Your First Time?

Blind_Ryan · 22-01-07 20:07:41

Since Nowaysis and I are the resident Virgin team of IFM, I was wondering...

What was the first sexual experience you've ever had with a consenting adult... like?

I'm intellectually curious about what led up to the act, the particulars of the act, the sensations, etc.

I'm also physically curious... but more intellectually at this time.

No, I never had Sex Ed.

edited for clearity.

Last edited by Blind_Ryan (22-01-07 21:17:03)

Nowaysis · 23-01-07 20:31:27

It makes me sad to see this post without any replies, so I replied to it. Unfortunately, as you all know, I have nothing to say on the topic.

Blind_Ryan · 23-01-07 21:30:19

The thought is appreciated, NWS. I was kind of hoping this would be one of those really good topics...

Nowaysis · 23-01-07 21:44:24

I think it is (I'm every bit as curious as you, intellectually as well as physically, if somewhat more knowledgeable than a week ago ), but it is naturally also a sensitive one, so if people actually are interested in sharing, it might take a while for them to warm to the idea.

Siobhan · 23-01-07 21:51:27

oh oh OH!!!

it 's a GREAT topic!!

I just FORGOT it was there!!!!!

Siobhan · 23-01-07 21:52:44

I'm excited to answer, speaking for me. And I'm sure others are as well.

By the way, just so you know, you're not really the only "virgins" in the crowd here. You're just the only ones to come forward. . . . There will be others, peeking through their fingers. . . .
(thx for posing an excellent question, and i look forward to responding.)

Sygarius · 23-01-07 22:58:09

So let me remember. That's hard because it's 33 years ago and it was not nice. Since I'm 53, my age was 20 that time, my Girlfriend 24 and none of us had an orgasm. We made it on the floor and I was to nervous and she to dry. After one endless hour it starts hurting both of us and that's all. Not a virgin anymore but no orgasm.
2 Weeks later on I made sure she had her orgasm with my tongue and after that, I was so excited, that I had no trouble to reach my orgasm to.

Sygarius

aven frey · 24-01-07 00:16:16

my first time was very painfull, and I cried afterwards. Not very original hey!

Arielle · 24-01-07 00:58:27

My first time wasn't that special or that terrible either. It was with a guy I knew at school, who I still bump into occassionally. We weren't close or in love and in some ways I think it made it easier as we pretty much had sex out of teenage curiosity more than anything else. Personally I don't mourn the loss of my virginity in such an unceremonious fashion or wish there had been fireworks in the background and somehow more symbolic.

I don't really remember it being that much of a big deal. I think the more pressure you put on the situation and the more you build it up to be, the more disappointing and stressful it will be. The concept of 'losing virginity' is a little silly, just because you have had sex once doesn't mean you suddenly know a lot more about it or have somehow transcended to another realm. Then again I've always had a pretty lassiez-faire (and sometimes lazy) attitude towards sex, and believe in having sex for fun, sex for breakfast, or sex when you can't bear the thought of losing at chess any more times in one day.

I've had plenty of other times that have been more special and memorable and still kind of felt like a "first" for something. I think its a bit much to expect that you can work out where all the arms and legs go, have an orgasm, be romantic and hear violins all on the first time.

But that's just my approach to it. If you are holding out for the One and it is going to be the most amazing day of your life, then (in all honesty and with complete sincerity) I'm very happy for you.

The_Elfman · 24-01-07 01:14:22

As I recently said on another thread I lost my virginityat 14 behind a large, brick bus shelter on a November's evening. The girl was equaly inexperienced and just kept looking at me the whole time. It as very low on romance or sensual pleasure and very high on cold winds blowing around my nether regions.

blissed · 24-01-07 01:37:48

max wrote:

my first time was very painfull, and I cried afterwards. Not very original hey!

Ha ha no it's not original because thats exactly what happened to me!! I expect the world and their dog know I suffer from having a tight foreskin. I can stretch it but it's not just a bit of skin, it's a sensory organ and it doesn't really like it. Anyway, I posted in the other thread about this too. We'd known each other for 3 days and her reaction to all this was great, so as I posted in the other thread, I think she's the most considerate lover I'd ever had.

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eros62 · 24-01-07 04:02:32

Arielle wrote:

I've had plenty of other times that have been more special and memorable and still kind of felt like a "first" for something.

