mention Fire and Blood, and The World of Ice & Fire.

Then again, there's a trolly part of me that thinks it'd be entertaining if he just thought "nah, fuck you guys. No Winter for you."

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