unexpected erogenous zones

KikiCurls · 11-09-18 00:08:18

There's the erogenous zones that I've known about for a long time, then I find new ones or ones that are unexpected.

Like recently it was my wrists - so much sexual pleasure in my wrists - just my wrists and nothing else for quite some time. I wasn't expecting it...... was sooo good! I'm yet to go back - they were being touched rather than me touching my own.... so not sure if it was a one off or a new area of pleasure for me.

Have you discovered any erogenous zones that surprised you? Or new ones appeared - old favourites gone?

_hyperballad_ · 11-09-18 01:26:28

When we're out Magnus will often gently place his hand on my lower back. It's always been a very comforting & reassuring thing for me but lately it has been sending a spark of electricity up my spine & down into my vulva.

A familiar & comforting touch has all of sudden become quite sexual & it's always in public to boot!

viva · 13-09-18 13:11:42

i want someone to touch my throat.

KikiCurls · 21-09-18 23:11:16

Ah yes, I like the throat touch - something I've really got into the last 2-3 years.

Also found out last night inside wrists stroked over nipples when all oiled up - lush!

kypris · 29-09-18 07:57:37

For me it is very erotic to play with the full pubic hair of a woman, to gently draw with the lips and the fingers, to smell the scent of the vulva in the pubic hairs. The same is true for the armpit hair.
My girlfriends love that as well. I just can not understand why so many women brutally shave their pubic hair and body hair and thus destroy something so erotic on their body. Is it a hate against their own body, a kind of self-castration?

_hyperballad_ · 02-10-18 00:40:52

Nope. It's choice & the exercising of bodily autonomy.

When I used to be fully waxed I love it. It felt really sexy to have all of my everything right out there. It made my mons super sensitive so I spent my days wiggling in my knickers making myself wet. It was a blast!

Different strokes for different folks.

Also, don't forget we live in a society that puts a LOT of pressure on women to look a certain way.

kypris · 02-10-18 07:47:01

I think that this body hair "phobia" in women often arises from a peer pressure or from a fashion dictation.

_hyperballad_ · 02-10-18 08:08:13

It's not phobia, it's that people - usually men, tell us that it is unequivocally disgusting. Other women also feel compelled to tell us it's disgusting too.

Can't speak for anyone else but I've copped hella flack for having body hair. My mother used to ask me literally every single time that I saw her if I was going to shave it off.

I'm nothing if not a stubborn arsehole so I persevered in the face of significant pressure & I don't think my experience has been an isolated one.

Society at large treats womens bodies like the only thing they're good for is public consumption. You are punished if you step outside of this. This has been happening to me since I was a very young child. It happens to all of the women I know.

kypris · 02-10-18 09:54:46

Yes, I know, unfortunately, there are many men who find the female body hair disgusting and therefore put pressure on women to shave them off.
I definitely do not belong to them.

_redbird_ · 03-10-18 09:01:28

When I was 12 and had just started high school I was teased for having hairy legs and would obsessively shave it off every day. I felt extremely self-conscious about my body hair for many years. These days I only shave my legs in summer, not so much for aesthetic reasons but because I can't stand the feeling of the hairs rubbing together (or if someone rubs my leg hairs against the grain I want to vomit).

These days though I occasionally find myself feeling self-conscious for shaving my legs, as there are a lot more vocal advocates for it then there used to be. Initially I felt pressure from other women, who I perceived as feeling more comfortable with their bodies than I did. But then I later identified specifically where my particular discomfort came from, and it was from men who were so extremely into women with hairy legs, that by voicing their extreme fondness for it, they would often simultaneously criticise the women who did shave.

Damned if you do and damned if you don't is basically the slogan for women when it comes to their own bodies/personal preferences I guess.

kypris · 03-10-18 11:49:35

The only really good argument for naturally left pubic hair or shaved pubic hair is just the well-being of the woman. What does the woman really(!) want, how does she feel better, more sexy.
Personally, I find a woman with unshaven body hair much more erotic, but I would never arrogate to tell a woman whether she should shave or not.

viva · 04-10-18 08:43:21

I find it really exciting to be with men while I have all my natural body hair. There's something thrilling about discovering that men love it at best, and dont really care at worst. Cause everytime I sort of get scared and maybe expect that they will be grossed out, but so far I have never experienced anyone not liking it.

_hyperballad_ · 05-10-18 00:34:02

_redbird_ wrote:

Damned if you do and damned if you don't is basically the slogan for women when it comes to their own bodies/personal preferences I guess.

That is 100% the crux of being a woman & existing.

KikiCurls · 08-10-18 23:15:32

Body hair is a tricky one.... it could easily take up a whole thread....
Ultimately, its got to be up to the individual to decide, but if there is strong persuasion in one direction or another around you
it can be hard to know if you are doing it because that is what you would truly choose if there were no other influences.
It comes up as disagreement in my relationship as we have the same anatomy and hairy spots, but our preferences vary quite a lot - and she wants less on herself and me - and I want more on me - and I have to admit I prefer when she's got more, because I adore the colour of her hair... (I'd also say to bear in mind with aging, you don't know what you got til its gone...)

Any more unexpected erogenous zones?
The body hair conversation reminds me.... and its more of a turn on for me - than an erogenous zone - but I didn't expect it.... I think it came about after seeing a photographic exhibition of very glamorous women with 'moustaches' - that gave me a taste for a bit of upper lip hair - so many people remove or bleach it, but I think its sexy.

_hyperballad_ · 09-10-18 00:11:55

Speaking of hair sometimes my partner ever so softly strokes the fuzzy hair in my armpits & it makes me simultaneously shiver & totally melt.

KikiCurls · 09-10-18 10:53:02

_hyperballad_ wrote:

Speaking of hair sometimes my partner ever so softly strokes the fuzzy hair in my armpits & it makes me simultaneously shiver & totally melt.

Oh yeah, also when the back of someone's head is shaved - just close to the neck. Gently stroking there can give so much pleasure - when I got an undercut I understood what all the fuss was about!

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