Totally agree. I don't like the focus on intercourse since I love oral sex almost more. But, every new person (if this should be your situation) can feel like a "first"... there are new positions, locations, feelings that differ from person to person and make it feel brand new, so unlike any previous experience.

I was actually a virgin (intercourse-wise) until I married, then had a very tense and generally miserable sex life for almost 19 years, until I divorced and found a lover, a courtesan from another lifetime, whom I will always think of as my "first", since it was really the most loving, inhibition-free experiences I've had so far.

I wouldn't put high hopes on your "first", based on my discussions with many others.

But, please don't ever give up on sex if your experiences aren't satisfying. There is definitely someone roaming the earth as we speak with whom you and she/he will connect on a physical level like you wouldn't believe. That should make you smile, no?

Blind_Ryan · 24-01-07 04:45:30

For some reason, I can't wait to try oral sex. Everyone I've asked says she'll taste wonderful... whoever she ends up being.

Desertgirl44 · 24-01-07 06:05:48

Ryan & Nowaysis, this IS a great question! I was hoping to post yesterday but needed the time to think back and remember.

I'm bisexual, so does that mean I lost my virginity twice?

I was 13 when I first had sex with another female. But I'll talk about when I first had sexual intercourse with a man here.

I was 19. I'd discovered masturbation and orgasms when I was 12 but I was keen to have sex with a guy. Guess I wanted to feel grown up and adult doing adult things. But I was fussy about my men. I was on a training course for 6 months, living away from home when I finally lost my virginity to one of the guys on my course (who I eventually married)(some years later).

I didn't tell him outright that I was still a virgin. I tried to hint at it, but then I was all wrapped up in what was happening and the sensations. There was an expectation on his part that we would of course have sex - after all, we got on well, we'd been out and about having fun, the only thing left was to have a fuck.

Party, drunk(ish), freezing cold winter's night. At his house (which he shared with 3 others). He offered me his warm bed as it was too late to go home and I was drunk. I thought he was sweet. He came in to the bedroom a few minutes after I'd climbed into bed. I still had all my clothes on (it was very cold). We snogged. He pulled me on top of him and I felt his erection through his jeans. My god! It felt enormous! How on earth was that going to fit in ... ?? By this stage he had his hands on my breasts and his jeans open. I'd already made the decision that yes, I would fuck him, see what sex was all about.

Off came the rest of our clothes and he pulled me on top of him again. I don't recall him playing with my pussy with his hands, but I knew I was excited and wet and I wasn't sure what we were supposed to do anyway.

It hurt. At first. But then it felt nice. I bled a little. He didn't notice until I pointed out the next day after confessing my virginal status. He seemed horrified. He took me home and we fucked again. This time he was much slower and gentler. He wanted me to come but I didn't.

I felt all grown up and womanly. Then I began to freak about falling pregnant (this was in the days before Aids).

Everyone at the party knew he'd fucked me. (They were all people from my training course) On the Monday morning I walked into the classroom to see scrawled across the blackboard a crude message directed at me (something about a smile on my face and could I walk straight yet). Oddly enough I didn't take offence, nor was I embarrassed. I felt empowered.

Overall, losing my virginity wasn't a big deal. I feel a bit like Arielle. For me, each new lover has been like losing my virginity all over again - learning and discovering the new partner's likes and dislikes. With some lovers it has been a momentous, emotionally-charged occasion, with others it was just a fun shag.

Desertgirl44 · 24-01-07 06:07:13

Blind_Ryan wrote:

For some reason, I can't wait to try oral sex. Everyone I've asked says she'll taste wonderful... whoever she ends up being.

Fantastic!

Blind_Ryan · 24-01-07 06:57:33

Thanks for the info, DG.

So it's like losing it again with each partner.... hmm... this intrigues me.

But what does it feel like, sticking it in there... guys? Girls? what's it actually feel like?

As I said, never got sex ed...

Desertgirl44 · 24-01-07 07:54:23

Sticking my finger(s) into myself or another woman's pussy? Spongy, warm, wet, slippery, sticky, lovely.

My male partner says when he's entering me (with his cock) that I feel like velvet (warm, wet velvet!). He uses phrases like "you're so slippery" (usually said with a groan of delight as his eyes close). He loves the fact I get so wet. My ex-husband however, was different. He said I was "too wet". Every guy is different. As is every woman!

