Men using Toys

colophonius · 17-02-19 21:52:28

How do you all like "your" men using toys like fleshlights for their pleasure? Does it turn you on or do you like it better "manually"? (If you're into watching at all)

I feel like there's still a lot of stigma around sex toys for people with penises, maybe even more so then for humans with vaginas... Maybe it's just me but I feel like the later have done a better job of claiming their sexuality and liberating themselves in that regard.

... I for one think it's hot if my partner pleasures herself with a toy and I can watch ....

Been considering getting a toy of my own for awhile to practice some stamina but it somehow still feels strange goin out and buying one, so I just wanted to hear some thoughts on that.

ThatIndividual · 18-02-19 06:27:52

I haven’t used mine in long enough that I should probably just toss them (can they be recycled?!). Not exactly your question, but they definitely leave something to be desired...

Mew · 18-02-19 07:42:03

I think it's great for men and people with penises to use toys. I do love to watch hand on cock masturbation but the stigma you mentioned is real! Even more so when it come to anal, I've known so many cis dudes into anal who are too ashamed to buy or own a dildo or butt-plug and it's just so bizarre that people are so judgmental about it - IT'S WHERE THE G-SPOT IS! So sad that so many bi guys have to be "straight" too.

Went on a bit of a tangent there but yes - wang in toy - A OK. It's amazing to see the leaps and bounds in sex toy technology over the last 10 years or so and it's nice to see that penis oriented toys are becoming more available and diverse. Something that might have to do with the the difference in attitude towards vaginal toys could simply be that they're been around foreverrrrrr whereas the things like the fleshlight are relatively new.

I've never personally watched someone use a fleshlight, the only drawback I could imagine is not being able to see the cock - maybe get a clear one! Oh and maybe cleanup lol, you wouldn't want any germies left in there!!

I'm so curious to hear how it goes and other member's and contributors experiences, great topic

Sexual curiosity is so important - it's definitely worth experimenting, you never know what you might find!

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viva · 18-02-19 11:08:50

Ok, when it comes to just watching the imagery of a man masturbating, I'd want to see him do it hands-only because if his cock is in a toy I can't see it! But that said, Id love love to watch him use a fleshlight because of the pleasure he would get from it, and the look on his face, and just watching how he fucks it would be really hot....

and I would LOVE to watch a guy masturbate with an anal toy. especially if he was quite good at it, had had practice.... mmm. yes I would really like to watch that.

smoothed · 19-02-19 07:44:51

when i was younger, i would rub my penis against my bedsheets. It created a bit of a problem when I started having sex, because a vagina doesn't have the same sensation as a bedsheet! So I had to recondition my cock, and with the help of the fine videos of IFM, I've now managed to enjoy both vaginal sex as well as dual-handed masturbation, sans bedsheets.

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_hyperballad_ · 20-02-19 00:35:36

I specifically purchased Magnus a clear Fleshlight when we were at the most amazing sex store I've ever been in, in Vienna. Why you ask? Because I wanted to watch him use it & I wanted to use it on him. That was wayyyyy back in 2011. You can see him use it on GMH if you're a member over there

That particular crystal Fleshlight has been long retired & since replaced. I'm pretty sure he also has an 'Angela White' FL too, but obviously that's not the clear one.

Magnus & I share a mutual interest in me (eventually) pegging him so we've graduated from fingers to a toy which is insanely hot to watch & participate in. I find men enjoying stuff in their ass an absolute delight & it's a huuuuge turn on for me!

We live alone so there is frequently an array of my washed up toys along with his dismantled & washed Fleshlight laid out on a towel air drying on a rack at the top of the landing.

The stigma surrounding men & sex toys is truly bizarre. If you want to experience a different kind of pleasure, go for it! I think as a society we do not allow men the same permission to explore & experiment as we do women. I feel that it's a symptom of restrictive masculinity. It's somehow not manly to be enhancing your own pleasure & we all know the narrow minded BS that gets ignorantly spouted about men who like things in the ass - especially 'straight' men.

I say be the change you want to see in the world & go buy yourself something sexy Colophonius!

