how to make me come

viva · 29-03-17 20:57:16

This tumblr is AMAZING

http://howtomakemecome.tumblr.com/

viva · 29-03-17 20:59:04

#82 broke my heart and omg to end with this line

..."to make me cum, tell me I’m beautiful, care for my body, genuinely want me to cum for my sake. Don’t hurt me. Treat me right…OR be an inanimate object that vibrates. "

AHHH.

ThatIndividual · 30-03-17 03:04:41

viva wrote:

#82 broke my heart and omg to end with this line
..."to make me cum, tell me I’m beautiful, care for my body, genuinely want me to cum for my sake. Don’t hurt me. Treat me right…OR be an inanimate object that vibrates. "
AHHH.

I'm really good at doing those, and I can hum?

More seriously, #82 hit home in a bitter sweet way. I think I needed that today.

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Smoke44 · 14-07-17 23:50:02

Wow Viva...I've never heard of that tumblr before. I read some of them, and I'm embarrassed for those males (not men). How crude and selfish!

I disagree with the idea that because someone has watched porn, that they are now some mongrel looking to imitate Ron Jeremy.

Look...if a guy is a jerk in bed, it has nothing to do with the fact that he watched porn, and EVERYTHING to do with the fact that he is intrinsically a jerk. Same as having a drink does not make you a drunk.

I feel sorry for women dealing with men like that...and once again befuddled as to why some guys like myself, who would lavish attention on a lady, are left in the cold because we have less than stellar physiques, less than stellar bank accounts, or aren't bad boys, etc.

Alpha males have something that is sexually attractive to women...but what folks forget is that other things come along with that personality which are not good.

Sigh.

P.S.

I would rather have a woman tell me she didn't cum than for her to lie to me. Lying to me would hurt far worse, and be more damaging to me.
Lying means that the other person is not worth telling the truth to. And at that point, you shouldn't be together. Period.

P.P.S.

Unlike many, many, many anecdotes from ladies that I've read over the years on various forums, I would be thrilled and extremely turned on if a lady chose to share her masturbation with me...or even if she admitted that she does it on her own. Apparently, guys are fond of saying: "What? I'm not good enough?" That's a stupid mentality for men to have. They should be grateful that she is in-tune with her self, and is not being held back by societal finger-wagging about her sexuality.

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southernvibes · 16-07-17 18:39:21

nice find

viva · 18-07-17 20:02:10

smoke I reckon theres a lot of stories we hear about individual men which we then apply to a broad idea of "men" in our mind. Or divide into two camps - nice guys vs assholes... nice guys have a set of traits, and assholes another set of traits, and we assign stories to them... but all of this is made up, and just as damaging as when we think in terms of "good girls" and "bad girls" too. I'm guilty of this too - thinking why do "men" always want girls who don't want them, who don't need them... I always felt I was loyal and kind and generous and felt like I was never perused, never desired as a "girlfriend", always just only good for sex or not even for that! and that other girls were shy or cold but getting all the attention!

I thought all these guys were kind of assholes, cause they didn't want me and they weren't very nice to me, even when we were in bed, but I was missing the part of the story where I didn't see them for themselves, or really open up or trust them - I was really scared of people and I couldn't relax, so I tried to be a "perfect girl" instead of being myself.. so they couldn't feel a connection, and didnt feel good with me either. there wasn't emotional space for our real selves. then I think sometimes because of trust stuff I've treated guys like they couldn't do anything right before even giving them a chance - and then when they inevitably disappoint me, it was easy to add that to my building frustration about men and woman and how unfair and senseless it all is....

I had all these feelings and beliefs! they got in the way of true love. I had to be single, celibate, and alone for like two years and in therapy and everything. and I still have to untangle and unpack all of this, and let go of these negative beliefs as I steer myself closer to security, self-love, and actual compassion for others. the thing is, all these "assholes" and "nice guys" and "sluts" and "good women" and "bitches" and all of that - it's all just stories. we can choose our stories, and we do.... the question is, what do you want to be true?

I'm saying, there's not really alpha men who get the innocent girls and treat them badly. it goes deeper than that. people feel conflicted between their desire for love and the insecurity of their autonomy. every human wants love, but people are afraid of love and connection for all different reasons. so sometimes they pull away when someone gets too close. maybe the force of the other person's need is greater than someone's ability to maintain their own feeling of freedom, and then they end up feeling like they need space. maybe if they pull away to get space, the other person becomes more anxious for reassurance.

also we live in a patriarchal society, where men are socialised in a particular way to not be able to express or experience a full range of emotion - leaving them with rage or disconnection as options for release or solace. so I reckon a lot of times guys seem like assholes when really they are scared or feeling threatened or insecure. that doesn't excuse it, but it changes the perspective. I've met people who were selfish in bed, and later it turned out they were like that because they thought it's what I wanted!!

anyway <3 love and relating can just be so confusing.

artemesia · 24-07-17 04:37:07

ohhh i agree. it's dangerous to say there are nice guys and then there are jerks. we are all equally as capable as being as jerky or as nice as the next guy. when we make them other, i think we divorce ourselves of being responsible and that's not good. that's not sexy.

that being said, telling me i'm beautiful always helps me come. how lovely it is to see that other people need that too.

ps viva, that new relationship of yours sounds like a dream. you deserve it dream goddess xx

Smoke44 · 05-08-17 02:38:18

viva wrote:

we live in a patriarchal society, where men are socialised in a particular way to not be able to express or experience a full range of emotion - leaving them with rage or disconnection as options for release or solace. so I reckon a lot of times guys seem like assholes when really they are scared or feeling threatened or insecure. that doesn't excuse it, but it changes the perspective.

This statement hit like a hammer, Viva. I experience this myself. One could expand on this...that society traditionally "sidelines" introverts...but in light of your statement, simply being an extrovert does not mean you are secure/self-confident.

Which kind of goes into what I meant...which is to say that...certain types of personalities are praised/held up as paradigms of what folks should strive for. Extroverted/go-getter/overachiever people are held up as the ultimate type of person to become...whether or not it is right for everyone, or healthy or natural.

What I'm trying badly to say (lol) is that I agree with you and Artemesia. People shouldn't be stereotyped...but by the nature of stereotypes, and by what you shared, people seem (IMHO) to be drawn to certain kinds of people because they think perhaps that a jock would be more fun than the science nerd. Just saying.

All my life, I've seen the athletic types with athletic people, the sedentary people with sedentary people, the farm girls with farm boys, actors with actresses, so on and so forth. That is what I meant in my original post.

Here's an example: a relative of mine was once a serious powerlifter, and prior to that had been just a typical guy, friendly with girls but not much. Fast forward a few years and he said he would walk into a bar and women...female execs and stock brokers and just flat-out gorgeous ladies were coming up to him...he had more attention than he wanted.

Same person. Same personality. Same address. Same everything but his muscularity. All of a sudden you're fantasy material.

That...that is even more to the point I meant...that although you are correct Viva...it doesn't change how people will react.

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