TryThe-Clitoris for some good info on female external anatomy. Good photos in there too.

Are you also asking what it feels like for me (or any woman) to have a man's penis or fingers or tongue inside?

Blind_Ryan · 24-01-07 08:43:55

Whatever you want to tell, really. Intelligence and knowledge have no gender...

The_West_Wind · 24-01-07 08:45:11

My advice, Ryan:
DONT ANSWER THE PHONE!

(I'm leaving out certain details beause it would just take up too much room.)
My first time involved a maid of honour seven years my senior (at the time I was 22). She lived in Sydney, I was in Melbourne, and the deed was done in Brisbane.
A mate of mine nudged at how she was interested in me (something I found odd) and eventually he set up this fake story that she had left her handbag at the resort where the wedding was held (for an addition to that story go here http://www.ifeelmyself.com/forum/viewto … d=935&p=14 reply number 327 ). Anyway we go to the hotel room, there is a bit of uncomfortable small talk (on my part) and we end up talking about massage. I gave her a demonstraition of my technique, it was difficult because it was a humid day which made her skin feel like a damp chamois, but I persisted and she seemed to enjoy it.
Later there was another uncomfitable silence so I decided to bite the bullet for her sake. She liked me, I was'nt too sure if I liked her, so I asked if I could kiss her. We kissed, and again, and again. She guided my hand across her breasts and down her waist as we undressed. It took me a while to get into the mood as I was under the impression that she was just toying with me and that nothing was going to happen, but eventually I relaxed and she climbed on top.
To answer Ryan's question, imagine yourself sliding into a warm, moist... Well, it is a part of the body, so call it that. Her muscles gripped firmly around me as she began her motions.

I'm taking up too much room as it is to continue, so I'll skip right to the meaning of my advice.

I've always been a little paranoid about sex, so when we finished to took a peek outside the hotel window. Indeed the sun still shone, the sky was still blue. Indeed the world had not become a flaming ball of death and destruction as I thought it would be.
She asked if we could go for it again and no sooner did I get onto the bed, then the phone started to ring. It was bothering me so I answered it, much to her protests.
On the other end, and to this day I still dont know how she did it- it was my mother!
Well. Sex was off from then on. All my mother did was call to say hello, but it twigged my small town paranoia and no amount of help from my partner was going to rouse the troops.
Later that day it was time for her to go back to Sydney and my mates arranged for her to get a lift to the airport from one of the limo's they hired for the wedding.
As she drove away I wondered if the elegant way she left was ment to be some kind of compensation for the events that happened earlier in the afternoon.

the_babar · 24-01-07 10:04:49

Interesting topic, a goodun methinks.

It was only last year (22years of age) for me that I lost me virginity. I'd gone to a co-ed private school where guys and girls were losing their virginity at as young as 13. With each year that passed, it all got to me more and more; there was a indirect pressure about it, especially in this Y-Generation that I'm part of. Was I going to spend life as a virgin? During school, I had a stint of religious fervour that helped ease my mind about the virginity thing; saving my virginity for marriage was the expected norm. That didn't last long though, not because of the virginity thing, but for other reasons i wish or need not to discuss here.

As someone who is generally shy in a group and not the type of guy the that can or enjoys "picking up", i found the bar/club situation uncomfortable. That and the fact that as they say, "Nice guys come last". This I've seen a lot; girls of my age generally prefering to go for the rough guy to treat them like crap and for them to eat it up, rather than going for someone like myself. Last year however, I started working on a cruiseship and things all changed. The close environment, seeing people everyday, the party atmosphere in the crew bar everynight, the drinking, and me being a "young buck" in all this. Oh, and the freshmeat status placed on you in the first couple of weeks. I had a couple of liasons; no penetration but mutual masterbation and oral/finger sex. Then one drunken night, I "made the moves" on a Welsh girl and lost my virginity. I'd almost gotten to the stage where I didn't care with who it was, I just needed to get over the mental stigma or baggage about still being a virgin, not to belittle her in any means; she was a lovely bubbly girl, older than me, and I liked her a lot. Enjoyed the experience of course, as did she, and like most of ship-life, she finished her contract a few days later, but we were together those last few nights. So, in retrospect, I did throw away my virginity rather cheapily, but yet I have no regrets about it. I still struggle with the whole Melbourne bar/club picking up thing, but I'm much more comfortable on the ship, which is sorta strange, sorta not. Its a completely different reality, thats for sure.