That said! There are a lot of shitty toys made from unsafe materials out there - do some research, feel free to hit me up about this also. Obviously FL are a good place to start, Tenga make some good stuff for men but their cheaper stuff isn't environmentally friendly... I could go on. As far as butt toys are concerned, *flared base* is a must - look into body safe silicone, glass & steel. They're all good choices but be aware you can't use silicone lube on silicone toys (silicone lube for butt stuff is recommended).

strangelove · 20-02-19 00:50:26

I bought an electric toothbrush lately - not for my teeth ;-))
Was inspired by female masturbation videos involving el. toothbrushes (are there any on IFM by the way?).
Usually I masturbate with my hands only, but on special occasions I use my new whirring tool now.
You can stimulate the shaft of the penis with the backside of the brush head, which is especially nice on the frenulum.
Or you can grease the handle and tickle your asshole or enjoy light anal penetration.
It does quite help to build up tension and pleasure, but I still have to finish by hand!

@colophonius: it's very easy to buy and doesn't need explanations when found in your bathroom (shouldn't leave it beside your bed though)

viva · 20-02-19 07:29:30

strangelove, that's really hot... I would love to see an IFM video with a hetero couple exploring toys. Hyperb, your relationship is goals. Magnus made his big debut in your last diary... it was truly stunning, and it was all about you, which of course I love! cause you are everything... but I wonder if he would be keen one day to explore the magnus side of your sex life here, someday?

ps. clear FL is genius.

_hyperballad_ · 21-02-19 08:35:34

You would have to ask him Viva, but despite his foray into GMH & his assistance in much of my content he remains incredibly camera shy. It's taken a long time to get to where we ended up in the conclusion of my Video Diary...

viva · 22-02-19 09:34:58

I know, I couldn't believe it when I saw that entry! I felt really proud of him! I know it's a big deal and he's come such a long way. my partner is quite camera shy as well and judging by the few hetero duets we get around here, many dedicated male partners are private about their sex lives... so I definitely wouldn't push but yeah he's just wonderful so anything he wanted to create and share would be so valuable <3

privignus · 05-03-19 18:22:36

People who bring digital cameras into their sexuality are so fascinating, for me sex is a private thing but I am glad that other people like to share! A lot of the troubles people have around sex are things which everyone knows that just ain't so, and because they don't talk enough with other people they think the problem is with them.

The latest ohjoysextoy has an entry about Matthew N's feelings about doll toys https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/our-first-sex-doll/

_hyperballad_ · 06-03-19 05:42:36

I love the oh joy sex toy folks! That's a great comic too I have a real fascination with real dolls & sex robots, it can be hard to find things that aren't deliberately inflammatory or salacious though.

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privignus · 06-03-19 18:47:41

Yeah, these days one of the few ways to make money from a sex site is 'sponsored content' And its easy to get people riled up by the idea that someone, somewhere, is having sex with a doll.

_hyperballad_ · 06-03-19 23:35:57

Or the moral panic about sex doll 'brothels' *rolls eyes extremely hard*

viva · 07-03-19 00:13:18

wow, that was a great comic. I love OJST. I followed the link through to the siliconwives.com website and it's just fascinating... I actually love the thick big ass sex doll and I kind of want her around... like, I feel like I like her the way you like a stuffed animal or a barbie. I want to dress her up and pose her and squeeze her boobs and... oh I see.

I would love to see their stats on most popular features. I wonder if people buy them often with pubic hair.

viva · 07-03-19 00:18:29

Wait, also, her outfit - a hoodie/onepiece.... thats so hot. I want one so bad.

nimbus35 · 23-03-19 21:32:15

One word: Aneros

viva · 24-03-19 23:57:24

Nimbus, yum. I want to get my boyfriend one of those.

Mew · 25-03-19 00:01:16

OMG they're beautiful!

_hyperballad_ · 25-03-19 23:44:52

A very cute guy that I have been having sexting fun times with has a serious toy collection & I cannot wait to go play!

Incidentally has anyone ever tried electro-stim?

AnalAnnie19 · 14-08-19 01:02:28

I love using toys. Sometimes I hold a vibrator on my penis and it makes me come quickly. But mainly I love anal toys. The best thing is that it brings me to orgasm but I don't ejaculate. So 10 minutes later I'm ready to go again...and again... and again.

I've done this all my life and it is a super hot form of solo play for me. Just the sight of a dildo and a bottle lube really gets me in the mood. Watching some beautiful women on IFM, vibrator in my ass... oh heaven!

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