And Ryan, what does it feel like? Like nothing else! I'd been worried before my first encounter that I wouldn't be able to get it up let alone cum because of masterbating so often. I was worried that I may have been wearing it out and that I wouldn't feel anything. How wrong I was! It didn't take long for me to cum, and in my youthful exuberance, we did it again and again, and then over several nights. And I can't compare to an American Pie since I've never tried it, haha!!

The_Elfman · 24-01-07 12:20:47

Blind_Ryan wrote:

Intelligence and knowledge have no gender...

That's good. That's very good.

Elfman

polarchill · 25-01-07 09:55:04

Blind_Ryan wrote:

For some reason, I can't wait to try oral sex. Everyone I've asked says she'll taste wonderful... whoever she ends up being.

I don't trust anyone who doesn't love the taste of woman. If it was a politician, I wouldn't vote for him.

Blind_Ryan · 25-01-07 09:56:38

What does woman taste like? I've never been able to get a clear answer on that one.

polarchill · 25-01-07 11:23:59

Blind_Ryan wrote:

What does woman taste like? I've never been able to get a clear answer on that one.

That's probably because it doesn't taste like anything else. It is incredibly difficult to describe (and all crude references to "fish" are just asshole bullshit from guys who either aren't into it or, more likely, can't get their partners into it). Much like a man's private areas, it has to be kept clean, or it tastes and smells stronger. In my opinion, though, it is always a scent, never a "smell". It all comes across very pheremonal, very instinctual. It reminds you that men and women are getting together and briefly letting out their animal nature.

All I can say is that, with the possible exception of the inside of a woman's mouth, the vagina is the warmest part of the female body. For that reason, to me it is where I can most feel her life force (and I'm not a particularly spiritual man, so you can see how much this affects me). The folds and creases of the labia contrast with the smoothness of most of a woman's body. The vagina itself is the center of the warmth, and I think also where the taste is strongest (well, there's a lot of fluid going on there, at least when you're messing around).

Oral sex is all about what your partner wants, of course, but based on sheer delight I just love diving in and tasting it all. I like flattening my tongue and running it over the inside of the lips. I go further in and press it against the "wall", so I can feel the heat and sometimes even a hint of a pulsing sensation, before sliding it over (or into, depending on how the girlfriend is reacting and how far we are into it all) the vaginal opening itself. Sometimes I'll turn my head sideways so I can stiffen my tongue and push it deeper inside her (but this is not actually INSIDE her, you understand; not the way a penis is). Usually, though, by then I'm working my way up to her clitoris.

As many here have pointed out, the clitoris is NOT a female penis. This tiny cousin does share certain shape and textural similarities, though (which is why so many macho-minded men never truly satisfy their female partners orally, being too self-conscious about pleasuring something that reminds them of "a little dick"). I love running my tongue over it, teasing the end of it. I feel it begin to harden and protrude (not at all a problem with my current partner), and slide my tongue around the edge of the hood, and even the underside when she's fully aroused. I slide a couple of fingers inside my lover's vagina with one hand, and with my other thumb and forefinger I stroke the side of the clitoris' hood, almost as if I WAS masturbating a small penis (though not all women enjoy this; I just know that this makes my girlfriend feel very good).

My tongue goes where it pleases, traveling back and forth between the clitoris and the vagina. My lover's fluids, shudders, and sounds tell me how (and how quickly) to proceed. It begins with moaning, and with the current partner, often ends with screaming. It all sounds very complicated, but you'll find that with the right person it's all instinct. After all, everything tastes wonderful and makes your partner feel fantastic.

So . . . how does it taste? I still can't quite answer that. I personally love it. Perhaps the coolest thing is that every woman tastes different.

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Blind_Ryan · 25-01-07 15:57:00

Well now I can see why people rave about it. I can't wait to try that... I also have a very well developed nose (due to my blindness I guess) so I should greatly like oral sex.

I think you made one or two people "feel themselves" with that one, Polar... too early in the morning for me, personally

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